70 BDSM Humiliation and Degradation Ideas for Your Submissive

Consensual BDSM Humiliation and degradation…

Is it a punishment? Is it pleasurable? Is it damaging?

Well, it entirely depends on how the act is carried out and who it’s carried out on. Let’s take a quick look at this aspect of BDSM and then we’ll jump to the list of things you can try.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THEM


In general…

  • Humiliation is something that causes embarrassment – like going outside naked.
  • Degradation is when you try to lower or dehumanize someone – making them act like a piece of furniture or an animal.

Humiliation, the bottom keeps their “humanness”, degradation they don’t. However, it is possible for some acts of degradation to ALSO humiliate.

HOW ARE THEY USED?


SLAVE TRAINING – Teaching them to perform certain acts

PUNISHMENTS – Correcting unwanted behavior

PLEASURE – Some people enjoy the act of humiliation or degradation

BDSM GAMES – Adding these as part of a game situation can add an extra layer of chance, anticipation, or anxiety.

BEING SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL


1. H/D in any form should be discussed ahead of time – before any scene or interaction with a Dom and sub. Either by better behavior or a fun time, participants should be aiming for a positive outcome.

2. It should never damage a sub’s headspace, make them feel unsafe, or trigger them to past traumas. Punishments should be clear and consistent.

I’ll also add that anything involving a “public place” can’t really be “public”. Places like sex clubs, BDSM gatherings, a private gathering of kinky friends, kink festivals, private property (no trespassing) etc. are the only places you can perform acts of H/D in front of other people Even then you have to stay within the rules of whatever place you’re in.

Why?

Because strangers walking down the street – vanilla or otherwise – are not able (or might not want to) consent to seeing it. Forcing someone to do this (eg. by parading your sub naked down the street) breaks the SSSC rule and is, therefore, a form of abuse. You also must consider there could be young and impressionable eyes about.

BDSM is already misrepresented. Kink acts in public damage the community’s reputation.

3. Any sex acts, or anything that involves bodily fluid, should be dealt with as much safety as possible – contraceptives, condoms, STD test, trusted partners, etc.

4. Also, Doms need to make sure that these acts don’t compromise their sub’s private life, job, family dynamic etc. If extreme privacy is needed, Doms must adjust accordingly.

HUMILIATION AND DEGRADATION IDEAS


Some of these are male-specific, some are for women, but many will work for any identified gender.

  1. Force a male sub to wear slutty women’s lingerie (force cross-dressing).
  1. If it’s a woman, make her go out with no underwear beneath her clothing.
  1. Make them go to the grocery store and buy the largest cucumber or eggplant they can find and a bottle of lube.
  1. Make them wear a chastity belt under the clothes when they go to work.
  1. Make them wear a smartphone-controlled sex toy (like a butt plug, love egg, or prostate massager) when they go out and set it off whenever you wish.
  1. Tie them up outside and leave them there for a designated period of time.
  1. Make him tan while wearing a bikini.
  1. Make them wear embarrassing outfits when they go out – take it an extra step and make them go to a Wal-Mart (the store is infamous for customers with strange clothing – their photo will probably end up on some social media site).
  1. If it’s a man, make him wear panties and a bra under their clothes.
  1. Make them perform rimming (on their Dom or even another person).
  1. Have them shave off all their body hair, eyebrows too
  1. Make him wear feminine deodorant or perfume.
  1. Make him sit down to pee.
  1. Make them write something on social media.
  1. Have them write their own blog, with lots of details about their humiliations.
  1. Make them admit something embarrassing, then share the news with others.
  1. Make them sing a difficult song and point out every flaw.
  1. Share them sexually with other kinksters.
  1. Make them go to “strangers” and admit a mistake or something embarrassing.
  1. Make them wear an O-ring gag and have them talk … a lot (makes them DROOL all over the place).
  1. Make them look through a magazine and have them tell you all the ways they’re not as attractive.
  1. Make them watch porn and have them share all the things that turn them on. *The stranger the porn, the better.
  1. Make him wear nail polish.
  1. Write insulting names or phrases on their body with a permanent marker.
  1. Make them consume their own cum after an orgasm.
  1. Have them act as a piece of furniture.
  1. Become a human ashtray.
  1. Lick the Dom’s boots clean.
  1. Put them in a cage display them to the “world” – lots of other humiliations can be attached to this one.
  1. Walk around carrying an embarrassing object – sex toy, doll, dirty magazine.
  1. Make them go to the store and buy a list of embarrassing products.
  1. Eat from a pet bowl.
  1. Awkward or strange masturbation methods – like making them hump a stuffed animal or into food etc.
  1. Don’t allow them to close the door when they go to the bathroom – comment about the disgusting smells.
  1. Peg him.
  1. Record an embarrassing action and make them watch it.
  1. Don’t let them speak to anyone – they can only grunt or use strange body language (in public this is fun).
  1. Penis humiliation – small, worthless, flaccid etc.
  1. Make them wear a diaper and suck on a pacifier.
  1. Make them dress as an animal (and act like that animal).
  1. Make them perform a very difficult task and tell them all the ways they are failing at completing it or doing it wrong.
  1. Make them wear high heels.
  1. Make them wear a slutty French Maid outfit and clean something (or clean a friend’s house.)
  1. Cover them in pudding or other sloppy foods.
  1. Make them eat off the floor.
  1. Urinate on them. Make them “wear it” for a while, and then clean it up.
  1. Scold them when they’ve done something wrong.
  1. Call them a degrading name.
  1. Insult their intelligence or accomplishments.
  1. Make them go into a photo booth and complete a list of embarrassing poses etc.
  1. Smear some lipstick on their mouths and make them go out.
  1. Make them act like a child – and treat them accordingly.
  1. Make them stand outside with a sign saying something embarrassing.
  1. The sub must (REALLY) beg for something they want/need.
  1. Ignore them completely.
  1. Spit on them.
  1. Don’t let them use the pronoun “I”, rather a demeaning title like “this slut” etc.
  1. Forced chastity – roll some dice to see how long they must go without an orgasm.
  1. Fuck them near a window with the blinds open.
  1. Pour water on the crotch of their pants (makes it look like they peed themselves) and take a walk in “public”.
  1. Make them give a live webcam show.
  1. Make them sleep on the floor.
  1. If you have a home-desk, make them sit under it while you work.
  1. Good, old-fashioned spanking.
  1. Laugh at them while they masturbate.
  1. Make them wear a paper bag over the head (with eye holes cut out).
  1. Make the sub watch you having sex with someone and tell them how they’ll never be as good as the person you’re fucking.
  1. Blackmail role play – It can only be roleplay. Real blackmail is illegal.
  1. Order for them when you go out for dinner.
  1. They must ask permission to do anything and everything.

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87 thoughts on “70 BDSM Humiliation and Degradation Ideas for Your Submissive

  1. Male slave, complete depilation from the nose down. Tiny chastity with catheter that he can unscrew to pee, but keeps there from being a mess like some devices. Crotchless panties and an inflatable butt plug. Chores, guests, her dates, dates for him (men), etc. You decide.

  2. My Dom would eat a bowl of chili and drink a coffee then tie me up in a sleeping bag, then get in the sleeping bag and zip it up around her hips, so My face was right behind her ass sealed in the sleeping bag, then she would gas me with farts for hours at they were so thick that I almost suffocated.

  3. my Domme does not let me cum often. if She does, she collects and freezes it. when She has lots, she thaws it, takes a turkey baster and injects it all in my ass. then Wwe take a walk in public with me going commando. the longer the walk, the more cum oozes out of my ass down my pants.

  4. Clones your cock using the clone your Willy toy. Then she milks you’re prostate using a replica of your own cock

  5. Tied up then she teases cock, denying orgasm. If the sub makes too much noise she gags you with her worn panties.

  6. Wife locked me in the spare bedroom in nappies whenever she slept with one of her lovers. Lately she makes me wear them inside the house to remind me her boyfriends are bigger and better than me. I always know if she is expecting company all night when she puts plastic pants over my nappy.

    1. I like this as a fantasy. In reality, it seems like the wife doesnt feel loved if you get too passive. Also, I feel its not good to lose respect from your wife. I would at least set boundaries to where this is allowed only once every thre months or something.

    2. sounds like you need a cock shaped pacifier and have to wear it when her men are coming over. She should hide it and give you an hour to find it, if you dont by the time her date gets there maybe they can think of something to use as a substitute.

  7. She had me climb up and sit at the top of the slide on the playground in the park.I was instructed to piss through my jeans onto the slide then slide down repeatedly until it was dry. Then I was told to wipe down the whole structure with disinfectant wipes. !!No children were present!!

  8. mi pareja me castiga atando mis manos a mi espalda y desnudo tirado en el piso, orina sobre mi cara, me hace tragar su orina toda, una vez está limpio escupe sobre sus pies y debo igual dejarlos totalmente limpios, me siento profundamente humillado en el momento, pero después lo disfruto.

  9. Take get to a glory hole and video her sucking strangers cocks.

    Whole shes doing it, use a vibrator on her so she enjoys it all, then shell get in her mind that she enjoys pleasuring men in glory holes.

    1. My Master has done this to me and it was humiliating and a turn on at the same time. He made video of it and then played it in front of guests

  10. Interesting that some found these to be too much, I found them too tame. But then again in the twisted erotica I write, its all fantasy. 99% of what I write is girl/girl, but one girl has to be brought into it, usually as a comeuppance for disrespect, only to end up the other womans submissive.

  11. I genuinely love and adore large fat woman a lot. But, i enjoy treating them as if i am not attracted to them or as if they disgust me. I enjoy taking my fat female property shopping and have her try on clothes that are way too small for her… and having the staff give their opinion on her look.

  12. During my punishment my master order me to be naked and then he puts automatic nipple suction on me.Place a vibrator in my vagina and butt plug. A neck collar and leash.Then he ask me to stand on four like a bitch and then he uses me like a foot rest. Usually for one hour.i lick masters foot during

  13. This works for both males and females.

    Have the sub get on their hands and knees and kneel behind them. Put your hand between their legs and pleasure them. Everytime they make any noise you’ll spank their ass harder and harder each time.

  14. Lately my Girlfriend has started taking more and more control. It started when she found out about queening. After I had taken care of her she would only let me jerk on her panties. Lately she has been taking me in hand. She is loving and kind but has been in charge in the bedroom more and more.

  15. Make your slave masturbate into a cup, freeze it. Then make them continue to add cum for month. When full, defrost the cup of cum. Time them for how long it takes to drink the entire cup of their cum. For every second it takes they get spanked by paddle.

  16. Video your sub masturbating and insult them. Make them watch the videos while they masturbate. Turn them into their own porno until they get off looking at themselves.

  17. Use screen mirrroring on your phone to your smart TV. Point phone at subs asshole. Make sub masturbate to their own filthy fuck hole.

  18. Deny man orgasm until he can make himself cum with a vibrator to the base of the penis like it was a clit. There after make it a rule that’s the only way he gets to cum. Laugh at him when he does. Show friends.

  19. Some of my ideas –
    1. Go to Mcdonalds and buy burger and coke. Master eats a piece of it and then spits it out and makes the slave eat it.

    2. Master takes the coke to the washroom and mixes it with piss and then comes out and make the slave drink it … every1 will think slave is drinking coke.

  20. When pissing have male lift it’s leg by a tree then sniff the piss
    Take male slave shopping have it try on clothes in dressing room and then come out to show you if someone is near ask their opinion on how your slut looks

    1. This was done to me at Victoria’s Secret. I was given a dressing room, told to get naked and stand there waiting. Mistress and sales associate returned, She kept the door open, instructing every action while the Associate and passerby’s watched. The two went back/forth several x’s.

  21. Have male kiss your 2 or 3 week worn nylon feet or 2 or 3 week worn panties . Have them remove those panties and turn them inside out and put them back on you ( best if you have peed in them several times) then have them go at your pussy licking thru those panties.

  22. Dress a male sub up as an adult schoolboy or Little Lord Fauntleroy, have him do your shopping and give him a list of tasks at the mall. If questioned, he can pretend he is going to a school reunion, but he might not be believed. Watch him from a distance.

  23. Make you get in a cage outside and be forced to masturbate in front of other Doms and have them insult you and call you slut, whore, etc. and how you are disgusting and worthless and how you are only good for their pleasure. SO HOT!

  24. Tie them down and get a leg spread bar to keep thier legs open then get a massive dildo with a rope attached to it and shove it up tbier ass with the rope outside spank thier ass hard if they try to push the dildo out attach a noise activated shock collar to thier neck on a stand able safe voltage

  25. Make the sub male jerk off but it has to tell you when it’s about to cum then make it stop. If even a drop of cum shows then it get it’s hands and feet cuffed and my biggest dildo lubed with Ben Gay shoved up it’s ass and duct taped in while I watch tv with it as my footrest

  26. The submissive is required to have sex with a b!ow up doll or one of those blow up sheep/pig for the amusement of the dominant, her bull and maybe some of her friends.
    Submissive has to wear his wifes /doms wet knickers after she has had sex, so the sub can feel how a real man can please her.

  27. The Dom, (female) takes her underwear off and has the sub push his face into the gusset and has to hold them against the wall no hands with his nose, the sub is to be completely naked.
    The dom will have sex with a superior male whilst the sub listens. If the panties drop there will be a punishment.

    1. This is a great idea. It would work for a female sub as well. Make her hold her panties in the wall while punishing her and commenting on the smell of her sex in the panties. Idk Im really kinda nee at this.

  28. Make a male slave get naked and on the floor on all fours with his legs spread and its balls dangling and hanging low..then have at least two dommes or more with big dirty bare feet ..line up behind the ballbusting pig and each take turns kicking the slave in the balls.

    1. Be very careful with BallBusting! Im currently recovering from having a unilateral orchiectomy (RIP mr righty), doctors dont know what caused the swelling but believe it was likely from trauma in the area sometime in the last 6months. Not from ball busting but just be careful if abusing them!

  29. I know I always love it when my partner calls me names.. And makes me feel bad for liking the things he does.

  30. pour water into her vagina and diaper her. tie her up in the back yard and then take photos 😉

    1. If your trying to make her pee herself. Instead of risking health issues by pouring water inher vagina. Have them drink a 1.5l bottle of water followed by an energy drink.

  31. Lock him up into chastity for several days with proper teasing and edging and then u finally give them a handjob but the catch here is , apply numbing cream on the dick first ! I bet that frustration would be killer !

  32. 1) Make the slave eat left over food directly from the trash can. 2) Only allow the slave to pee in the garden (or outside in general) standing on all fours.

    1. Making the slave pee outside on all fours is hot buddy. Great idea
      1)I like being told to do things while Im wearing whatever outfit was picked for me. 2) make your sub do all the yard work in heels and a skirt. Make them show off the outfit to impress then tell them its not good enough.

    2. These seem quite damaging to the mind. What if a sub/slaves isnt comfortable and feels humiliated that they get trust issues? Some acts mentioned above in the list of the article seems degrading for basic human rights. What if a slave feels he has no dignity in the relationship? Can they deny?

      1. All actions should be negotiated ahead of time. If someone forces a person to do something they are truly uncomfortable with, then it is no longer BDSM. Also, what turns one person off, might turn on someone else. It’s subjective (and therefore should be discussed in detail before play).

      2. they can deny. dom-sub relationships normally have a safe word, something random like pineapple. If they want something to stop, they just need to say the safe word.

      3. Of course. Thats why you have safe words. All parties need to consent at all times and all parties need be able to revoke that consent and stop at any time.

      4. A sub can always use a safe word when they feel like its to much. If the Dom doesnt comply to the safe word then the sub should leave the relationship.

      5. The sub and dom should have this convo before doing tasks or asking the sub whats to far the dom should know her subs limits before giving him tasks they are still human and have a say on the sexual acts they participate in

  33. Force him to ruin his own orgasm. Put him into Chastity and deny him from cumming for several weeks, if he fails to ruin it. Of course its only up to you to decide, if it was a successful ruination or not. I. E. At least 5 Dec between end of stimulation and ejaculation.

  34. Squirt an entire tube of KY jelly up their ass and then take them out for a nice walk. For more fun dont let them wear underwear or make a guy wear lacy panties.

  35. Make them perform some dance like twerk and record it. Later watch it with them and critique the performance.

  36. Well I have A HUGE clown fetish! And my bf knows how much I love clowns so he will force me to dress like one for punishment. He calls me bozo and he laughs at me and tells me I look like an idiot! He also loves pieing me with giant oversized shaving cream pies with crust!

  37. 1)Make them drink lots of water, take them for a long walk. Nature does the rest
    2)Make them skip bathing for a few days
    3)For women, poorly fitting clothing and bad makeup (clashing colors, wrong foundation for skin tone
    4)Line the inside of her bra with sandpaper.

    1. If the slave/sub is not comfortable with a certain action, then a safs word must be used and the issue needs to he addressed with the dom. If the dom does not respect the submissives wishes, then they are no longer being a dom, they are being abusive. All actions NEED to be Consensual always

    2. Lots of water is fine just dont overdo it. Too much can be dangerous, even deadly. However, it doesnt get a lot worse than wetting yourself in public without being totally disgusting.

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