{"id":8679,"date":"2022-11-02T10:28:38","date_gmt":"2022-11-02T10:28:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/?p=8679"},"modified":"2022-11-02T10:28:38","modified_gmt":"2022-11-02T10:28:38","slug":"how-to-finger-someone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/how-to-finger-someone","title":{"rendered":"How to Finger Someone \u2013 A Guide for Guys & Gals"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Fingerplay often gets rushed over or wholly overlooked during most pillow dates. It\u2019s seen as a way to get someone lubed up so things can rush to penetration. Or, to give someone an orgasm so the other person can jump to their own pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But fingering can be a mind-blowing event all on its own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why we\u2019ve made this in-depth guide on how to finger someone in the safest and most pleasurable ways \u2013 so you can both benefit in ways you might not even realize. Let\u2019s dive in!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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KEEP THINGS CLEAN & TRIMMED<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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There\u2019s no bigger turn-off than grubby fingers trying to slither their way into the vagina or anus. And yes, I know some people are thinking it\u2019s crazy to think that dirty fingers in the butt don\u2019t matter. But they really do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first thing anyone should do is make sure they have clean hands \u2013 properly cleaned ones! Not quickly rinsed under water. Next nails should be trimmed short and filed smooth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This last part is really non-negotiable \u2013 and yes, for guys too. It doesn\u2019t matter how prissy you might think it is to have neat and trim nails because for fingering, it\u2019s vital.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Long nails (and even short ones that are crudely cut with sharp edges and no filing) can cut the inner wall of the vagina. The flesh there is quite delicate \u2013 even micro tears can happen. This leads to easier infections and even the possible contraction of STIs. Not to mention, it\u2019s going to be uncomfortable for your partner. The same goes for guys. The anal cavity is also delicate; if you go in with bare fingers, the same thing can happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Now, the best thing for anal play is to put a condom over your fingers (or actual latex finger sleeves that are made for this sort of thing). However, if you keep the long, jagged nails, you might still break through the latex and bad things could happen. See where I\u2019m going with this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So keep those digits clean!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But also, the other side should wash too, especially if it\u2019s been a sweaty day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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WATCH OUT FOR STIs<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Both sides should be 100% honest about any diseases they have, so the other side can make an informed decision.\u00a0 Also, you can take appropriate safety measures. Because things like gonorrhea, chlamydia, or HPV (for example) can still be contracted if the fingering person touches themselves after.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re sexually active, make sure to have regular tests. And use appropriate contraceptives, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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ADD LUBE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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There\u2019s this idea attacked to sexual potency that any person worth their sexual salt should be able to make someone dripping wet all on their own. And the idea of needing lube can actually irk some people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, I\u2019m here to say that\u2019s nonsense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are so many reasons why someone can\u2019t get really wet, or even a little, no matter how horny you get them. <\/strong>It can be a side effect of medication, health issues, general stress problems, age, or just their body\u2019s personal settings, etc. Plus, there\u2019s the fact that the bum hole can\u2019t generate lube at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get yourself a bottle of water-based lube<\/strong><\/a>, <\/strong>and add a respectable amount even if you\u2019re not to internal play yet. It will make all the difference in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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UNDERSTAND ANATOMY<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Vaginas come in many different shapes, colors, and scents \u2013 and the smell of flowers is not one of them. As long as it\u2019s not rotten or heavily fishy, it\u2019s fine (because that could mean an infection).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The same goes for penises. Some are cut, some not. Some guys like their balls touched some don’t. But no matter what, there\u2019s a lot more to each area than just the \u201csweet spots\u201d we\u2019re usually focused on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play around with the surrounding areas during your pre-fingering episodes. There are a ton of nerve endings to be found.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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DON\u2019T RUSH<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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It\u2019s important not to quickly shove your fingers into the vagina. But it\u2019s even more important for the anus. The muscles there are very tight and pushing anything in too fast and hard can hurt like hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter the hole, start with one finger<\/strong> and slowly (with lube) work your way in at your partner\u2019s pace. And when (or if) they\u2019re ready, add another finger. But always go back to being slow any time you add a new digit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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This part is pretty much going to make or break the \u201csuccess\u201d of how to finger someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Make sure to listen not only to the sounds of pleasure (or discomfort) they\u2019re making but if they\u2019re maybe a bit quiet or not great at communicating what they need, make sure to gently ask them what is working or what isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do they want slower? Back down to one finger? For you to withdraw entirely and go back to external play?  Perhaps they need a different angle or to change positions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communication is always key.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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STICK TO A RHYTHM<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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When our partner is in the throes of ecstasy, it can be tempting to switch what we are doing to find something that will be even more pleasurable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, that is the last thing you should do. If you find something your partner likes, stick with it.<\/strong> They might want it faster or harder, etc. (let them tell you). But don’t change from two-finger g-spot massaging to clit tickling mixed with finger thrusting when the previous method was already driving them wild.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Getting to amazing orgasms comes when you find what works and stay with it until they come to that exquisite peak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re not sure, there are things other than just stroking to mimic thrusting. There\u2019s tapping, pressure, circular motions, \u201cswiping\u201d back and forth, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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OTHER USEFUL TIPS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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