Self Bondage 101 - Simple Tips to Have Fun and Stay Safe

 

Self-bondage simply means you put yourself in a preferred restraint system, and the release is either up to you or another person.

 

However…

 

Since you’re alone for most/all of the event, this kind of play is usually classified as dangerous (since there isn’t anyone to help you out if an emergency pops up).

 

This beginner’s guide will take a look at the methods and safety steps so you can enjoy the experience.

 

 

WAYS TO SELF RESTRAIN


 

 I won’t get in to specifically HOW to use each one – just what exists and the pros vs cons.

 

ROPE – Shibari lovers will know the exquisite feeling of rope against the skin. There are plenty of body harnesses, legs ties, and other rigs that you can practice on yourself. However, the risks come from not knowing what you’re doing and possible (serious) injuries that will result from it.

 

CHAINS – Some people love the weight, feel, and sound from them. They are a bit more hardcore but very enjoyable. The problems with escape increase because they’re most difficult to get through than rope.

 

PLASTIC WRAP – Yep, the stuff you wrap your leftovers with. Instead of steak, you would wrap your body. It doesn't breathe, so you’ll be sweating (dehydration risks). There is also the danger of suffocation if you do anything around your face. AND, don’t be fooled with its flimsy nature, when you get some layers going, it’s really hard to get out of.

 

TAPE – Mostly duct or electrical tape. It not only restraints but pulls at the skin – which adds an element of pain. It’s cheap but also a bitch to escape.

 

HANDCUFFS – From cheap to expensive, there are lots of choices. Some love the feel of metal against their body but remember these things can click too tight and possibly cut off circulation.

 

LEATHER – It’s beautiful and comes in a huge variety of designs for all parts of the body. The downside is that it gets rather expensive (especially if you want nicer pieces).

 

LATEX – This isn’t exactly a self-bondage tool (it’s thin and easily ripped), but bodysuits can give the illusion of restricted movement. There is also the obvious allergy problems some might have.

 

RUBBER – Similar concepts with latex, but less allergy issues. It’s also more durable, but far more expensive.

 

STRAIGHT JACKETS – These generally aren’t used for self-bondage (because the restraints are behind your back), but I included it anyway because if you kept your hands in front, it’s a viable option.

 

BAGS & SACKS – They can be roomy with lots of space (inside) to move or the body suit that make you look like a mummy.

 

 

DANGERS OF SELF BONDAGE


 

BLOOD CIRCULATION – If anything is too tight, it will cut off blood flow and BAD things will happen.

 

SUFFOCATION – Autoerotic asphyxiation might appeal to some, but doing it alone can sometimes result in death.

 

TISSUE & NERVE DAMAGE – Especially with things like rope, you can end up with (minimum) serious bruising if things are not done correctly/safely.

 

DEHYDRATION – Anything that makes you sweat a lot, and you leave yourself bound for too long, could be bad.

 

 

HOW TO BE SAFER


 

First…

 

PLANNING IS YOUR BEST FRIEND!

 

This includes research on the method you want to try (and when I say research, I mean extensive and exhausting).

 

Next, practice your preferred form on your legs for a short amount of time. When you are comfortable, slowly build up in time and (if you want) up to your waist and torso (arms still free).

 

Plan every aspect of the session – from how long and how you’ll escape and everything that could possibly go wrong (even your parents coming across the country for a surprise visit or raccoons picking your door locks and raiding your fridge).

 

EXAMPLE – If you like to do things in the dark, how will you get light if you really need it? What if the lamp breaks? Etc. Even if the solution is simple, you should think about it. So, if the event happens you’ll be calm and collected instead of scrambling for a solution.

 

Other things include collecting ALL your needed materials ahead of time – safety scissors, water, bolt cutters, timer, cell phone etc.

 

 

KNOW YOUR LOCKS


 

TIMER – A box or lock box with a countdown timer (very useful) – even better if it’s plastic, so you can smash it if necessary.

 

PADLOCK – Make sure you have a million copies of the key (including handcuffs)

 

COMBINATION – Know the combination AND have it written down somewhere close by.

 

ELECTROMAGNET – These a bit more complicated in practice and not for beginners.

 

 

EMERGENCY ESCAPE METHODS


 

Even if your hands are free, you need to know how to get out quickly if you need to.

 

EMERGENCY KEYS – Close by and easy to get to.

 

SCISSORS – The medical ones that you see in hospitals

 

BOLT CUTTERS – Necessary if you’re using chains.

 

PAINT KEY – Some people put the spare key in a paint can, so it will make a mess when you get it out – so if you REALLY need it, you won’t care about the mess. You can also use honey for something a bit more forgiving.

 

ICE – Have the key in ice. Can also be a “timed release” – test how long this takes beforehand! You can put it in bowls, stockings, bottles, etc.

 

A PERSON – Someone who knows what you’re doing and will be there quickly.

 

 

OTHER THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND


 

  1. You do NOT have to restrain your whole body if you don’t want to.
  2. Have backups for your backups
  3. Don't drink too much beforehand (or you’ll need to pee)
  4. Start in comfortable surroundings first
  5. Avoid your neck and head
  6. Start in light condition before going to dark ones
  7. Always be aware of your body and possible numbness
  8. Don’t drink or take drugs while doing self-bondage
  9. Start slow and know your limits
  10. Decide on a time limit and stick to it
  11. Gags and being tied to fixed objects increases the risk
  12. Careful not to fall off anything and add extra damage
  13. Always follow SSSC and RISK practices

 

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Remember, this is just a beginner’s guide. There’s LOTS more out there to learn and I encourage you to read as much as possible.

 

If you want more useful guides or articles, you might like these…

 

 

Have a kinky day!

Robyn

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Comments (1)

  1. Remi says:

    My tip: Start without -locks- first. Needing something other than your hands to release adds a new set of risks and complications, so making sure you know what youre doing with all the other parts first is a good idea. And some people are quite satisfied with the experience without adding locks.

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