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This is an obvious one, but when you\u2019re in love it\u2019s amazing how much you let slide. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The thing is when you\u2019re feeling miserable or going through something rough, and they just don\u2019t care about being the support you need, it\u2019s probably one of the top red flags that should NOT be ignored.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I remember when I was having a really bad day \u2013 epically bad. I was a mess. I begged my (now ex) husband to stay with me. I just wanted cuddles and support. I needed someone there with me. It was more important for him to go out. He was so stubborn in his \u201cme time\u201d that my feelings ended up taking a back seat. At that moment, quite literally, I decided the relationship was over.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe two were looking to start a family in the near future, but now the other person isn\u2019t interested. Or having kids was in the picture but the other person wants to focus on their career. A sign a relationship is over doesn\u2019t always have to come from cheating<\/strong> <\/a>or cruelty. There are people that simply drift apart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n One could argue this could tie in with \u201cnot caring about someone\u2019s feelings\u201d, but I would count this as a much broader category. It could be things like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n You get the picture. If you\u2019re feeling like they\u2019re treating you like a lesser person, well, it\u2019s time to take a hard look at things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe you used to be the world to your partner. But for some reason, they\u2019re breaking down all the things they wish you would do\/be. <\/strong>Maybe they want you to lose weight or wear different clothes. Perhaps it\u2019s the hairstyle or how you eat your food. Who knows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And we\u2019re not talking about suggesting a new hair color for fun because you\u2019ve been dying it red your entire life. No \u2013 we\u2019re talking about being picky about MANY things; like you\u2019re not enough anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This could be linked to cheating. But it could just be a sign that they\u2019re tired of being in the relationship and they\u2019re being jerks instead of maning\/womaning up and just ending it gracefully\/kindly like an adult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Yeah, we all know this one. They get angry over the smallest thing.<\/strong> PMS jokes aside, please. Let\u2019s be serious. It\u2019s when they always seem to get angry over the smallest thing. Like how you breathe (jeez). We can also ramp it up from \u201cirritable\u201d to just being mean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If this goes on for a while (and isn\u2019t linked to any obvious, external stressors) you should look at this as another of the signs the relationship is over for him or her. It\u2019s often a way of them picking enough fights to try and make YOU leave because they\u2019re too much of a coward to do it themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n I\u2019m going to approach this one carefully. But I\u2019m 100% still going to address it because I think it\u2019s important to talk about \u2013 mostly because it\u2019s one of those things that people might feel too bad to actually say out loud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seeing your partner abandon self-care isn\u2019t something you\u2019re going to miss, even if it\u2019s done slowly. And this doesn\u2019t mean bath bombs and sprinkling rose petals on your bed. I mean basic self-care like showering and brushing your teeth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This could be a sign of depression, which is NOT a sign the relationship is over<\/strong> \u2013 at least most of the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But in my case it was. My ex-husband ended up with depression and really didn\u2019t do anything about anything (e.g. taking care of himself or any part of the relationship etc.) The thing is he wasn\u2019t interested in getting help \u2026 at \u2026 all. And we know that you can\u2019t force anyone to get help. It just doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In my case, I ended up existing with someone I had to cook for, clean up after, someone who didn\u2019t care about my feelings, often did things that hurt me, just drank\/played computer games, aside from work, and refused any kind of professional help. I did this for YEARS. And the first red flag of the coming avalanche was a long-term<\/em>, utter abandonment of self-care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not saying if your partner has trouble in this area or has depression that things are over. But I AM saying that you don\u2019t have to be a doormat or be forever secondary in the relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe they stop wanting to have sex with you. Or, it could seem like quite a chore for them. Perhaps they don\u2019t want to have any physical intimacy to the point that cuddles or even hugs aren\u2019t on the table anymore. It could be one of the signs the relationship is over for him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n If your partner starts REALLY needing their own personal space, it\u2019s could be an indicator they don\u2019t want to be around you. They\u2019re trying to distance themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they\u2019ve always been someone that needs a certain kind\/amount of personal space, that\u2019s not a bad thing. Mostly it\u2019s something to worry about if there\u2019s a drastic change that lasts a long while and doesn\u2019t look like it\u2019s going to go back to the way things were.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n If communication has gone out the window, well, that\u2019s never good. If they\u2019ve closed off and you can\u2019t get them to even talk about their day, how can you get them to talk about the relationship? It\u2019s another form of distancing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s extra harsh (and a clear sign) if it\u2019s coupled with a cold demeanor or lack of respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n The clear-as-day sign is they just check out of the relationship entirely (but physically still be there).<\/p>\n\n\n\n The other person might stop putting in any<\/em> kind of work into the relationship. Because, as we know, healthy relationships need nurturing\/work and one person can\u2019t be expected to put in all the effort. They might do some emergency effort when things hit DEFCON 1, but that\u2019s it. When things calm down, they go back to taking everything for granted or just giving zero fucks. They\u2019re coasting. It\u2019s over for them, but they\u2019re too comfortable to walk away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Please keep in mind that these signs the relationship is over for him or her aren\u2019t the end-all-be-all of advice.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, if someone abandons self-care for a long while, there are couples that can emerge through and become closer \u2013 having depression isn\u2019t a freebie for leaving. There are people who don\u2019t have the same communication styles and have to learn how to talk with each other. Lack of sex can come from things like medication or <\/a>huge amounts of stress<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Take these signs, compare them to your partner’s \u201cbefore\/normal\u201d behavior\u201d, and see how many drastic differences there are that don\u2019t have a clear source. Then, have a calm\/non-confrontational conversation about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If there\u2019s a fair amount of anger from the other person during the chat \u2026 well \u2026 that can be another sign.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n From an outside perspective, it might be really obvious that a couple\u2019s time together is nearing its expiration date. But for anyone who\u2019s put in…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":9102,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[432,453,7],"tags":[5],"class_list":["post-9099","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimate-relationship","category-sex-life","category-sex-passion","tag-relationships"],"yoast_head":"\n2. MAJOR PRIORITIES CHANGE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n3. RESPECT GOES OUT THE WINDOW<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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4. THEY TURN PICKY ABOUT THEIR PARTNER<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n5. THEY ARE GETTING IRRITABLE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n6. SELF-CARE WAVES GOODBYE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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7. PHYSICAL CONTACT DOES A 360<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n8. PERSONAL SPACE GETS WEIRD<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n9. YOU HAVE BETTER CONVERSATIONS WITH A PARK BENCH<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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10. THEY \u2026 JUST\u2026 STOP \u2026 TRYING<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nIMPORTANT END THOUGHTS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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