Submissive Discipline - 45 BDSM Punishment Ideas
Punishment is a pretty strong word.
It evokes the dread we felt when we were children and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work and the boss tore us a new one.
It’s also a key tool in BDSM relationships.
The trick is finding a set of punishments that will correct the submissive’s behavior and result in something more positive.
FOR EXAMPLE:
A submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, etc.
If they love corporal punishment, spanking will only reward them.
Instead, make them sit and write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing and then read it out loud. They spend the entire allotted time on the list, rather than having a pleasant experience with their Mistress/Master.
What would be discipline for one person, would be a reward for another.
HERE ARE SOME MORE IDEAS...
RESTRICTIVE OR DENIAL
- Chastity belts
- Orgasm edging
- Early bedtime
- Go without food for a day
- Deny orgasms for X# of days or weeks or months
- Take away the right to publicly speak for themselves for x-hours
- Deny them attention or the right to come over and see you
- If there is more than one slave, make them prepare you to have sex with your other slaves. They get nothing and must watch.
- Take away anything they enjoy or love for x# of days etc.
- If they don’t like collars, make them wear one around the house. If they love their collar, take it away.
However, keep in mind that in some BDSM instances (or for certain couples etc), a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather harsh, so use with discretion.
PRODUCTIVE
- Make them run an errand wearing a long coat with nothing underneath
- Make them run a public errand while wearing ben wa balls
- Do their daily routine around the house with a vibrating butt plug in their ass*
- Make them serve you dinner and wait on you in the nude
- Make them write an essay
Try a long distance, VIBRATING BUTT PLUG to punish from afar
Lovense Bluetooth and long distance butt plug
PAIN OR DISCOMFORT
- Some sort of sensory deprivation, perhaps while performing another punishment
- X# of strikes with whatever implement, they must count each one and thank you or ask for the next one
- Wear clothespins in a sensitive place
- Schedule them a Brazilian wax
- Force a (short) cold shower on them
- Force orgasms with a magic wand*
- Wash mouth out with soap
- Weights on nipples, penis, or testicles
- Wear an uncomfortable ball gag
- Kneel on uncooked rice for 3 minutes and then clean it up
- Do a certain chore while bound or physically restricted in some way
- Hold pennies against a wall (one for each finger) in whatever position you choose
- Soak a glass dildo in cold water and insert. Never use ice, as this kind of punishment because it could cause damage
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HUMILIATION
- Naked exercise
- Announce every time they are horny and why
- Masturbate in front of (willing) guests
- Act like an object or a piece of furniture
- Talk about how and why your sub disappointed you
- Write the infraction on their body with permanent marker
- Make them walk around with cum in their panties or body all day
- If it’s a man, make them dress in female’s clothes for the day
- Eat from a pet dish, or on a plate if they usually eat from an animal bowl
- Record their orgasms and make them their ringtone and message alerts
- Write dirty things on their body, such as “Dirty Slut,” “Cum Dumpster,” or “Cock Whore”
BORING OR MENTAL
- Isolation
- Write lines
- Give them a lecture on why they were bad
- Sit in a corner and think about what they’ve done
- Make them eat something super healthy and bland as hell – like boiled mushy cauliflower.
MY FAVORITE: “Make them learn to code C++ while listening to 'the world’s worst song' on repeat.”
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Do you have any good punishment ideas? Let me know in the comments!
You might also want to check out this article for more punishment ideas:
- 70 Humiliation and Degradation Ideas for Your Submissive
- 12 BDSM Plants - Grow Your Own Pain Garden and Harvest Your Kink
Have a kinky day!
Robyn
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Give ( guys) a hand job wirt toothpaste or icy hot
Oh man that’s evil
My dom does this frequently to me when I disobey- it hurts like hell and brings me back in line.
Jerk a guy with toothpaste and or Icy hot Ben gay or some muscle rub
It wont damage em will it? Just sting yeah?
Very nice idea. Haha love it. Thankyou. Similair to that I see is put muscle rub(burning effect) in a condom and make him wear it. Good ideas for punishment.
I wouldn't use toothpaste. That could actually be damaging. The whole point of toothpaste is that it has hard, tiny bits in it to scrape stuff off of our teeth. Basically, rubbing it on any sensitive skin would result in hundreds of little cuts that would sting like hell until the skin has healed.
Sometimes I have to put on titty clamps, then a stuffed bra. With my hands bound behind I must lean into a corner. This is very painful. 2 minutes of this and your attitude will change.
What if your sub is a little bit of a brat?
You shold insert big dildo also that time and hold it long
Make a but plug from ginger or make it smaller and insert in to penis
awesome!!!!
Stick marshmellow in there butt crack make them get dressed and leave them in for 2 hours
omg i love this. hahahahaha
What does that actually do
They melt! Or at least get super squishy.
C++ isn't punishment enough. Have them code in assembly!
Lmao
Nice, I like it!
I'm new to this so what is C++
u r goood, john!! great idea!^^ But it is so simple...lets think about some..pain.,,,,ou humilliation....
Oh boy.. make them code in batch. Is so so much worst. They'll never disobey you again. But I'd add a butt plug.
JavaScript
I did assembler for years, Iam masochist?
Scratch!
My Dom made me code in Ruby for a punishment. Because the scope wasnt specific enough I made a really hacky solution and a decent solution and I was so tempted to show them the hacky one to be cheeky.
no make them program in INTERCAL or Malbolge. they are both horrible
Butt plug look awesome
It’s a computer programming language
Just a coding language
Hold soup cans out in front of them for 60 seconds. Then to the sides for another 60 seconds. And to wrap up the first round hold them above his or her head for 90 seconds. Dependding on what they have done go a few more rounds of this.
Excuse me. but are you like 9 years old? If you cannot hold soup cans extended for a few hours, you need to do more pushups and pullups.
My sub has to hold a 16 ounce coke in each hand straight out while holding her nose to a coin on the wall. She drops either sher gets a paddle swat and teo min More.
My 4 yr old can hold a milk jug for half a hour so wtf
I bet you cant hold your bare arms fully extended for 30 minutes. I doubt youd make it 15.
Being made to kneel on a spreader bar while cleaning equipment in that position and listening to a recording of a tape by Master saying, "You will not be using the kink because you did ____ against Master's rules. You disappointed Master."
My favourite is for them to crouch on their knees hands tied behind their back with a big saucer of water for them to lap up only using their tongue. Sounds easy.
For a woman: pin clothes pegs or clamps onto vagina and nipples. Place Ben wa balls and a vibrator into her. Put it on max vibration and maker her do a chore. She cannot touch herself or cum.
Would u do public humiliation at the lake to a guy and if so what would u have in mind to do that
I have been ask to dominate someone and I have never done this before . What are some things I can say to humiliate but turn him on ? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
If you've never dommed before, I would suggest starting with something simple. You should also have a conversation beforehand what they are comfortable with or what are their triggers etc. Much of what you can say or do can come from what your sub would like to try (at least until you gain more xp.
Become my domme
If you have never beem a dom the first thing you need to do is be trained as a submissive and then as a dom. You have to know what both positions are like inorder to correctly perform your role.
Hello I know this is a late comment but could you elaborate on "triggers" Thank you
Lol yeah theres a lot of disagreement in the community regarding that. Youre saying do something you dont find arousing or positive for yourself at all.
Hey, liked your comment. In a Switch, but naturally more dominant. However, in UK how do I go about getting trained properly in both. Im a switch.
My punishment for my sub when she talked back to me was to tie her up and make her eat hot peppers. Since my sub is a baby with hot stuff, it was two jalapeños and then times three minutes after bother were consumed. Then she got milk, after she begged for it.
What would be a good punishment for my slave sneaking food after I took away her privilege to eat?
If a sub is sneaking food because they're legitimately hungry or starving (because they're not getting a sane and healthy calorie count) it's not a punishable action. If they're unnecessarily snacking ... I would have their meals (for a time) as bland and boring as possible.
Make that bitch eat till she pukes
Prepare her favorite meal, sit her down in front of it, tie her to the chair so she cant move. Eat, and dont feed her. Just let it get cold in front of her. Then clean up, and throw out the food. Feed her something she hates instead. if it smells bad even better. Sardines, anchovies, etc.
Few ideas are as follows; 1. Take away her treats, her fave foods for such amount of time. 2. Take away her eating rights for set amount of time or for entire day depending on her medical needs etc. 3. Make her eat foods like chilli or something very uncomfy to think about her behavior.
I would make her/him read a Harry potter book from start to finish in one go if she stops even for a second give her/him three lashes with a cane or other tool
does it bother anyone else that denying food privileges is a punishment? That just seems a bit unhealthy IMO. I mean there are so many ways to punish that aren't harmful, and if a dom told me I coulden't eat I'de probably not want to play with that dom
My slave once complained that his food was too dry. I moistened it with my piss. When he neglected to compliment me about how good it now tasted, the next time I moistened it with piss from my neighbors dog. I now frequently do that for him, even though he now tells me how good his food is.
Fuck. I’d love for someone to do that to me. A lot of these things wouldn’t be punishments for me aha.
I need a mistress
Ill bet you have a great time following your neighbors dog around to catch its piss. Id love to watch that, havent had a good laugh in a while.
You should mix your spit in his food and clean your nose also to make his food healthy and spacial
That sounds unsanitary
Can u suggest some more BDSM/ femdom ideas please
I would do that and much much more.
What do you want her to do to you ?
i have mine hold ping pong balls against the wall, one with her nose and one with each of her tits, arms behind her back, for 15 minutes. if one of the ping balls falls, she has to start over again.
Clothes pins on nipples, with one of those balls that randomly sends kut an electric shock in the vagina. For a man, make them drink lots of water and put a clothes pin on their penis. They won't be able to pee and it is torture. You can also easily tease like this, if you do it far enough back,
If guy, get some catheters, insert inflate and clamp the end closed. Water, lots of it. You will bring him around pretty quickly.
It makes orgasms almost impossible. Use these combined wkth other ideas for pure torture. And maybe a painfully hot shower for a few hours. By the end, it will be painfully cold! Yes, I am evil
Does any one have any ideas how to humiliate a guy in public at the lake
Make him tan in a bikini before hand then walk around without his shirt to show of his tan lines.
Make him wear a bikini and snug fitted short jean shorts all day then if he misbehaves tie him to a pole with people around gag him and leave him there for alittle while i want that done to me really bad
Make him wear chastity cage to the lake. While in the water take his shorts and get out. Toss him bikini bottoms to get out after he’s had enough
Talk about his swamp ass and musty scent really loud (as if he just confided in you). That cod work depending on the sub/slave. Hehehhee if anything its make the Dom/me laugh. It would make me piss myself laughing.
I love this humiliation
What are some degrading punishments for a girl sub
Make her go to the beach with a vibrator up her ass with vibrating panties and put sunscreen all over her and make her roll in the San getting San all over her then make her keep her legs wide open as people walk by and don’t let her cum
Put them to the task of something long, tedious and boring---yet easily repetitive. them hold them accountable for doing it 25 times, or a 100. Threaten them with it again (after having already done it at least once) but with extra repetitions.
I need punishments please
Give a dick pic/nude photo to your dom and if you misbehave, he or she can send it to whomever they desire.
I wouldn’ minc about that, it wouldn’t be a punishment:)))
Force Slave to cleaning the kitchen and the toilets with rags! After they finished. Tide them up and give forceed handjob With the same.wet kitchen rag until they cum! Than continue to POT! Will they are gag with a wet rag the used to clean the toilets! Very cruel! If only they know before?
Im horny thinking about that..
one of my favorite methods of being punished is being strung up by my wrist with a spreader bar on my ankles and many large fish hooks stuck through my cock and balls tied to 5lb weights and then whipped HARD from head to foot on both sides with floggers, crops and whips!!! yes, I'm a Masochist...
I am currently in punishment my master each night ties me up to the tree in garden naked for 2 hours then comes out with his wife and she canes me and he whips me and because I am cold the punishment is very painful
I would be more than happy to do that to you and have a great time doing it.
Watch as Master fucks someone else??? That's so cruel!!! Doms! don't do that to your subs... I'd cry inconsolable all heartbroken... (Well... just my opinion...)
Would be my reaction as well. It would be enough to know i displeased Him. Boring punnishments work on me as well. I like most sorts of pain,and i love bondage, relaxes my mind.
Some doms have more than one slave. So its not an issue. Its not like your dom is cheating on you.
Master has done this to me, and it was painful to watch....
watching them having sex with someone else isnt what disturbs me the most but... being told i won't ever be great enough/as great as that other person..... that is way too triggering i would cry myself to death
I agree. My Master has done this to me, and it was hard to watch...
My sub, went a stray, Long story. I plan on doing this to her, and I told her how to make the balance of power correct, this is what has to be done. She teared up and lowered her head in shame. So I will tie her up and fuck the random girl while she watches and listens.
I really want for myself and another woman to please my husband together. I also fantasize about being tied up in the corner and forced to watch but not allowed to cum. Also, to only be allowed to cum by watching them and masterbating myself to the scene. Makes me wet just thinking about it.
A lot of that is pleasure to me. If its online then get them to go into the biggest chat room and tell everybody there to punish them. Then its multiple random punsihments in a row.
My first punishment was to purchase a thick cucumber, chill it and stick it up my pussy for 5 min. It turns out i enjoyed it too much so now Master doesn't use that punsihment on me. But my second punishment was ass to mouth with anal beads. I cried with that one.
My dom usually has really strong punishments, the first one he used on me was denying orgasms, then I made the mistake of trying to jerk off right after. The thing was I had a wet dream and cummed, he then made me take an extremely cold shower and wrote "cum slut" on my stomach.
I fill up two cups until they are really full. Then she has to stand with her legs apart and hald her arms straight out to the side. She has to remain like that while i use a crop on her body. Afterward she recieves an enema with a cup of water for each drop she spills. Then sex while holding it.
Damn that’s great
Wow, makes me horny just imagining that, wish I had someone to perform that on me.
If someone did that to me I’d never disobey again
This is my first time as a Dom and I am uncertain what punishment would work for my sub since he has different sexual preferences and he is prone to punishment but has a major foot and leg fetish.
some of these punishments are really cute.
I would love to give him time-outs during sessions. I enjoy knowing he is craving my attention and have no option but to obey.Then I would make him kneel and beg for punishment after a time while I ignore him.It is entirely upto me if I would punish him.Until then he need to beg,nomatter the time.
I have my pet know I could take away his collar at anytime if he misbehaves.He loves his collar so he always behaves.
Make a mail submissive wear a rubber cock ring while shopping.
makeyoursublickatoiletseat andshowyouprooftoo
Thisallmakemehorny...
I'm a sub and my dom has made me find 50 punishments I'm up to 27 can u please help they can be mean
get pee inside asshole
Drinking pee. Thumbtacks in underwear. Wear same underwear for multiple days. Neutra loaf. Extended butt plugging. Toothpaste on clit or balls. Keeping TV & radio on the Jesus channel. Sleep on the floor. No phone. Non matching shoes in public. Wear a Hillary or Trump shirt. Wedgies. No walking.
Ah.. This one make me horny
Funny story, when I was a kid, someone told me that this would kill you. Aside from neither of us being into pee, my sub knows this story so she wouldnt be able to take it seriously.
All these are great.
Takethemouttopissintheparklikeadob/bitch Ivehadthis.
Youaremakingmehorny
Need a master.Im ftm
All these punishments would make me more horny is that bad? Shoot...shouldnt say that ...
Quiet honestly I know my sub hates writing lines, or paragraphs. She hates when i deny her orgasms, or I make her watch me touch myself and she cant touch me or herself. Those are the main ones I use.
I am going to be honest, c++ fucking sucks. if I had to do this, I would dieeee
yummy
Assign an origami project. Give them a time limit, usually a day or two. If it is not perfect, make them do it again until it is perfect.
Never done bdsm but fantasize about people doing stuff like this to me: Dom steps in gum, walks around in dirty places (around public urinals, places with lots of dust/hair). Make sub get it off with teeth, then chew the gum. Sub lies naked in front of door at bdsm party, guests wipe shoes on sub
The thing with the gum would be potentially dangerous and definitely unhealthy - which breaks the SSSC rules. There's humiliation and there's irresponsibility.
Squeeze some toothpaste into a container, and mix cum in with the toothpaste. Make the sub use this to brush their teeth.
My sub would love that and see it as a reward - definitely not a punishment.
My Sub would definitely love that one. Im making him fill a cup with his cum. Hes already begging to eat it.
Abrasion play scrubbing with a corse, sponge around rectal area slide in a candy thermometer lubricated with tiger balm. Abrasion to the nipples and to the breasts scrub along under them and near nipples.
My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my as and another in my pussy i wasnt allowed to moan or cum
My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my pussy and another in my as wasnt allowed to cum or moan this is still in use today
Something I found to work is having my sub spread her legs as far as she can then the longest thing out if the freezer and putting in her all the way she can now take 14 inches
Most of the time my Master spanks my pussy and then uses a narrow crop to spank my clit while my cunt lips are held open
Problem with my sub is he loves pain to much. So far the only thing that seems to be working is making him write lines. Any ideas?
my slave girl is very disrespectful to me... today I asked her to clean up the bathroom but when I came home from work it was still a complete mess! I spanked her but she kept being disrespectful and only cleaned up the bathroom after I told her several times. Any creative ideas on punishments ?
Make lick the bathroom floor for 10min have her do that daily until she cleans then spank her after
Shove a pair of underwear up her vigana and for force and orgasm on her next place them in her mouth and duck tape it shut for X amount of time
My sub hates it when I have 3some any ideas to make quite complain?
My dom needs ideals to punish me. I have a hard time following his rules he is my first dom.
What would I do if my sub is acting strangely, letting go would be fine I need options
You should never... EVER take away attention from your sub. That is just bullying... you should also never take away their food or anything else vital to survival. Us subs trust our doms to guide and take care of us and that is great ways to break our trust entirely.
my sub loves to pleasure my feet. so when he disobeys he is not allowed to touch them for x amount of time or other times he has to watch me lotion my feet. he just dies having to watch and not touch
Ohhhh those are great ideas but never- NEVER! take something they love away...for me its just cruel because Im acting up a lot when Im in little space and Id cry so much if my dom would take away my stuffie. And if youre in a Dom/Little relationship ask them if theyre fine with spankings!
"Taking something away" as a punishment depends on the dom/sub relationship. What is cruel to one person is behavior correcting to another is non-affecting to someone else. It's all personal. It's all down to communication.
I have a very stubborn alpha male that is only happy as a slave, but isnt exactly eager please like most subs. And suggestions for helping me train him to be more obedient?
I made my slave stick a chili pepper in his dick and make him jack off he hasn’t disobey since
Im searching for punishments my sub would have to do on her lives, (its a ldr), any ideas for me?
weddgie can work for disobeying subs. Get them stretchable pantie and make them wear it. Then ask them to kneel and pull the underwear from the back,keep pulling it and get it near the head and try to tuck it in the head and leave them in that position for 15 min.
Can someone help, my slavegirl isn’t listening to me, and I have tried everything
Get sub to kneel on sandpaper for two to ten minutes with their nose against the wall for small infractions. If bigger infraction use peeled ginger in anus before making them kneel on paper by the wall.
What are some of the more extreme uses Masters and Mistresses like to put there slave/sub through
My little bratty sub likes to spout off, and she does not like things in her ass, so I keep a series of plugs handy and base the size of her plug on the severity of her insolence. If she uses profanity, she knows shes in for the big one(s). She usually ends up in tears.
Hi, I was wondering if anyone could help me please punish a bratty sub for cleaning my room without permission any advice would be grately appreciated
Hi all, I’m completely new to this and there’s limited ideas online (prob looking in the wrong places) I’ve been asked to be a Dom to a guy, however any punishments are filmed . His penis has been locked up for nearly a week now, I have key, ideas please