I’ve been known to take a break from sex now and again \u2013 but it was always because I was either recently broken-up, ill, or had such high-stress levels that my libido tucked-tail and ran for the hills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because sex is such an important part of my life, I used to think it was “off” if I wasn\u2019t having it at some consistent occurrence. <\/strong>That is until I flipped a middle finger at the entire situation and decided to cut out sex for \u201chowever long I wanted\u201d (and to not care about it).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, I would continue to chat on apps and maybe go on the occasional date, but I was going to take sex right off the table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, I wasn\u2019t going celibate. I still had \u201chappy alone time\u201d when it was needed. But connecting that way with another person was causing more stress than it was \u201cdumping happy chemicals into my system to combat general stress.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether you\u2019re single or partnered, or just have a string of fuck-buddies, I would suggest this for anyone for several reasons\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n TAKE OFF THE PRESSURE<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n This was the first huge benefit. If it sex isn\u2019t on the table, then the pressure to have it (or the guilt or worrying that something is wrong) instantly goes away (well \u2026 hopefully it\u2019s instant).<\/p>\n\n\n\n MORE TIME<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s not just freeing up time that you would be spending between the sheets, but it\u2019s also extra moments that would have gone toward date-hygiene, hair, makeup, meeting, deciding, dating, or whatever else comes with hanky-panky time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n SELF-CARE<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is one of the great ways to take care of yourself in something other than a sexual way. This extra time can go towards meditation, long baths, more walks, eating better, or what have you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n PRACTICING BOUNDARIES<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Practicing healthy boundaries is essential for life in general. If you\u2019re with a partner\/f-buddy\/date, it gives you a chance to set those temporary walls in constructive ways. Side note \u2013 if someone calls you \u201cselfish\u201d for doing this (which has happened to me), then ditch that person ASAP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n WEED OUT<\/strong> PEOPLE<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n This brings us to one aspect I saw in startling clarity. It shows who is patient and understanding and who isn\u2019t \u2013 who is there just for romps and who is there to connect on a deeper level. Granted, there\u2019s nothing wrong with app hookups! Nothing at all. But you\u2019d be surprised how efficient a filter it can be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n COMMUNICATION<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s not just saying, \u201cI don\u2019t want to have sex with you for a while\u201d \u2013 because that\u2019s not constructive (to you or the other person). If the partner is important to you, it gives you the opportunity to improve your communication skills. And don\u2019t forget, you can still be sensual without getting sexual!<\/p>\n\n\n\n RECONNECT<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n A natural by-product of communication (if done right) will be a lovely reconnection with your significant other(s). You find new ways to be intimate, or even just in the same room as someone. You also reconnect with yourself. Why? Because\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n RE-EVALUATE<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n It would be wise to spend some of your hiatus doing some healthy soul searching. Is sex still a priority? Does something need to change temporarily or permanently?<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, because of my job, lifestyle, and circle of friends, there was this concept that I was a highly active person in the world of hot-sheet-action. However, because of holding down more than one job, saving for a house, acclimating to a new country, starting up a side venture for even extra income, and a couple nuclear-disastrous relationships, my escapades were not as much as people would have imagined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There was this ridiculous stress that I had to hold up my sexual persona \u2013 which was bullshit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n REPAIR LIBIDO<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Imagine running on a sore leg for weeks, but then taking a nice long rest to heal it. Granted, it\u2019s not the best comparison, but it still gets the job done. Your sex-break actually helps boost your libido (a lot of it coming from taking away the stress around the issue). We\u2019re so used to putting Band-Aids on wounds. But what about the injuries or fatigue on things we can\u2019t see?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n REAPPRECIATION<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n And finally, when you are ready to jump back in, the next session will usually feel like a breath of fresh air. You\u2019re reborn again and have a new appreciation for all the sensations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, if you find yourself running out of steam, it\u2019s 100% OKAY to take a break from sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Anything else you want to add? Share in the comments!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I’ve been known to take a break from sex now and again \u2013 but it was always because I was either recently broken-up, ill, or…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5146,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[432,453,7],"tags":[37,6],"class_list":["post-5140","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimate-relationship","category-sex-life","category-sex-passion","tag-health","tag-sex"],"yoast_head":"\n