{"id":8408,"date":"2022-10-05T12:24:22","date_gmt":"2022-10-05T12:24:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/?p=8408"},"modified":"2022-10-05T12:24:22","modified_gmt":"2022-10-05T12:24:22","slug":"prioridating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/prioridating","title":{"rendered":"What is Prioridating & Does It Apply To Sex?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Prioridating is the newest romance \u201ctrend\u201d \u2013 although I don\u2019t personally like to call it a trend because that would imply the concept might fade away. Because this is a dating approach I can actually get behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what exactly is it? And if we boil the entire concept down to its core, is it something that can still be relevant to a healthy and meaningful sex life? Let\u2019s take a deep dive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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WHO STARTED PRIORITIDATING?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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The term was first coined by dating coach, Laurel House \u2013 a relationship expert at eharmony.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cPrioridating is dating on purpose, the purpose being to find someone who fulfills the one most important thing you need in a relationship.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>Laurel House<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Now, this might sound strange (even nonsensical) to many people. However, for anyone who\u2019s been on dating apps (and I say this as someone who\u2019s been there personally and tested them professionally), you\u2019ll know it\u2019s a general cesspool of the following\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  • Scammers and bots trying to rip you off<\/li>
  • People who use others as \u201chuman toilet paper\u201d<\/li>
  • Cheaters, liars, and heartbreakers<\/li>
  • General crazies<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    However, even if people managed to power through the infuriating twists and turns of the grand dating maze, there are still uncountable failed dates with those who don\u2019t click or tick enough boxes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But, apparently, that\u2019s what everyone is doing wrong (at least according to Laurel House).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    \u201cHistorically, many people have dated based on a list of wants \u2013 many of those wants being superficial or not thoroughly thought through \u2013 as opposed to core values and relationship-sustaining needs that will impact your future.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>Laurel House<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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    SO WHAT EXACTLY IS PRIORIDATING?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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    Essentially, it\u2019s sitting down and having an honest conversation with yourself about what\u2019s the most important thing you need from a partner\/relationship. One thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Now, stay with me here because even I was skeptical at first read. But then I did more research and finally understood the essence of House\u2019s message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Using an example from another article, let\u2019s say what you need most is adventure. It\u2019s the one thing you can\u2019t do without in life and from whoever will be your soulmate. \u00a0After you\u2019ve made that the priority, you build your social life around nurturing that quality. For example, join groups that will help you meet other adventurous people.<\/p>\n\n\n

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    However, you also need to prioritize one more important thing\u2026<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n

    YOU.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Yep. It really boils down to self-care and self-love. So, if you need adventure, but laughter is important too, then you find ways to fulfill that need elsewhere. This can be from reading funny books or watching comedies. Perhaps you have a friend who\u2019s a total comedian. If you need respect, look for ways of loving and respecting yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    That being said Prioridating does NOT include settling or not setting boundaries.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Let\u2019s go back to the adventure part. If you need thrills and chills to be happy, that doesn\u2019t mean you settle for someone who disrespects you regularly. Someone might be the best skydiver in the world, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to say yes and stay with them forever. It\u2019s your life and your happiness, and you are allowed to say no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And if I were to quote one woman I saw on one of those morning shows, \u201cIt\u2019s about looking for what\u2019s important and throwing away all the nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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