First, as great as this question is, it\u2019s not something you would ask someone you\u2019re just getting to know. So, even though I would totally ask this, I would have divided this list into two groups<\/p>\n\n\n\n
- GREEN<\/b> (Just fun. Or necessary if you\u2019re going to be intimate)<\/li>
- YELLOW <\/b>(Needs more trust or a sensitive topic)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
It also comes down to the dynamic of the two (or more people).<\/b> If it\u2019s a drinking game among friends, someone trying to get to know a partner\/lover better, or if you\u2019re talking to someone more sexually open \u2013 this might change the color coding.<\/u><\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n
FOR EXAMPLE<\/span>:<\/b> I\u2019m more open about my sex life, and someone new could ask me many of the \u201cyellow coded\u201d questions and I wouldn\u2019t be phased. Then again, if some stranger approached me in a club and jumped right in with, \u201cHi, what\u2019s your favorite sex position?\u201d<\/i> I might be put off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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69 Sex Questions I Found Across The Internet<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n- How many people have you slept with? <\/b><\/span>I don\u2019t like the wording. Too early and it feels like an interrogation question. It\u2019s also something that might bring out insecurities. A better way to ask without being intrusive is, \u201cHow do you feel about your sexual experience?\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/li>
- Where\u2019s the weirdest place you\u2019ve had sex? <\/b><\/span> Fun and a good lead into more communication.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite part of my body? <\/b><\/span> Yep. Good \u2013 complimentary.<\/li>
- Have you ever had anal sex? <\/b><\/span>Important to ask, because anal sex is something not everyone can jump into. It might be more delicate if it\u2019s a woman asking a guy. But still, a great question.<\/li>
- If you could choose what I was wearing right now, what would you choose? <\/b><\/span> Hmmm, I think I would re-word this to something like, \u201cWhat sexy clothing would you imagine me in?\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/li>
- Where on your body is your favorite place to be touched? <\/b><\/span> Yep. Love it.<\/li>
- When was the last time you had a dirty dream? <\/b><\/span> Sure. Can be fun. But not everyone remembers dreams that well. You could adapt it to, \u201cWhat\u2019s the dirtiest dream you\u2019ve ever had?\u201d<\/i><\/b> \u2013 Which is not the same as a fantasy, FYI.<\/li>
- If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be? <\/b><\/span> I like this one. So much to talk about, and details that reveal the deeper part of someone.<\/li>
- When did you first have sex? <\/b><\/span> Fair question.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the best sex you\u2019ve ever had? <\/b><\/span>I would answer this with details of the act. Not who was doing it. Don\u2019t risk it becoming a competition. Someone might not want to hear about how amazing your ex was in bed.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite position? <\/b><\/span>Yep, standard question everyone should ask. Especially if a quick hookup might happen.<\/li>
- Have you ever been caught having sex? <\/b><\/span>Could be an interesting conversation.<\/li>
- Do you watch porn? <\/b><\/span>Some people are sensitive about porn. Know what waters you\u2019re about to swim into.<\/li>
- What kind of porn do you watch?<\/b><\/span> A fair follow-up question if the person answer is comfortable talking about it.<\/li>
- How often do you masturbate?<\/b><\/span> Might be personal for some people. Wait to ask this when it\u2019s appropriate.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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Credit Pexels <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n - Name a sex position you\u2019d like to try.<\/b><\/span> I\u2019m on the fence about this. It could go either way. If you\u2019re looking for new experiences, it\u2019s a good discussion to get into.<\/li>
- Do you prefer to give or receive? <\/b><\/span>Needs to be asked if you\u2019re going to play \u2013 doesn\u2019t matter if gay, or pegging, etc.<\/li>
- What was your best orgasm ever? <\/b><\/span>If it is the orgasm and how it can be achieved again, cool. Not who gave it to you.<\/li>
- Have you ever been skinny dipping? <\/b><\/span>Sure, it\u2019s a fun question. Mild enough to know if someone is a little adventurous.<\/li>
- Have you ever slept with someone you work with? <\/b><\/span>This gets more personal. It also feels I don\u2019t know… weird? Don\u2019t ask this WHILE at work ahahahah.<\/li>
- If we were out for dinner and I said I wanted to have sex right now, what would you do?<\/b><\/span> Can be HOT, if you know the person better.<\/li>
- Have you ever sent nudes of yourself? <\/b><\/span>As long as you\u2019re not asking for nudes right off the bat.<\/li>
- If you could sleep with any celebrity, who would it be? <\/b><\/span>Totally okay to ask. It\u2019s a fun question.<\/li>
- Would you\/have you had group sex? <\/b><\/span>Definitely save this for when you know someone at least a little better. Also if you\u2019re asking this in a kink club vs on a first date\u2026 well, you get the idea.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the most sex you\u2019ve had in a day? <\/b><\/span>This is similar to a libido question on this list. No harm in asking, but it gets into the grey areas of personal topics.<\/li>
- Are you loud or quiet during sex? <\/b><\/span>Might be important to know if you\u2019re taking someone back to your place and your neighbors are nosy\u2026 or assholes.<\/li>
- Have you ever tried using food during foreplay? <\/b><\/span>Sure. I can get down with this. Harmless enough.<\/li>
- Have you ever made a sex video? <\/b><\/span>Yeah, this is getting into the personal side of things. Not to mention there\u2019s the anxiety and fear around having that kind of media leaked \u2013 accidentally or not.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the first thing that sexually attracts you to someone? <\/b><\/span>No harm in asking this. Anyone will have something that strikes their fancy.<\/li>
- Would you say you have any fetishes? <\/b><\/span>Some people have them but are too ashamed or not ready to even share the truth with themselves, let alone another person. Handle this situation with care.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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Credit Pexels <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n - When it comes to BDSM, how far have you gone\/would go? <\/b><\/span>My problem with this question\u00a0is that BDSM is such a LARGE topic and cluster of practices, that it\u2019s hard to answer in general terms. It\u2019s like asking \u201cHow far have you gone in sports?\u201d it can be answered, but I would have to get into the specific sport.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite toy? <\/b><\/span>Easy to answer and lots of follow-up questions that are equally interesting. But make sure you\u2019re\/they’re not insecure\/shy about sex toys in the first place.<\/li>
- Do you ever read erotic fiction? <\/b><\/span>A good way to test the waters or have a warm-up question.<\/li>
- Have you joined the mile-high club? <\/b><\/span>Again, getting personal \u2013 which there\u2019s nothing wrong with, but since it involves details about another person, best wait to ask this later.<\/li>
- Do you think you could take off my underwear with no hands? <\/b><\/span> Yes. I mean, if the flirtation is getting heavy, sure. But it’s not something to ask immediately.<\/li>
- Would you say you\u2019re kinky?<\/b><\/span> This is a better way to get into a kinky conversation than some of the other questions.<\/li>
- Do you enjoy shower sex? <\/b><\/span>Good to know. It\u2019s also safer than sex in water.<\/li>
- Where\u2019s the weirdest place you\u2019ve ever masturbated? <\/b><\/span>The definition of weird changes from person to person. Just don\u2019t be judgmental about the answer, since you\u2019ve asked that question. Maybe use the word adventurous, interesting, hottest, etc.<\/li>
- Do you like to be spanked? <\/b><\/span>Another one I\u2019m on the fence about. If it\u2019s already established the person is a kinkster or open, it\u2019s safe to ask earlier on.<\/li>
- What was your most embarrassing sexual experience? <\/b><\/span>This can be very personal, even painful. Be careful.<\/li>
- Have you ever fantasized about someone else during sex? <\/b><\/span>Depending on who is in the conversation, this could be taken as a fun question or something intrusive.<\/li>
- If I ever caught you masturbating, would you stop or would you finish? <\/b><\/span>I don\u2019t like the word \u201ccaught\u201d because it makes it sound like what you\u2019re doing is wrong. I would reword it to \u201cIf I walked in on you\u2026\u201d, then that could be interesting.<\/li>
- Have you ever had an inappropriate crush? <\/b><\/span>It depends on how someone interprets \u201cinappropriate\u201d.<\/li>
- Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex? <\/b><\/span>Errr. Yes, you can have sex so good, you cry. Or have had so much sex that you pass out. But these emotions can also be from bad experiences.<\/li>
- Do you prefer eye contact or not during sex? <\/b><\/span> A good thing to know.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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Credit Pexels<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n - Do you like to kiss during sex? <\/b><\/span>Also important to know.<\/li>
- Do you get tired after sex? <\/b><\/span>I would say this is good to ask. Some people are just hit so hard with the post-sex sleepies that they just can\u2019t help but fall asleep. Good for the other person to know so it\u2019s not taken personally.<\/li>
- How many positions do you think you\u2019ve tried? <\/b><\/span>Grey area. As long as it\u2019s to search for new positions or be adventurous, it\u2019s okay.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the longest you\u2019ve ever gone without sex? <\/b><\/span>This could be attached to a bad time in someone\u2019s life. Handle with care.<\/li>
- How high is your sex drive? <\/b><\/span>This might be important for some to know sexual compatibility.<\/li>
- What\u2019s a sure-fire way to turn you on? <\/b><\/span>Yes, please.<\/li>
- Sex with lights on or lights off? <\/b><\/span>Sure, why not.<\/li>
- Do you like dirty talk? <\/b><\/span>Yes, you need to know this. Because being called a \u201cdirty whore\u201d in the middle of sex could have wonderful or terrible consequences. Don\u2019t forget to ask follow-up questions.<\/li>
- Have you had sex in a car? <\/b><\/span>Speaks to adventure. I can dig it.<\/li>
- Do you prefer to take control or be submissive? <\/b><\/span>If you\u2019re kinky or exploring kink, it\u2019s a good question to ask.<\/li>
- Do you prefer one night stands or long-term sexual partners? <\/b><\/span><\/li>
- Yeah, this is definitely on the personal side. It\u2019s not a BAD question, just not a first-date question.<\/li>
- Do you prefer to be on top or bottom? <\/b><\/span>It\u2019s not just about the power dynamics of sex. It could be attached to physical issues that are important to know so everyone has fun.<\/li>
- What would you like to do more of in bed? <\/b><\/span>Always good to know.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite time of day to have sex? <\/b><\/span>This might sound strange, but it\u2019s important \u2013 not only for sexual compatibility but also schedules.<\/li>
- Rough or romantic? <\/b><\/span>Can\u2019t it be both? Not everyone is static. People want different things at different times?<\/li>
- Quickie or marathon session? <\/b><\/span>Again. Why not both? Yes, people have preferences, and it\u2019s good to find them out, but make sure to ask the right follow-up questions so you get to know the \u201cwhy\u201d better.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite part of foreplay? <\/b><\/span>Necessary. Do ask this. And give lots of it.<\/li>
- Would you dress up for me in bed? <\/b><\/span>Depends on the person’s comfort levels. You\u2019re also asking for something directly just for YOU.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite place to be kissed? <\/b><\/span>Everywhere! I mean\u2026 good question.<\/li>
- Do you like sexting? <\/b><\/span>Also good to know. Someone might not be able to because of work etc.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the best thing about our sex life? <\/b><\/span>A question you ask when you\u2019ve been having sex for a while. Do ask this.<\/li>
- What\u2019s the shortest time it\u2019s ever taken for you to have an orgasm? And the longest? <\/b><\/span>Fun, but some women haven\u2019t had an orgasm \u2013 or at least a significant one. Keep it lighthearted, unless you and the other person are trying to spice things up.<\/li>
- How would you make me have an orgasm?<\/b><\/span> I would reword this too, \u201cDescribe how\/where\/when you would love to make me orgasm.\u201d Make it more of a fantasy or role-play than just the physical ending.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
<\/div>\n\n\n\nI bet, by now, you\u2019ve thought (more than once), \u201cNo I wouldn\u2019t ask that question so soon\u201d<\/i> or \u201cWhat\u2019s so bad about that question?\u201d<\/i> \u2013 I\u2019ll say again, it totally depends on the circumstances of the conversation. Just use good judgment and know if you\u2019re stepping over boundaries.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Are all these questions good? Yes<\/i>. I\u2019ve asked all of these, myself. Definitely use them and other examples from other lists \u2013 but don\u2019t use it as a first date checklist, interrogation, etc.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Do you get tired after sex? <\/b><\/span>I would say this is good to ask. Some people are just hit so hard with the post-sex sleepies that they just can\u2019t help but fall asleep. Good for the other person to know so it\u2019s not taken personally.<\/li>
- What\u2019s your favorite toy? <\/b><\/span>Easy to answer and lots of follow-up questions that are equally interesting. But make sure you\u2019re\/they’re not insecure\/shy about sex toys in the first place.<\/li>
- Do you prefer to give or receive? <\/b><\/span>Needs to be asked if you\u2019re going to play \u2013 doesn\u2019t matter if gay, or pegging, etc.<\/li>
- Where\u2019s the weirdest place you\u2019ve had sex? <\/b><\/span> Fun and a good lead into more communication.<\/li>
- YELLOW <\/b>(Needs more trust or a sensitive topic)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n