Submissive Discipline - 45 BDSM Punishment Ideas

Pile of leather whips and collars for BDSM punishment ideas

 

 

Punishment is a pretty strong word.

 

It evokes the dread we felt when we were children and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work and the boss tore us a new one.

 

It’s also a key tool in BDSM relationships.

 

The trick is finding a set of punishments that will correct the submissive’s behavior and result in something more positive.

 

 

FOR EXAMPLE:

 

Black alarm clock, wood backgroundA submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, etc.

 

If they love corporal punishment, spanking will only reward them.

 

Instead, make them sit and write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing and then read it out loud. They spend the entire allotted time on the list, rather than having a pleasant experience with their Mistress/Master.

 

What would be discipline for one person, would be a reward for another. 

 

 

HERE ARE SOME MORE IDEAS...

 

 

RESTRICTIVE OR DENIAL


 

Hands holding a gaming controler while playing games on TV

  • Chastity belts
  • Orgasm edging
  • Early bedtime
  • Go without food for a day
  • Deny orgasms for X# of days or weeks or months
  • Take away the right to publicly speak for themselves for x-hours
  • Deny them attention or the right to come over and see you
  • If there is more than one slave, make them prepare you to have sex with your other slaves. They get nothing and must watch.
  • Take away anything they enjoy or love for x# of days etc.
  • If they don’t like collars, make them wear one around the house. If they love their collar, take it away.

 

However, keep in mind that in some BDSM instances (or for certain couples etc), a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather harsh, so use with discretion.

 

 

PRODUCTIVE


 

  • Make them run an errand wearing a long coat with nothing underneath
  • Make them run a public errand while wearing ben wa balls
  • Do their daily routine around the house with a vibrating butt plug in their ass*
  • Make them serve you dinner and wait on you in the nude
  • Make them write an essay

 

 

Try a long distance, VIBRATING BUTT PLUG to punish from afar

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PAIN OR DISCOMFORT


 

Showerhead squirting water

  • Some sort of sensory deprivation, perhaps while performing another punishment
  • X# of strikes with whatever implement, they must count each one and thank you or ask for the next one

 

  • Wear clothespins in a sensitive place
  • Schedule them a Brazilian wax
  • Force a (short) cold shower on them
  • Force orgasms with a magic wand*
  • Wash mouth out with soap
  • Weights on nipples, penis, or testicles
  • Wear an uncomfortable ball gag
  • Kneel on uncooked rice for 3 minutes and then clean it up      
  • Do a certain chore while bound or physically restricted in some way
  • Hold pennies against a wall (one for each finger) in whatever position you choose
  • Soak a glass dildo in cold water and insert. Never use ice, as this kind of punishment because it could cause damage

 

 

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HUMILIATION


 

Orange chairs around a white table, window view

  • Naked exercise
  • Announce every time they are horny and why
  • Masturbate in front of (willing) guests
  • Act like an object or a piece of furniture
  • Talk about how and why your sub disappointed you
  • Write the infraction on their body with permanent marker
  • Make them walk around with cum in their panties or body all day
  • If it’s a man, make them dress in female’s clothes for the day
  • Eat from a pet dish, or on a plate if they usually eat from an animal bowl
  • Record their orgasms and make them their ringtone and message alerts
  • Write dirty things on their body, such as “Dirty Slut,” “Cum Dumpster,” or “Cock Whore”

 

 

BORING OR MENTAL


 

  • Isolation
  • Write lines
  • Give them a lecture on why they were bad
  • Sit in a corner and think about what they’ve done
  • Make them eat something super healthy and bland as hell – like boiled mushy cauliflower.

 

MY FAVORITE: “Make them learn to code C++ while listening to 'the world’s worst song' on repeat.”

 

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Do you have any good punishment ideas? Let me know in the comments!

 

You might also want to check out this article for more punishment ideas:

 

 

Have a kinky day!

Robyn

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Comments (56)

  1. Eric says:

    Give ( guys) a hand job wirt toothpaste or icy hot

    1. Cabueso to Eric says:

      Oh man that’s evil

    1. Jayson to Eric says:

      My dom does this frequently to me when I disobey- it hurts like hell and brings me back in line.

  2. Erock says:

    Jerk a guy with toothpaste and or Icy hot Ben gay or some muscle rub

    1. Charlie to Erock says:

      It wont damage em will it? Just sting yeah?

    1. Jobless Bobknob to Charlie says:

      I wouldn't use toothpaste. That could actually be damaging. The whole point of toothpaste is that it has hard, tiny bits in it to scrape stuff off of our teeth. Basically, rubbing it on any sensitive skin would result in hundreds of little cuts that would sting like hell until the skin has healed.

  3. Panty boy says:

    Sometimes I have to put on titty clamps, then a stuffed bra. With my hands bound behind I must lean into a corner. This is very painful. 2 minutes of this and your attitude will change.

    1. BrattyBitch to Panty boy says:

      What if your sub is a little bit of a brat?

    1. Princess to Panty boy says:

      You shold insert big dildo also that time and hold it long

  4. Paul says:

    Make a but plug from ginger or make it smaller and insert in to penis

  5. John says:

    Stick marshmellow in there butt crack make them get dressed and leave them in for 2 hours

    1. Kim to John says:

      omg i love this. hahahahaha

    1. Barbs to John says:

      What does that actually do

  6. John says:

    C++ isn't punishment enough. Have them code in assembly!

    1. Dave to John says:

      Lmao

    1. Robyn to John says:

      Nice, I like it!

    1. Shawn to John says:

      I'm new to this so what is C++

    1. Mahri to John says:

      u r goood, john!! great idea!^^ But it is so simple...lets think about some..pain.,,,,ou humilliation....

    1. Annie to John says:

      Oh boy.. make them code in batch. Is so so much worst. They'll never disobey you again. But I'd add a butt plug.

    1. Lando to John says:

      JavaScript

    1. volki720 to John says:

      I did assembler for years, Iam masochist?

    1. Dat boi to John says:

      Scratch!

    1. nullkitty to John says:

      My Dom made me code in Ruby for a punishment. Because the scope wasnt specific enough I made a really hacky solution and a decent solution and I was so tempted to show them the hacky one to be cheeky.

    1. Anon to Dave says:

      no make them program in INTERCAL or Malbolge. they are both horrible

    1. Amrita to Annie says:

      Butt plug look awesome

    1. Daddy Dave to Shawn says:

      It’s a computer programming language

    1. Someguy to Shawn says:

      Just a coding language

  7. Eric says:

    Hold soup cans out in front of them for 60 seconds. Then to the sides for another 60 seconds. And to wrap up the first round hold them above his or her head for 90 seconds. Dependding on what they have done go a few more rounds of this.

    1. Zapper to Eric says:

      Excuse me. but are you like 9 years old? If you cannot hold soup cans extended for a few hours, you need to do more pushups and pullups.

    1. John Gillenwater to Eric says:

      My sub has to hold a 16 ounce coke in each hand straight out while holding her nose to a coin on the wall. She drops either sher gets a paddle swat and teo min More.

    1. Theo to Zapper says:

      My 4 yr old can hold a milk jug for half a hour so wtf

    1. Just the truth to Zapper says:

      I bet you cant hold your bare arms fully extended for 30 minutes. I doubt youd make it 15.

  8. ShyIsALie says:

    Being made to kneel on a spreader bar while cleaning equipment in that position and listening to a recording of a tape by Master saying, "You will not be using the kink because you did ____ against Master's rules. You disappointed Master."

  9. Thedevil says:

    My favourite is for them to crouch on their knees hands tied behind their back with a big saucer of water for them to lap up only using their tongue. Sounds easy.

  10. MistressRed says:

    For a woman: pin clothes pegs or clamps onto vagina and nipples. Place Ben wa balls and a vibrator into her. Put it on max vibration and maker her do a chore. She cannot touch herself or cum.

    1. Public humiliation to MistressRed says:

      Would u do public humiliation at the lake to a guy and if so what would u have in mind to do that

  11. Jade says:

    I have been ask to dominate someone and I have never done this before . What are some things I can say to humiliate but turn him on ? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

    1. Robyn to Jade says:

      If you've never dommed before, I would suggest starting with something simple. You should also have a conversation beforehand what they are comfortable with or what are their triggers etc. Much of what you can say or do can come from what your sub would like to try (at least until you gain more xp.

    1. Gavin to Jade says:

      Become my domme

    1. Subcub429 to Jade says:

      If you have never beem a dom the first thing you need to do is be trained as a submissive and then as a dom. You have to know what both positions are like inorder to correctly perform your role.

    1. JessicaRabbit84 to Robyn says:

      Hello I know this is a late comment but could you elaborate on "triggers" Thank you

    1. Big A to Subcub429 says:

      Lol yeah theres a lot of disagreement in the community regarding that. Youre saying do something you dont find arousing or positive for yourself at all.

  12. Tessa says:

    My punishment for my sub when she talked back to me was to tie her up and make her eat hot peppers. Since my sub is a baby with hot stuff, it was two jalapeños and then times three minutes after bother were consumed. Then she got milk, after she begged for it.

  13. Ambrette's Master says:

    What would be a good punishment for my slave sneaking food after I took away her privilege to eat?

    1. Robyn to Ambrette's Master says:

      If a sub is sneaking food because they're legitimately hungry or starving (because they're not getting a sane and healthy calorie count) it's not a punishable action. If they're unnecessarily snacking ... I would have their meals (for a time) as bland and boring as possible.

    1. Jaye to Ambrette's Master says:

      Make that bitch eat till she pukes

    1. Silas to Ambrette's Master says:

      Prepare her favorite meal, sit her down in front of it, tie her to the chair so she cant move. Eat, and dont feed her. Just let it get cold in front of her. Then clean up, and throw out the food. Feed her something she hates instead. if it smells bad even better. Sardines, anchovies, etc.

    1. curious to Robyn says:

      does it bother anyone else that denying food privileges is a punishment? That just seems a bit unhealthy IMO. I mean there are so many ways to punish that aren't harmful, and if a dom told me I coulden't eat I'de probably not want to play with that dom

  14. Mistesss Riley says:

    My slave once complained that his food was too dry. I moistened it with my piss. When he neglected to compliment me about how good it now tasted, the next time I moistened it with piss from my neighbors dog. I now frequently do that for him, even though he now tells me how good his food is.

    1. Slave Tara to Mistesss Riley says:

      Fuck. I’d love for someone to do that to me. A lot of these things wouldn’t be punishments for me aha.

    1. Slaveboy to Mistesss Riley says:

      I need a mistress

    1. XD to Mistesss Riley says:

      Ill bet you have a great time following your neighbors dog around to catch its piss. Id love to watch that, havent had a good laugh in a while.

    1. Elena to Mistesss Riley says:

      You should mix your spit in his food and clean your nose also to make his food healthy and spacial

    1. KittyBitch to Mistesss Riley says:

      That sounds unsanitary

    1. Master Carl to Slave Tara says:

      I would do that and much much more.

    1. Misxqst to Slaveboy says:

      What do you want her to do to you ?

  15. masuta bahha says:

    i have mine hold ping pong balls against the wall, one with her nose and one with each of her tits, arms behind her back, for 15 minutes. if one of the ping balls falls, she has to start over again.

  16. A sadistic masochist says:

    Clothes pins on nipples, with one of those balls that randomly sends kut an electric shock in the vagina. For a man, make them drink lots of water and put a clothes pin on their penis. They won't be able to pee and it is torture. You can also easily tease like this, if you do it far enough back,

    1. Thebigkahuna to A sadistic masochist says:

      If guy, get some catheters, insert inflate and clamp the end closed. Water, lots of it. You will bring him around pretty quickly.

  17. Sadistic Masochist Continued says:

    It makes orgasms almost impossible. Use these combined wkth other ideas for pure torture. And maybe a painfully hot shower for a few hours. By the end, it will be painfully cold! Yes, I am evil

  18. Love humiliation says:

    Does any one have any ideas how to humiliate a guy in public at the lake

    1. KF to Love humiliation says:

      Make him tan in a bikini before hand then walk around without his shirt to show of his tan lines.

    1. Public humilition to Love humiliation says:

      Make him wear a bikini and snug fitted short jean shorts all day then if he misbehaves tie him to a pole with people around gag him and leave him there for alittle while i want that done to me really bad

    1. Jon to Love humiliation says:

      Make him wear chastity cage to the lake. While in the water take his shorts and get out. Toss him bikini bottoms to get out after he’s had enough

  19. TXXy says:

    What are some degrading punishments for a girl sub

    1. Joy to TXXy says:

      Make her go to the beach with a vibrator up her ass with vibrating panties and put sunscreen all over her and make her roll in the San getting San all over her then make her keep her legs wide open as people walk by and don’t let her cum

  20. Mr. Sadist says:

    Put them to the task of something long, tedious and boring---yet easily repetitive. them hold them accountable for doing it 25 times, or a 100. Threaten them with it again (after having already done it at least once) but with extra repetitions.

  21. male sub says:

    I need punishments please

    1. Smith the Dom to male sub says:

      Give a dick pic/nude photo to your dom and if you misbehave, he or she can send it to whomever they desire.

    1. Ornella to Smith the Dom says:

      I wouldn’ minc about that, it wouldn’t be a punishment:)))

  22. Housekeeper says:

    Force Slave to cleaning the kitchen and the toilets with rags! After they finished. Tide them up and give forceed handjob With the same.wet kitchen rag until they cum! Than continue to POT! Will they are gag with a wet rag the used to clean the toilets! Very cruel! If only they know before?

  23. SUPERSUB says:

    one of my favorite methods of being punished is being strung up by my wrist with a spreader bar on my ankles and many large fish hooks stuck through my cock and balls tied to 5lb weights and then whipped HARD from head to foot on both sides with floggers, crops and whips!!! yes, I'm a Masochist...

    1. tim to SUPERSUB says:

      I am currently in punishment my master each night ties me up to the tree in garden naked for 2 hours then comes out with his wife and she canes me and he whips me and because I am cold the punishment is very painful

    1. Master Carl to SUPERSUB says:

      I would be more than happy to do that to you and have a great time doing it.

  24. Another pet says:

    Watch as Master fucks someone else??? That's so cruel!!! Doms! don't do that to your subs... I'd cry inconsolable all heartbroken... (Well... just my opinion...)

    1. Just me to Another pet says:

      Would be my reaction as well. It would be enough to know i displeased Him. Boring punnishments work on me as well. I like most sorts of pain,and i love bondage, relaxes my mind.

    1. Frisky little masochist to Another pet says:

      Some doms have more than one slave. So its not an issue. Its not like your dom is cheating on you.

    1. Just another slave girl to Another pet says:

      Master has done this to me, and it was painful to watch....

    1. beepboop to Another pet says:

      watching them having sex with someone else isnt what disturbs me the most but... being told i won't ever be great enough/as great as that other person..... that is way too triggering i would cry myself to death

    1. MastersWorstBitch to Another pet says:

      I agree. My Master has done this to me, and it was hard to watch...

    1. Daddy DE to Another pet says:

      My sub, went a stray, Long story. I plan on doing this to her, and I told her how to make the balance of power correct, this is what has to be done. She teared up and lowered her head in shame. So I will tie her up and fuck the random girl while she watches and listens.

  25. Anonymus says:

    A lot of that is pleasure to me. If its online then get them to go into the biggest chat room and tell everybody there to punish them. Then its multiple random punsihments in a row.

  26. Bratty K. says:

    My first punishment was to purchase a thick cucumber, chill it and stick it up my pussy for 5 min. It turns out i enjoyed it too much so now Master doesn't use that punsihment on me. But my second punishment was ass to mouth with anal beads. I cried with that one.

  27. Alexander says:

    My dom usually has really strong punishments, the first one he used on me was denying orgasms, then I made the mistake of trying to jerk off right after. The thing was I had a wet dream and cummed, he then made me take an extremely cold shower and wrote "cum slut" on my stomach.

  28. Brad megenott says:

    I fill up two cups until they are really full. Then she has to stand with her legs apart and hald her arms straight out to the side. She has to remain like that while i use a crop on her body. Afterward she recieves an enema with a cup of water for each drop she spills. Then sex while holding it.

    1. Mistress Sadie to Brad megenott says:

      Damn that’s great

  29. Dom D says:

    This is my first time as a Dom and I am uncertain what punishment would work for my sub since he has different sexual preferences and he is prone to punishment but has a major foot and leg fetish.

  30. venki says:

    some of these punishments are really cute.

  31. MistressE says:

    I would love to give him time-outs during sessions. I enjoy knowing he is craving my attention and have no option but to obey.Then I would make him kneel and beg for punishment after a time while I ignore him.It is entirely upto me if I would punish him.Until then he need to beg,nomatter the time.

  32. MistressE says:

    I have my pet know I could take away his collar at anytime if he misbehaves.He loves his collar so he always behaves.

  33. capricorn75217 says:

    Make a mail submissive wear a rubber cock ring while shopping.

  34. kitten says:

    makeyoursublickatoiletseat andshowyouprooftoo

  35. Sasha says:

    Thisallmakemehorny...

  36. Tyler says:

    I'm a sub and my dom has made me find 50 punishments I'm up to 27 can u please help they can be mean

    1. pinkypany to Tyler says:

      get pee inside asshole

  37. MizzTeriouz says:

    All these are great.

  38. Karen says:

    Takethemouttopissintheparklikeadob/bitch Ivehadthis.

  39. Imaslut says:

    Youaremakingmehorny

  40. Romeo1994 says:

    Need a master.Im ftm

  41. Ash Sub says:

    All these punishments would make me more horny is that bad? Shoot...shouldnt say that ...

  42. TheMistressDaddy says:

    Quiet honestly I know my sub hates writing lines, or paragraphs. She hates when i deny her orgasms, or I make her watch me touch myself and she cant touch me or herself. Those are the main ones I use.

  43. Rosey says:

    I am going to be honest, c++ fucking sucks. if I had to do this, I would dieeee

  44. pee pee poo poo man says:

    yummy

  45. richard says:

    Assign an origami project. Give them a time limit, usually a day or two. If it is not perfect, make them do it again until it is perfect.

  46. I wish I were a sub says:

    Never done bdsm but fantasize about people doing stuff like this to me: Dom steps in gum, walks around in dirty places (around public urinals, places with lots of dust/hair). Make sub get it off with teeth, then chew the gum. Sub lies naked in front of door at bdsm party, guests wipe shoes on sub

    1. Robyn to I wish I were a sub says:

      The thing with the gum would be potentially dangerous and definitely unhealthy - which breaks the SSSC rules. There's humiliation and there's irresponsibility.

  47. Anonymous says:

    Squeeze some toothpaste into a container, and mix cum in with the toothpaste. Make the sub use this to brush their teeth.

    1. Subs like cum to Anonymous says:

      My sub would love that and see it as a reward - definitely not a punishment.

    1. SilverStryder to Subs like cum says:

      My Sub would definitely love that one. Im making him fill a cup with his cum. Hes already begging to eat it.

  48. Sherry says:

    Abrasion play scrubbing with a corse, sponge around rectal area slide in a candy thermometer lubricated with tiger balm. Abrasion to the nipples and to the breasts scrub along under them and near nipples.

  49. Youngsub says:

    My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my as and another in my pussy i wasnt allowed to moan or cum

  50. Level says:

    My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my pussy and another in my as wasnt allowed to cum or moan this is still in use today

  51. Master of one says:

    Something I found to work is having my sub spread her legs as far as she can then the longest thing out if the freezer and putting in her all the way she can now take 14 inches

  52. bethie says:

    Most of the time my Master spanks my pussy and then uses a narrow crop to spank my clit while my cunt lips are held open

  53. SilverSryder says:

    Problem with my sub is he loves pain to much. So far the only thing that seems to be working is making him write lines. Any ideas?

  54. Master7558 says:

    my slave girl is very disrespectful to me... today I asked her to clean up the bathroom but when I came home from work it was still a complete mess! I spanked her but she kept being disrespectful and only cleaned up the bathroom after I told her several times. Any creative ideas on punishments ?

    1. Strict master to Master7558 says:

      Make lick the bathroom floor for 10min have her do that daily until she cleans then spank her after

  55. Master of all says:

    My sub hates it when I have 3some any ideas to make quite complain?

  56. Babygirl says:

    My dom needs ideals to punish me. I have a hard time following his rules he is my first dom.

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