When it comes to sexting, so many people have no idea where to begin.
Let’s start here:
1. FORGET THE ROADMAP
There are no magic words that will get your sexting partner turned on… it’s more complex than that. Everyone is different, so what turns on one person may turn off another.
It’s more of finding the right combination of time, place and content for your particular sexting partner.
2. START SLOWLY
Don’t jump into hot, heavy, and crude too fast. Take time to build up the sexual tension – like a trail of sexy bread crumbs.
If you just finished a date with your girlfriend or boyfriend and immediately start sexting, then you’re missing the point. Sexting helps build up sexual tension before meeting up.
It can be used, essentially, as modern-day foreplay.
You can tease and talk dirty with each other all day- so by the time you see each other, you’ll want to rip each other’s clothes off.
3. STAY IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Don’t spout graphic content unless it’s something you would normally do anyway. All you need to do it step it up a notch – anything else will show your struggle and not be as hot at you hope.
4. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISELY
You’re not aiming for Hemmingway or even Harlequin, but your vernacular should include a healthy dose of VERBS and adjectives, not to mention the appropriate nouns (think “pussy” not “vagina”), we’re not at medical school.
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5. KEEP THINGS SIMPLE
Don’t let texts get too long. Break them up and spread them out in time to make your partner quiver with anticipation.
6. TEXT AT THE RIGHT TIME
Don’t send a racy photo when you know they are in a meeting. Send a sexy text-only message if you really need to get them horny.
And on the note of photos ….
Unless you’re 100% sure they’re not going to be a dick down the line and make them public, only send nudes that don’t include your face.
7. TURN OFF AUTOCORRECT
Giggling and grinning during sexting session is cool, but not because you’ve accidentally sent, “I want to duck you so hard.”
However, don’t have crappy spelling or grammar. And don’t use abbreviations.
No. Just no.
8. AVOID DRUNK SEXTING
When drunk, we are not as sexy as we think we are.
9. KEEP YOUR PROMISES
Actually, do what you say you’re going to do. If nothing else, don’t go overboard with fantasies that aren’t possible. Like, “I’m going to do you on a pile of money I stole from the bank.”
10. STAY AWAY FROM EMOJIS
No. I don’t care how much the “point + ok sign” makes you giggle like a 4th grader. 99.9999% of the time, they’re just not cool to put in. And if you think you’ve found the .0001%, chances are you’re still in the other group.
11. INCLUDE THEM
Get them to message you back. Don’t make it a one-sided event. One simple way is to ask questions. One BIG way is to play games.
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12. CHANGE UP LOCATIONS
Don’t just sext during your day off or when you’re bored on the commute to work. Message when they least expect it.
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