Punishment is a very powerful word. It evokes the dread we felt when we were younger and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work and the boss made us feel about 1-inch tall. That’s also why BDSM punishments are an effective tool in kink play.
In this article, we’re going to look at why they work, when they don’t, how to use them ethically and properly, useful tips, plenty of suggestions, links to similar articles to expand your education, and so much more.
So, if you’re curious about punishing BDSM ideas, in the middle of crafting a BDSM contract, or looking to revive your current list with something more creative, this guide will get you squared away in no time.
Table of Contents
- How do BDSM Punishments Work?
- Choosing the Correct Punishment
- Know and Respect Limits & Rules
- Other BDSM Punishment Tips & Tricks
- Punishments As Part of Role Playing
- BDSM Punishment Ideas – Restrictive or Denial-Based
- BDSM Punishments for Productivity
- Using Pain and Discomfort
- BDSM Humiliation & Degradation Ideas
- Boring or Mental Things to Make Them Crumble
- Pet Play Punishments
- BDSM Punishment Closing Thoughts
- If You Want More Articles Like This…
How do BDSM Punishments Work?
The idea is for the Dom/me to reshape unwanted behavior. It’s no different than other sorts of social conditioning we experience throughout our lives … just probably with more leather and metal. But these activities can also be part of something erotic (like roleplaying). New kinkers should also note that punishments should ALWAYS be consensual and communicated ahead of time.
A BDSM punishment should not only correct the submissive’s behavior but also result in something more positive.
Then there’s the issue of finding one that works specifically for them and their infraction. For example, a submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, meetups, and whatnot.
- If they love corporal punishment, spanking will only reward them. There’s a new word floating around called “funishment“.
- Instead, make them sit and write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing and then read it out loud. They spend the entire allotted time on the list, rather than having a pleasant experience with their Mistress/Master.
Choosing the Correct Punishment
Besides having all of these possibilities being rewards for some and deterrents for others, a Mistress or Master also needs to be fair in balancing both sides. As the saying goes, “Let the punishment fit the crime.”
Think of a sub spilling their Dom/mes morning coffee. 100 strikes with a flogger and ignoring them for 3 months is overboard. It also paints the person in the position of power as inexperienced, a bully, or even abusive. It’s not trust-building, it’s terror tactics. A sub would be well within their power to stand up and walk away.
Instead, spilling the coffee and then making them lick it up off the floor is a far more reasonable (and fitting) punishment.
Know and Respect Limits & Rules
SCC – This abbreviation stands for Safe, Sane, Consensual. Sometimes people add an extra “S” for “sober” to emphasize a point. However, many people lump this idea in with safety and or sanity.
RACK – Risk-Aware Consensual Kink emphasizes that all participants thoroughly understand any risks involved with BDSM activities. While SCC is a simple way to differentiate consensual play versus abuse, RACK is more about the idea that nothing is 100% safe and people need to be prepared.
PRICK – “Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink” takes all the things mentioned above but emphasizes that people need to take responsibility for their play and that the participants understand everything that can or could happen so they can make an INFORMED decision.
LIMITS – You’ll hear this word a lot in the BDSM scene. A limit is something that someone has a level of discomfort with. You can have soft, temporary, or hard limits.
Soft limits mean the person is a bit worried but willing to explore. A hard limit is a firm line, a BIG NO-NO, and a zone that is 100% off-limits to the other person/people. An example of a hard limit could be playing with urine. For others, it could be no name-calling. If a hard limit is broken, the sub should leave play and that person immediately. These can apply to both Dom/mes and subs.
Other BDSM Punishment Tips & Tricks
- The power-holder should NEVER punish while angry.
- There should be lots of communication around what happens (before, during, and after).
- Punishments should never be delivered as a surprise.
- Giving aftercare might be necessary after a punishment.
- If you’re a beginner, start slowly and build gradually over time.
- Keep educating yourself – there’s always something new to learn.
- Mistresses/Masters, etc. can also use safewords – that should be respected.
- It’s better if punishments are not gamified unless they are “funishments”.
- BDSM negotiation does not mean FORCING someone to agree to something.
- It’s okay to experiment and explore. Let it be a fulfilling journey for you and your partner.
Punishments As Part of Role Playing
All of the rules and suggestions mentioned above should be followed if you’re going to be inserting punishments as a part of a roleplay or consensually entertaining activity. Yes, this is different from correcting bad behavior. And that’s okay. As long as everyone has communicated and prepared properly ahead of time, you do you.
If you’re still struggling to see the difference. A Dom/me spanking their sub for being late is a punishment. But a Dom/me spanking a sub for being late because they’re doing a Boss and Personal Assistant role play is different.
Now, without further ado … here’s the master punishment list!
BDSM Punishment Ideas – Restrictive or Denial-Based
- Chastity belts/cages – There are SO many things you can tack on to this punishment (besides just wearing one). You could set a set time to be in the cage or you could add an element of chance with a dice roll or card draw (which adds a burst of dread).
- Orgasm edging – This is really effective if your sub is used to getting loads of pleasure.
- Early bedtime – It’s not just for those who love age play, because being sent to be early means they might be bored, end up stewing about what they did wrong or have their sleep/awake cycle thrown off for a day.
- Deny orgasms for X# of days or weeks or months. This is often a go-to for BDSM punishments.
- Take away the right to publicly speak for x-hours – which is much harder than you think (especially if the sub is used to being able to speak).
- Have them play an erotic video/computer game with a wearable sex toy. But they’re not allowed to orgasm during the synced sex scenes when the toy vibrates!
- Deny them attention or the right to come over and see you. Ignoring can be very painful.
- If there is more than one slave, make them prepare you to have sex with your other slaves. They get nothing and must watch.
- There’s been debate on denying food. But one day’s fast is fine (as long as there are no health complications). Or just skipping a single meal isn’t going to hurt anything. In this particular case, it’s a punishment up to the discretion of the sub and Dom and something that needs to follow the usual safety rules. You can also ask a doctor for advice – better safe than shy.
- Take away anything they enjoy or love for x# of days etc. A basic punishment but always effective.
- If they don’t like collars or a certain piece of clothing/device, make them wear one around the house. Or vice versa.
- Plan a wonderful BDSM date or even a normal event with them, then cancel at the last minute. This is excellent if they are someone who always arrives late.
NOTE: Keep in mind that in some BDSM instances (or for certain couples, etc.), a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather harsh, so be careful.
BDSM Punishments for Productivity
- Make them run a public errand wearing a long coat with nothing underneath or if that’s past their hard limits they can wear something slutty underneath their clothes. It’s a lovely level of awareness while you have someone taking care of your daily to-dos.
- Have them cook and serve you dinner and wait on you in the nude.
- Make them run a public errand or do daily chores while sporting a wearable, remote, or app-controlled sex toy. These are usually things like butt plugs, love eggs, or prostate massagers. App toys where you can control the vibrations how you want are SO much fun!
- Order them to do yard work but in an inconvenient way. They have to pick up debris off the front porch instead of sweeping. Lawns are cut with scissors instead of a mower. Weed plucking can be done with tweezers.
- Make them write an essay on whatever you think will make them improve or stop a bad habit.
- Order them to clean something/somewhere with a toothbrush (or even their tongue) until it’s spotless.
- Have them reorganize a room or even multiple rooms. After, they have them put it back EXACTLY the way it was. Extra BDSM punishments for everything that’s out of order
“I’ve got a mind to turn you over my knee and spank the spoiled hell out of you”
Larissa Ione, Sin Undone
Using Pain and Discomfort
- Try some sort of sensory deprivation, perhaps while performing another punishment. Blindfolds are always handy and easy.
- Deliver X#of strikes with whatever implement (like a riding crop or a flogger). They must count each one and thank you or ask for the next one. Be sure you know which zones are safe to hit.
- Wear clothespins or kink clamps in sensitive places. You can try vibrating nipple clamps if they add extra discomfort.
- Schedule them a Brazilian wax. This BDSM punishment is especially effective if they’ve never had any hair removal with wax before – particularly men.
- Make them take a cold shower. This needs to be of seasonal temperature and time, of course. But it’s a wonderful shock to the system.
- Dump ice cubes down their clothes. They need to be pre-wetted so they don’t harm your sub. It’s advised to allow them to shift the ice around now and then so they don’t end up with ice burns.
- Try Figging on them – where you cut a piece of ginger into a butt plug shape. The leaking oils are quite painful.
- Use botanical punishments like bamboo switches, bunches of witch hazel, or other (safe) plants that can make someone go Ouch! There’s a link at the bottom of this article to an article dedicated to this idea.
- Force orgasms with a magic wand. But it needs to be one of those POWERFUL MONSTERS that sound like a jumbo jet landing next door. Even better is a sex machine if you can afford it. It might sound like a reward, but if there’s a source of pain they won’t be able to enjoy it as much.
Hey, I want POWERFUL, app-controlled sex toys to torture my sub with!
- Wash their mouth out with soap. Older generations can vouch for this. Just don’t let them swallow – that’s for other stuff 😛 This one is effective if they’re mouthy.
- Make them walk on painful things. Hint: Legos!
- Add weights to nipple clamps, penis stretchers, or testicle clamps/cages.
- Wear an uncomfortable ball gag. This is usually one size larger than normal. It shouldn’t be too big (to avoid injury). Besides, one size bigger for a while will be very uncomfortable.
- Kneel on uncooked rice for however long you deem appropriate (and safe).
- Can we say hot sauce?
- Do a certain chore while bound or physically restricted in some way.
- Hold pennies against a wall (one for each finger) in whatever position you choose.
- Soak a glass or metal dildo in cold water and insert it. Never use ice because it could cause damage.
- Zap them with a violet wand.
- Partake in cum consumption – such as in food, licking off someone after sex, or off the floor, etc.
BDSM Humiliation & Degradation Ideas
- Plan some naked exercise. It will be nice for you to watch too.
- Scold them in public for what they did wrong. Do this one carefully with respect to anyone around you. It also only works if they don’t enjoy public humiliation.
- Announce every time they are horny and why. People can be turned on by things they might not want to mention. Or, if it’s from another person, there’s lots of added humiliation to be had.
- Walking around with panties in the mouth for a certain period of time. Extra points if they have fluids on them.
- A not-quite sexual act they are not keen on but they have agreed to in your negotiated contract under “punishments.” For example, being peed on.
- Masturbate in front of (consensual) guests. Remember “public” in BDSM doesn’t actually mean “public!”
- If Pegging is something they don’t enjoy (but it doesn’t harm them), it’s an excellent domination tactic. Learn more about Pegging in this article!
- Act like an object or a piece of furniture. It’s dehumanizing and also a strain on the body. But don’t make them act as a piece of furniture that’s too hard on their body. Meaning, that if you’re a heavy person and the sub is tiny, they shouldn’t be a chair.
- Write the infraction on their body with a permanent marker. It’s a great reminder every time they look in a mirror. And if they can’t hide it under clothing – hee hee.
- Make them walk around with cum in their underwear or on their body all day. But only if it’s something they don’t like.
- Toss water on their crotch to make it look like they wet their pants in public. What they do next is up to you.
- Have them dress in their opposite gender’s clothes for the day.
- Force them to wear something ridiculous while going out.
- Eat from a pet dish, or on a plate if they usually eat from an animal bowl. Remember, if they love pet play, it’s not really counted in the BDSM Punishments department.
- You can also make them eat directly off the floor if you feel they don’t deserve a bowl.
- Record their orgasms and make them their ringtone and message alerts
- Write dirty things on their body, such as “Dirty Slut,” “Cum Dumpster,” or “Cock Whore”
Boring or Mental Things to Make Them Crumble
- Put them in isolation. It can be anything from alone in another room, to putting them in a cupboard. Just make sure it’s within your agreed-upon rules. Some people have legitimate claustrophobia and that’s not something you mess with as a BDSM punishment.
- Make them write lines – it’s boring and repetitive but that’s why it works. They could have been doing something fun instead.
- Force them to watch or listen to something they hate. Like a movie, television show, podcast, band, etc.
- Have you ever read the fine print of a contract? Or the terms and conditions of your apps, etc. Make your sub read them and summarize them for you. They do all the boring work and you get all the useful highlights! I would personally find this a very effective BDSM punishment idea for hyperactive subs.
- Give them a lecture on why they were bad. Very often subs crumble if they feel they’ve disappointed their Dom.
- Make them count coins or grains of rice. Have a laugh and start counting out of order to make them lose count!
- Sit in a corner and think about what they’ve done. Add a dunce cap for added humiliation.
- Make them eat something super healthy and bland as hell – like boiled mushy cauliflower.
- MY FAVORITE: “Make them learn to code C++ while listening to ‘the world’s worst song’ on repeat.” However, I adore the ideas in the comment section because some suggestions were coding in assembly, batch, or machine language.
Pet Play Punishments
- Smack them on their bum with a newspaper
- Squirt a waterbottle at them, like you would a cat
- Leash them to something for a time-out
- Change out their collar to a punishment one (like scratchy wool or burlap)
- Take away something, like their favorite toys or snuggle blanket
- Put them in the “stay” position and make them hold a toy in their mouth for x-minutes
- Limit playtime or take away an outing
- Ignore them when they beg for attention
- Put them in a cone of shame (those medical animal collars)
- Give them a cold bath
- Lock them in their cage
- Slap their “paws”
- Early bedtime
- Ponyplay can use uncomfortable mouthbits
- Horseplay can also use cane strikes
BDSM Punishment Closing Thoughts
Remember, as long as it’s consensual and responsible, what people do in their own bedroom (or sex club, etc.) is their own fun. Some punishments might seem harsh, but it just means that if you were playing you wouldn’t use them. But perhaps another couple or group finds it useful.
Never stop learning and growing. And if you’re a Dom/me who’s made a mistake with your punishment (I’m not talking about ignoring safe words or breaking hard limits – which aren’t “mistakes”) be mature and caring enough to apologize for it, learn from it, and do better afterward. Like if you said 20 spankings but the scheduled punishment timeslot the next day you say 30. You get the idea.
More than anything, don’t look at BDSM punishments with fear or disdain. When used right, they’re trust-building, growth-inducing, and even bonding.
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Do you have any good suggestions for BDSM punishments? Share in the comments!
266 comments
I am a sub my Dom wants another sub to punish me is this right to do. How does a sub react if Dom wants to fck
another sub infront of his sub
Wow! what an amazing post! Thanks for sharing.
I would rather die eaten by ants before learing C++ and listening that song.
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i am submissive slave.
yestrdy i refused to obey my mistress order to drink her piss.
For that he tied me up on floor then site on my face and she poop on my face.
inam helpless dont evn to tilt my face..
she kept me there for 2hr like that
enforced squatting is a great punishment strip him naked and sit on a chair he has to face you and go down into a full squat put your bare feet on his shoulders using him as a footrest.Keep him in position as long as you like if he cant bear the pain cane him until he is ready to squat again.
Fill with two or three enema bags of cold water, insert a plug in the butt, use tape or cloth belts to hold the plug in place. Make the person stand for a time held up with a tie to an overhead structure.
After caning for cussing, which I cannot take much of, panties stuffed in my mouth, and sat bare butt on coffee table. BLEH!
I need to find something to punish myself to prove to my Dom that I am sorry for messing things up with us. I got drunk and let a couple out their hands in my bikini bottoms. Which we are open but only if we communicate ahead of time. Which I did not do.
I’m a sub but my daddy dom wants me to come up with some creative punishments. Please help
1 of many punishments i get standing naked infront of him while he pinches my nipples an i count out loud with sir following every count im not allowed to move if i do he starts all over a the pinch getting worse
Okay so i need to punish my partner for nutting last night ( he wasnt supposed to do that) Im kind of new to the whole dom thing so I dont know what type of punishment i can administer without being too overly dom (since im naturally a sub). Any suggestions?
make him/her memorize the locations and names of all 186 countries
Make sub stand on tip toes with a cactus under balks
Hello Robyn. Thank you for providing such an inventive list. If a slave were to commit a transgression where a cold shower would be called for, consider placing him outdoors in the snow. (Only if such Punishment does not place his health in danger, of course).
My sub has forgotten vine of his tasks today and I told him to think very hard about what he has forgotten. We are strictly online as he lives in the UK and I am in the states. I have serval ideas for punishment, but I dont know which one to go with.. .
So, my sub is a huge brat. How can I punish her when she misbehaves? Anal/buttplugs are a no-no, as is anything public. Im a new dom, and all I have is 15ft/4.7m of smooth and soft rope. Any ideas?
Hi guys, yesterday i was very rude to my mistress, she told me to put this on my website. What kind of punishments do i need for being rude? Whatever u say i will do.
5 spring loaded clothespins on each of your balls. Set a timer for two minutes. When the timer goes off do 20 jumping jacks, and 10 squats. If any come off put them back immediately and start over. When you have completed the task remove them and NO touching your balls for one hour after removed.
People, please dont play on airports! They monitor the whole airport with cameras, if you go in a toilet before the security and you go again in a toilet after the security check than you behavior is suspected and they can take you out of line before boarding. The security on airports is strict.
My sub refused to wear his collar out today can anyone give me some punishment suggestions
no. your sub has a right to keep the relationship private
I get punished by standing in ice cold shower with large butt plug in then after show I get several paddles to my ass & pussy Always in tears but I definitely learned my lesson
Ummm… does anyone have any punishment suggestions for a softer submissive? Daddy gives me spankings (pussy and ass) and will slap me in the face if I talk back, but I very much enjoy those haha. I love anal plugs, but nipple clamping is eh. Any creative clamping ideas?
If it’s clampinv you’re asking about specifically then You could try clothes pegs…all over the body. Torso and Inner thighs is a fairly light one, nipples would be good as you know you enjoy that, pussy maybe something new, and tongue would be good for when you’re talking back.
I got smart mouthed with my wife she took me to the store and made me buy adult diapers, Now I am in diapers 24/7 she threw away my underwear. I am not allowed to poop in them only pee to cut down on the expense I have to use them until they leak regardless of being in public or not.
i completely love this! I wish my dom would do this to me!
I’m new to this, I’m a submissive for sure, I’m fantasised oftenly
I love spanking degrading and humiliation, scared to actually do but I want fucked after what’s a good punishment
I have last week hard and long bare buttockscspanking and early bedtime punishments for a week 7 days
18 clock
Situational bondage.clamp nipples,secure above her head with the amount of pull on her nipples easily adjustable. Clamp pussy lips and secure to the floor in the same manner. Adjust the tensions so that she must stoop or stand for relief from either pull, always leaving one or the other in peril.
Have sub hold a coin against the wall with nose. Have them stand on balls of feet with a non pointy pencil under each heel. Hands to be secured behind back. Decide a time limit and if the coin falls restart the time limit.
My Mistress is that Keeps nude in a cock cage at all times. Often I may not look her in the eyes.
She has me shaved everywhere except my head and a small patch of public hair.
We achieved our goal of 10 orgasms for Mistress to my one. This years goal is that I may only cum once a month.
I was an online sub for a long time and for my first ever punnishment i had to clamp my nipples and clit and had to pour hot candle wax over myself, i had to do that for over an hour while i had to film everything and send it to my master so he could show his friends. I loved every second of it
My Mistress has requested I ask for people to suggest training methods, rewards, and punishments for myself. Please post any and all suggestions you may have. Thanks!
Play a very fastbeat song like Paradise City while you viciously whip her pussy to the beat of the song, making her keep her legs up and open to you and silently keeping count of the strokes. At the end of the song, ask her how many strokes. Tell her she is wrong and start over. Repeat as desired.
I have a dom, but he is to easy on me. Any ideas on how I can get him to actually do the punishments he says?
Talk to him about it, Communication is key in a Dom/Sub relationship.
Make your sub hold a penny or a small object of your choice up against the wall with they nose while they tip toe and hands behind they back , ur welcome
need advice, as a dominant female with a sub male, i like keeping him milked but he does this withdrawal after and isnt horny for me for days after. what can i do to punish him for this so that he is more attentive to me?
As a beginning sub, I can make a couple of suggestions. 1) Take away his male underwear and have him wear panties daily. It will certainly keep him thinking about you. 2) Regardless of whether he chooses to withdrawl or not, insist that he go down on at least once daily.
This requires the Dom to count out the number of grains of rice but it is well worth it.
Have them kneel on rice for the 2 min. Tell them they have 2 minutes to pick up all 100 grains of rice or you will repeat the punishment.The catch is you only start with 99. To end, slip in the missing rice.
My Dom fixed a pair of nipple clamps with small buckets to my nipples. He then filled the buckets with wine and had me serve people at a party. Painful and humiliating at the same time.
If you catch them wearing revealing clothing, write embarrassing things on the area that isnt covered up. Next time theyll cover it up
Hi all,
I’m completely new to this and there’s limited ideas online (prob looking in the wrong places)
I’ve been asked to be a Dom to a guy, however any punishments are filmed . His penis has been locked up for nearly a week now, I have key, ideas please
Hi, I was wondering if anyone could help me please punish a bratty sub for cleaning my room without permission any advice would be grately appreciated
My little bratty sub likes to spout off, and she does not like things in her ass, so I keep a series of plugs handy and base the size of her plug on the severity of her insolence. If she uses profanity, she knows shes in for the big one(s). She usually ends up in tears.
What are some of the more extreme uses Masters and Mistresses like to put there slave/sub through
Get sub to kneel on sandpaper for two to ten minutes with their nose against the wall for small infractions. If bigger infraction use peeled ginger in anus before making them kneel on paper by the wall.
Can someone help, my slavegirl isn’t listening to me, and I have tried everything
Shock collar.
Make sure to try it on yourself first to get the idea of the feel and intensity.
She might be a brat. A shock collar could actually destroy her trust in You – look into brat submission and think play rather than punish. It might actually challenge her and make her interested in obeying.
weddgie can work for disobeying subs. Get them stretchable pantie and make them wear it. Then ask them to kneel and pull the underwear from the back,keep pulling it and get it near the head and try to tuck it in the head and leave them in that position for 15 min.
Im searching for punishments my sub would have to do on her lives, (its a ldr), any ideas for me?
I made my slave stick a chili pepper in his dick and make him jack off he hasn’t disobey since
I have a very stubborn alpha male that is only happy as a slave, but isnt exactly eager please like most subs. And suggestions for helping me train him to be more obedient?
Ohhhh those are great ideas but never- NEVER! take something they love away…for me its just cruel because Im acting up a lot when Im in little space and Id cry so much if my dom would take away my stuffie. And if youre in a Dom/Little relationship ask them if theyre fine with spankings!
“Taking something away” as a punishment depends on the dom/sub relationship. What is cruel to one person is behavior correcting to another is non-affecting to someone else. It’s all personal. It’s all down to communication.
my sub loves to pleasure my feet. so when he disobeys he is not allowed to touch them for x amount of time or other times he has to watch me lotion my feet. he just dies having to watch and not touch
You should never… EVER take away attention from your sub. That is just bullying… you should also never take away their food or anything else vital to survival.
Us subs trust our doms to guide and take care of us and that is great ways to break our trust entirely.
My Dom took food away once.. But it was justified. Im overweight, and He had a rule that I wasnt to each junk food like chips, sweets, soda, etc.. One day I was eating chips before lunch and it upset him, so he took away food for the rest of the day. Master cares about my health, this worked.
Millions of people have food restrictions. Millions fast for several days- 21 day water fasts- 40 day fasts- maybe modified to liquids. I am accountable for weight loss. My doctor recommends a weekly 24 hour water fast. Its not unhealthy to restrict food.
What would I do if my sub is acting strangely, letting go would be fine I need options
My dom needs ideals to punish me. I have a hard time following his rules he is my first dom.
My sub hates it when I have 3some any ideas to make quite complain?
my slave girl is very disrespectful to me… today I asked her to clean up the bathroom but when I came home from work it was still a complete mess! I spanked her but she kept being disrespectful and only cleaned up the bathroom after I told her several times. Any creative ideas on punishments ?
Make lick the bathroom floor for 10min have her do that daily until she cleans then spank her after
Shove a pair of underwear up her vigana and for force and orgasm on her next place them in her mouth and duck tape it shut for X amount of time
Make her eat a meal off of the bathroom floor. If she complains, tell her that it wouldnt be an issue if the room was cleaned.
I Sat mine on the floor, bound (uncomfortably) to the radiator Wearing a ballgag & blindfold. Whilst I showered & so on (making sure I made even more mess)
I then fixed a wand on her clit, turned the lights off and left her to squirm.
When I came back, she cleaned.
Punished and satisfied.
Problem with my sub is he loves pain to much. So far the only thing that seems to be working is making him write lines. Any ideas?
make him beg you to spank him if he wants it enough hell beg as much as you want him too. Or take a picture of him and threaten to send it to his friends if he doesnt stand in the corner for half an hourh
(still) explore pain further as that’s presumably what you both enjoy. Push further, or in new ways. Taking another angle (as you have) is good too. I use chores alot, like cleaning and so on. Alternatively if your not wanting to use pain, use pleasure…edge him but don’t allow him to cum.
Most of the time my Master spanks my pussy and then uses a narrow crop to spank my clit while my cunt lips are held open
Is it a problem that I want my master to do that to me so bad
Something I found to work is having my sub spread her legs as far as she can then the longest thing out if the freezer and putting in her all the way she can now take 14 inches
My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my pussy and another in my as wasnt allowed to cum or moan this is still in use today
My frist punishment was clothes pins on my nipples and vibrator one in my as and another in my pussy i wasnt allowed to moan or cum
Abrasion play scrubbing with a corse, sponge around rectal area slide in a candy thermometer lubricated with tiger balm. Abrasion to the nipples and to the breasts scrub along under them and near nipples.
Squeeze some toothpaste into a container, and mix cum in with the toothpaste. Make the sub use this to brush their teeth.
My sub would love that and see it as a reward – definitely not a punishment.
My Sub would definitely love that one. Im making him fill a cup with his cum. Hes already begging to eat it.
Never done bdsm but fantasize about people doing stuff like this to me:
Dom steps in gum, walks around in dirty places (around public urinals, places with lots of dust/hair). Make sub get it off with teeth, then chew the gum.
Sub lies naked in front of door at bdsm party, guests wipe shoes on sub
The thing with the gum would be potentially dangerous and definitely unhealthy – which breaks the SSSC rules. There’s humiliation and there’s irresponsibility.
Assign an origami project. Give them a time limit, usually a day or two. If it is not perfect, make them do it again until it is perfect.
yummy
I am going to be honest, c++ fucking sucks. if I had to do this, I would dieeee
Im a true masochist because I actually enjoy coding in C++
Quiet honestly I know my sub hates writing lines, or paragraphs. She hates when i deny her orgasms, or I make her watch me touch myself and she cant touch me or herself. Those are the main ones I use.
All these punishments would make me more horny is that bad? Shoot…shouldnt say that …
Need a master.Im ftm
Youaremakingmehorny
Takethemouttopissintheparklikeadob/bitch
Ivehadthis.
All these are great.
I’m a sub and my dom has made me find 50 punishments I’m up to 27 can u please help they can be mean
get pee inside asshole
Ah.. This one make me horny
Funny story, when I was a kid, someone told me that this would kill you. Aside from neither of us being into pee, my sub knows this story so she wouldnt be able to take it seriously.
Drinking pee. Thumbtacks in underwear. Wear same underwear for multiple days. Neutra loaf. Extended butt plugging. Toothpaste on clit or balls. Keeping TV & radio on the Jesus channel. Sleep on the floor. No phone. Non matching shoes in public. Wear a Hillary or Trump shirt. Wedgies. No walking.
Thisallmakemehorny…
makeyoursublickatoiletseat
andshowyouprooftoo
Make a mail submissive wear a rubber cock ring while shopping.
I have my pet know I could take away his collar at anytime if he misbehaves.He loves his collar so he always behaves.
I would love to give him time-outs during sessions. I enjoy knowing he is craving my attention and have no option but to obey.Then I would make him kneel and beg for punishment after a time while I ignore him.It is entirely upto me if I would punish him.Until then he need to beg,nomatter the time.
some of these punishments are really cute.
This is my first time as a Dom and I am uncertain what punishment would work for my sub since he has different sexual preferences and he is prone to punishment but has a major foot and leg fetish.
I fill up two cups until they are really full. Then she has to stand with her legs apart and hald her arms straight out to the side. She has to remain like that while i use a crop on her body. Afterward she recieves an enema with a cup of water for each drop she spills. Then sex while holding it.
Damn that’s great
Wow, makes me horny just imagining that, wish I had someone to perform that on me.
Me too sounds fantastic
If someone did that to me I’d never disobey again
That sounds like a really effective punishment.. At leadt it would be for me
My dom usually has really strong punishments, the first one he used on me was denying orgasms, then I made the mistake of trying to jerk off right after. The thing was I had a wet dream and cummed, he then made me take an extremely cold shower and wrote “cum slut” on my stomach.
My first punishment was to purchase a thick cucumber, chill it and stick it up my pussy for 5 min. It turns out i enjoyed it too much so now Master doesn’t use that punsihment on me.
But my second punishment was ass to mouth with anal beads. I cried with that one.
What exactly did that entail??
Ass to mouth all the way. My don gives it to me as punishment also anal without lube
A lot of that is pleasure to me. If its online then get them to go into the biggest chat room and tell everybody there to punish them. Then its multiple random punsihments in a row.
Watch as Master fucks someone else???
That’s so cruel!!!
Doms! don’t do that to your subs… I’d cry inconsolable all heartbroken…
(Well… just my opinion…)
Would be my reaction as well.
It would be enough to know i displeased Him. Boring punnishments work on me as well. I like most sorts of pain,and i love bondage, relaxes my mind.
Some doms have more than one slave. So its not an issue. Its not like your dom is cheating on you.
Master has done this to me, and it was painful to watch….
watching them having sex with someone else isnt what disturbs me the most but… being told i won’t ever be great enough/as great as that other person….. that is way too triggering i would cry myself to death
I agree. My Master has done this to me, and it was hard to watch…
My sub, went a stray, Long story. I plan on doing this to her, and I told her how to make the balance of power correct, this is what has to be done. She teared up and lowered her head in shame. So I will tie her up and fuck the random girl while she watches and listens.
I really want for myself and another woman to please my husband together. I also fantasize about being tied up in the corner and forced to watch but not allowed to cum. Also, to only be allowed to cum by watching them and masterbating myself to the scene. Makes me wet just thinking about it.
My Domme did this to me. It was so hot. I to strip and suck him till he was hard & clean both orally after. I had precum dribbling from boi clit as she told me to watch how a real man did it. Not like the pathetic cock sucking cum slut that I am & how I wished that he was pounding my mangina.
one of my favorite methods of being punished is being strung up by my wrist with a spreader bar on my ankles and many large fish hooks stuck through my cock and balls tied to 5lb weights and then whipped HARD from head to foot on both sides with floggers, crops and whips!!! yes, I’m a Masochist…
I am currently in punishment my master each night ties me up to the tree in garden naked for 2 hours then comes out with his wife and she canes me and he whips me and because I am cold the punishment is very painful
I would be more than happy to do that to you and have a great time doing it.
Force Slave to cleaning the kitchen and the toilets with rags!
After they finished.
Tide them up and give forceed handjob With the same.wet kitchen rag until they cum! Than continue to POT! Will they are gag with a wet rag the used to clean the toilets! Very cruel! If only they know before?
Im horny thinking about that..
I need punishments please
Give a dick pic/nude photo to your dom and if you misbehave, he or she can send it to whomever they desire.
I wouldn’ minc about that, it wouldn’t be a punishment:)))
Put them to the task of something long, tedious and boring—yet easily repetitive. them hold them accountable for doing it 25 times, or a 100.
Threaten them with it again (after having already done it at least once) but with extra repetitions.
What’s an example
What are some degrading punishments for a girl sub
Make her go to the beach with a vibrator up her ass with vibrating panties and put sunscreen all over her and make her roll in the San getting San all over her then make her keep her legs wide open as people walk by and don’t let her cum
Rub your penis in between her lady lips never entering until you cum into her panties and make her wear them in public. Or do the same but with her tits and bra. She will smell like your cum. If any gets in her hair or on her she isn’t allowed to clean it off.
Does any one have any ideas how to humiliate a guy in public at the lake
Make him tan in a bikini before hand then walk around without his shirt to show of his tan lines.
I love this humiliation
Guy: Make him scream about how tiny his dick is -WARNING: You must make sure your sub will not feel bad about himself after this. So if he does have a tiny dick don’t use this one, it works better if he has a Big Dick he’s proud of, and you put him in a pair of panties.
Make him wear a bikini and snug fitted short jean shorts all day then if he misbehaves tie him to a pole with people around gag him and leave him there for alittle while i want that done to me really bad
Make him wear chastity cage to the lake. While in the water take his shorts and get out. Toss him bikini bottoms to get out after he’s had enough
Talk about his swamp ass and musty scent really loud (as if he just confided in you).
That cod work depending on the sub/slave.
Hehehhee if anything its make the Dom/me laugh. It would make me piss myself laughing.
Make him ware a diaper only!
It makes orgasms almost impossible. Use these combined wkth other ideas for pure torture. And maybe a painfully hot shower for a few hours. By the end, it will be painfully cold! Yes, I am evil
No. They would end up with burns AND pneumonia
My god that sounds fantastic
Clothes pins on nipples, with one of those balls that randomly sends kut an electric shock in the vagina. For a man, make them drink lots of water and put a clothes pin on their penis. They won’t be able to pee and it is torture. You can also easily tease like this, if you do it far enough back,
If guy, get some catheters, insert inflate and clamp the end closed. Water, lots of it. You will bring him around pretty quickly.
i have mine hold ping pong balls against the wall, one with her nose and one with each of her tits, arms behind her back, for 15 minutes. if one of the ping balls falls, she has to start over again.
My slave once complained that his food was too dry. I moistened it with my piss.
When he neglected to compliment me about how good it now tasted, the next time I moistened it with piss from my neighbors dog. I now frequently do that for him, even though he now tells me how good his food is.
Fuck. I’d love for someone to do that to me.
A lot of these things wouldn’t be punishments for me aha.
I would do that and much much more.
I need a mistress
What do you want her to do to you ?
Ill bet you have a great time following your neighbors dog around to catch its piss. Id love to watch that, havent had a good laugh in a while.
You should mix your spit in his food and clean your nose also to make his food healthy and spacial
That sounds unsanitary
Can u suggest some more BDSM/ femdom ideas please
Wow, I love it! He doesn’t taste it!?
You inspire me
Mean yet hot
What would be a good punishment for my slave sneaking food after I took away her privilege to eat?
If a sub is sneaking food because they’re legitimately hungry or starving (because they’re not getting a sane and healthy calorie count) it’s not a punishable action. If they’re unnecessarily snacking … I would have their meals (for a time) as bland and boring as possible.
does it bother anyone else that denying food privileges is a punishment? That just seems a bit unhealthy IMO. I mean there are so many ways to punish that aren’t harmful, and if a dom told me I coulden’t eat I’de probably not want to play with that dom
Fasting is actually healthy for you (unless a medical condition prevents it). Ive done 5 day water fasts just for health improvement. Making your slave go 24hrs is more mental punishment than anything else.
Yeah I know it contradicts itself cause in contract your supposed to lok after her wellbeing and make sure she eats ect
Glad Im not the only one bothered by it… not eating for a whole day is very unhealthy and could cause the sub to faint or lose consciousness.
In my opinion as long as its consentual its fine, like for me for example being really into controlling doms and sadists Im really into being denied food
I completely agree. Food is a necessity, not something to be used as punishment
Okay, but you dont know what others lives are like soooo…the only reason it would be bad is if the sub didnt agree to that type of punishment in the first place.
Dude I was thinking the same thing and it feels very toxic personallj
Make that bitch eat till she pukes
Prepare her favorite meal, sit her down in front of it, tie her to the chair so she cant move.
Eat, and dont feed her. Just let it get cold in front of her. Then clean up, and throw out the food. Feed her something she hates instead. if it smells bad even better. Sardines, anchovies, etc.
Few ideas are as follows;
1. Take away her treats, her fave foods for such amount of time.
2. Take away her eating rights for set amount of time or for entire day depending on her medical needs etc.
3. Make her eat foods like chilli or something very uncomfy to think about her behavior.
I would make her/him read a Harry potter book from start to finish in one go if she stops even for a second give her/him three lashes with a cane or other tool
That would be no punishment for me. Any book for that point, it is hard for me to stop reading when i start a book.
how about letting you read a book and then spoiling the second half by telling you what happens but not how it ends and then forbidding you to finish reading it.
make her strip naked and then bend her over and shove grapes and other fruit up
her asshole then make her suck your asshole for as long as you like without releasing the fruit up her ass.
My punishment for my sub when she talked back to me was to tie her up and make her eat hot peppers. Since my sub is a baby with hot stuff, it was two jalapeños and then times three minutes after bother were consumed. Then she got milk, after she begged for it.
I have been ask to dominate someone and I have never done this before . What are some things I can say to humiliate but turn him on ? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
If you’ve never dommed before, I would suggest starting with something simple. You should also have a conversation beforehand what they are comfortable with or what are their triggers etc. Much of what you can say or do can come from what your sub would like to try (at least until you gain more xp.
Hello I know this is a late comment but could you elaborate on “triggers”
Thank you
Sure, no problem 🙂 Triggers are something that automatically makes a person presently react to a past situation (usually a negative way). Example: past emotional abuse would make someone extra sensitive to name calling now – even if it’s only intended as role play.
Or, if someone has fear of closed spaces, you never put them in a closed space as a punishment. Any emotional or physical triggers need to be discussed before any BDSM play and treated with compassion, care, and respect. You never want to re-traumatize someone. It breaks the SSC rule.
Become my domme
If you have never beem a dom the first thing you need to do is be trained as a submissive and then as a dom. You have to know what both positions are like inorder to correctly perform your role.
Lol yeah theres a lot of disagreement in the community regarding that. Youre saying do something you dont find arousing or positive for yourself at all.
Lol No, hes saying you will never be the best Dominant you can be if you never submit and this is demonstrably true–debate all you like. Being a selfish user might be arousing to you and positive, but its no way to be a good Dom. You literally have no idea what submission is until youve done it.
Hey, liked your comment.
In a Switch, but naturally more dominant. However, in UK how do I go about getting trained properly in both. Im a switch.
That’s ridiculous. If someone is a top they do not need to be forced into a bottom’s position first. While some people may be switches there are plenty that are tops or bottoms, but not both. To serve your bottoms you don’t have to be a servant.
I have to agree I’m a Domme would never have trained as a submissive it’s not who I am !,
I don’t think that’s true, I’ve never been a sub, but I’m a great Domme.
This is an interesting response. As much as I agree that it could be very benificual, it wouldn’t suit everyone. People have natural roles for a reason and don’t always enjoy straying from them. If they did they’d be a switch.
The answer to 99% of questions on here is; communication! (&”Respect”)
For a woman: pin clothes pegs or clamps onto vagina and nipples. Place Ben wa balls and a vibrator into her. Put it on max vibration and maker her do a chore. She cannot touch herself or cum.
Would u do public humiliation at the lake to a guy and if so what would u have in mind to do that
Have him wear a womens bikini bottom. More humiliation add the top. Minimal sunscreen that day. The tans lines will be nice. He does all the food preparation and brings beverages to you. Have him read Better Homes an Gardens or Cosmo.
My favourite is for them to crouch on their knees hands tied behind their back with a big saucer of water for them to lap up only using their tongue. Sounds easy.
I’m new to this, I’m a submissive for sure, I’ve not went further then a few things, I love tasks that are hard I need degrading and humiliation, love bondages, scared to actually do but I’m tied down and I’m at my doms mercy, I want fucked while punished, what’s a good punishment
Anything that is contrdicting can have a form of punishment, the level of intensity will vary based on what you have both agreed on. I love a mouth ring and 2 dildos to fill all 3 holes of my submissive while degrading her
Being made to kneel on a spreader bar while cleaning equipment in that position and listening to a recording of a tape by Master saying, “You will not be using the kink because you did ____ against Master’s rules. You disappointed Master.”
I actually like this one, Im a sub myself, but I can see this being very effective.
Hold soup cans out in front of them for 60 seconds. Then to the sides for another 60 seconds. And to wrap up the first round hold them above his or her head for 90 seconds. Dependding on what they have done go a few more rounds of this.
Excuse me. but are you like 9 years old? If you cannot hold soup cans extended for a few hours, you need to do more pushups and pullups.
My 4 yr old can hold a milk jug for half a hour so wtf
I bet you cant hold your bare arms fully extended for 30 minutes. I doubt youd make it 15.
Holding hands empty straight ahead for 5 minutes is brutal, I couldn’t even imagine 15(never met anyone who could do that but maybe some CrossFit or body building legends out there)
In the military we call this pen PT, everyone brings a pen, and has to hold it out front, then to the sides, then on top.
After 10-15 minutes even the toughest are hurting. It makes you feel small and weak
I doubt zapper can do a push-up and is taking it out their frustration here.
I used to have to hold my hands out as a kid with cans in both hands, that shit sucks and you feel it after about 10 seconds
My sub has to hold a 16 ounce coke in each hand straight out while holding her nose to a coin on the wall. She drops either sher gets a paddle swat and teo min More.
C++ isn’t punishment enough. Have them code in assembly!
Lmao
no make them program in INTERCAL or Malbolge. they are both horrible
Nice, I like it!
I’m new to this so what is C++
It’s a computer programming language
Just a coding language
Lol its a programming language. Hard and boring as fuck. Non-BDSM related (or at least wasnt until now kkkkkkk)
u r goood, john!! great idea!^^
But it is so simple…lets think about some..pain.,,,,ou humilliation….
Oh boy.. make them code in batch. Is so so much worst. They’ll never disobey you again. But I’d add a butt plug.
Butt plug look awesome
JavaScript
I did assembler for years, Iam masochist?
Scratch!
My Dom made me code in Ruby for a punishment. Because the scope wasnt specific enough I made a really hacky solution and a decent solution and I was so tempted to show them the hacky one to be cheeky.
Assembly isnt punishment enough. Have them code in machine language (all 1s and 0s!)
Stick marshmellow in there butt crack make them get dressed and leave them in for 2 hours
omg i love this. hahahahaha
What does that actually do
They melt! Or at least get super squishy.
ew god im squirming thinking about that
and then make them eat it on a smore 🙂
Lmao.Good one
Make a but plug from ginger or make it smaller and insert in to penis
awesome!!!!
No urethra insertions, theyre very bad for men, and lead to UTIs
Thin strip of hottest chili pepper inserted into the peehole while he is restrained and you are sitting on his face. Wear gloves to protect your hands 🙂
Sometimes I have to put on titty clamps, then a stuffed bra. With my hands bound behind I must lean into a corner. This is very painful. 2 minutes of this and your attitude will change.
What if your sub is a little bit of a brat?
You shold insert big dildo also that time and hold it long
Jerk a guy with toothpaste and or Icy hot Ben gay or some muscle rub
It wont damage em will it? Just sting yeah?
I wouldn’t use toothpaste. That could actually be damaging. The whole point of toothpaste is that it has hard, tiny bits in it to scrape stuff off of our teeth. Basically, rubbing it on any sensitive skin would result in hundreds of little cuts that would sting like hell until the skin has healed.
O that explains a lot of why it hurts
Toothpaste is fine I have had it put under my foreskin and I have had a metal rod inserted into my Dick covered in toothpaste it does sting but it does not cut you
Very nice idea. Haha love it. Thankyou. Similair to that I see is put muscle rub(burning effect) in a condom and make him wear it. Good ideas for punishment.
Better rub chillies onto the penis
I tried this once. Horrendous
Had that, it hurts
Had that, it hurts
Give ( guys) a hand job wirt toothpaste or icy hot
Oh man that’s evil
It may sound evil but, theyll. Learn theyre lesson….
It May sound evil I guarantee that theyll learn theyre lesson….
When,my slaves disobey me I make them stand in the corner for 30mins head down no movement Whatsoever….
My dom does this frequently to me when I disobey- it hurts like hell and brings me back in line.
god i could never do that to mine haha thats awful
I actually really like Vick’s ointment. I would never tell my Dom that. Lol but I love it when he punishes me with Vick’s in my tight asshole with a 1.6 stainless butt plug. It makes the metal feel freezing which I actually don’t like. But man, that Vick’s on my clit and in my asshole!!!
How does it feel ?
Done ice hot as lube for a buttplug
Edge then give sub viagra and the. Tie down then free one hand teaee and give them 2 min to cum but sprain glue salt To the free hand lol
Put a electric dog shock collar on cock
I read a crazy article about a Domm who were using toothpaste to stroke her man on https://femdoming.com it was soooo hooot