\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bFirst, I\u2019m going to add the disclaimer that this particular fetish might seem very alluring, but there\u2019s far more than meets the eye \u2013 take it from someone who gave it a try for two years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
WHAT IS FINDOM?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Fin-dom is short from for Financial Domination. In the simplest terms, the dominant person gets money from the submissive person with nothing expected in return \u2013 that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n WHY DO SOME PEOPLE LIKE IT?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Just like any kink, there are people who enjoy various forms of control \u2013 physical (like bondage) or mental (like humiliation). In this case, money is the main form of control. For obvious reasons, the receiver (the Findom) enjoys it because it\u2019s money for \u201cnothing\u201d (but we will look at that in more detail later because that\u2019s not exactly true). They also like the aspect of control or possible humiliation, worship, or consensual games that can go with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The same goes for the one who hands over the money. They are sometimes called pay-pigs, cash-cows, fin-subs, pay-pups <\/em>and many other similar terms. The Findom in charge might also have a special name he\/she uses specifically for their subs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A submissive can enjoy it for many reasons\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n WHO IS INTO IT?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n You would be surprised, but it can be just about anyone. Granted, it\u2019s dominated by women on top and men as the servants. But I\u2019ve seen gay, lesbian, bi, and couples on both sides of the coin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n SOME HARD TRUTHS<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. IT\u2019S “EASY” MONEY<\/b><\/span>\u00a0– That\u2019s what everyone thinks when they first hear of this kink. But, sorry to burst your bubble but, no it\u2019s not.\u00a0 Not \u2026 at \u2026 all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One major reason is because of the competition. It\u2019s everyone making the first makes of believing in this first myth (that you\u2019ll get free cash fast). Nope. IT\u2019S A BUSINESS. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. SEX OR NUDITY IS OPTIONAL<\/b><\/span> – Don\u2019t kid yourself. This is sex work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, whether or not you choose to be naked or fully clothed in your streaming, clips, or photos is up to you. There\u2019s nothing wrong with either way or any way in between. It just comes down to you and your target group. I know one particularly famous and well-known woman who makes serious cash while showing very little skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As for sex \u2013 giving gift clips for \u201crewards\u201d (where you are naked) is entirely up to you. However, Findom doesn\u2019t mean the customer gives money and gets physical sex from the Dom or Domme. If you\u2019re trading money for sex, that\u2019s a different kind of sex worker \u2013 and I\u2019m not judging, just pointing out the difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. THERE ARE IMPOSTERS<\/b><\/span> – The idea of easy money will attract anyone<\/i> and everyone<\/i>. This includes things like a sexy blonde with Double-D boobs that is taking your money, but it\u2019s really a man on the other side of the screen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, there have been cases where people will steal the profile and pictures of a successful Findom and post under a slightly different name (like adding an underscore or a dash, etc.) to try and siphon off some of their pay slave\u2019s cash.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another hard fact is some of these people (either on top or on the bottom) are under eighteen. This is illegal no matter which way you try to turn it. They might say they are of legal age but are lying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. IT WON\u2019T ATTRACT CREEPS<\/b><\/span> – It doesn\u2019t matter how clear your Twitter or blog rules are, you\u2019ll always get those that ignore everything and just tell you what they <\/em>want in exchange for money or ask you to do things you\u2019ve already clearly stated you won\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then there are just the perverts who try to get your attention (even through flaming, insulting, or harassment) in order to get themselves a free masturbation session \u2013 yes, people like this exist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ADVICE<\/b><\/span> \u2013 Totally ignore them and don\u2019t feed these kinds of trolls. Not a single word back to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. IT\u2019S A HAPPY, FUN COMMUNITY<\/b><\/span> – A little, yes. But sadly, it\u2019s very cut-throat. It\u2019s especially hard on people who are other than \u201cwhite\u201d or \u201cdrop-dead gorgeous\u201d in appearance. Body size, transgender, or other groups that already have a hard time fighting for their justified place in this world have it harder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n These groups aren\u2019t necessarily minorities, they are hustling like everyone, but they usually have to work twice as hard. If you\u2019re in these groups, you have my love and support. If you enjoy it, stay strong!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aside from discrimination, there are the women (and sometimes men) who trash talk others, try to steal customers, or don\u2019t handle their submissive in responsible ways.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, I made my rules clear that I would not<\/b> accept subs that would ignore their family and\/or children\u2019s financial needs in lieu of their Findom\u2019s demands. I also would never \u201cdrain\u201d someone to the point they wouldn\u2019t be able to care for their own needs \u2013 like food, rent, health, etc. There are some out there who don\u2019t care and will try to take everything (knowing fully well that the payer is addicted).<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is one bright light at the end of this tunnel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They are still great people out there. They care. They are responsible. They support each other. I\u2019ve even seen Findoms gift other Findoms just to show friendship, respect, or to celebrate a birthday or special event.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another occasionally annoying thing is the \u201cInstaDom\u201d \u2013 Instagram Dommes. They come over from Instagram solely on their physical attraction and try to compete with the Twitter side. They often have no idea what they are doing. Or, it can also be \u201cInstant Dommes\u201d, which are the people who come in also having no idea what they are doing and just start screaming \u201cfuck you give me money!\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n WHAT ARE SOME DOWNSIDES?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. TIME<\/b> <\/span>\u2013 This is the number one thing that will make or break you. You don\u2019t measure your success in money. You measure it TIME. Time getting yourself ready for photos. Time interacting with subs or possible subs. Time finding replacements subs if one leaves you. Time on social media. Time on forums and learning new things or ways to better your position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Just like any<\/i> job if you make a hundred bucks, but spent one week making it \u2026 you\u2019re not doing well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. \u201cTHE HUSTLE\u201d<\/b><\/span> \u2013 This is in conjunction with time, but it more focused on how active you are on your social media platforms, interactions, branding promotions, coming up with creative ways to drain your submissives If you\u2019re not hustling, you\u2019re not making money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. UPS AND DOWNS<\/b> <\/span>\u2013 One day you might make a thousand. One day you might make nothing. You might have a great month. You might have a terrible month. It\u2019s pretty much self-employment and you have to budget your finances responsibly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. INVESTMENT<\/b> <\/span>\u2013 Yes, you might want to buy that pretty name-brand handbag or shoes. But you might (or will) have to spend money on your side, especially at the start. Other than time, there are website fees, clothing, body care products, makeup, or whatever helps your platform. Don’t forget your nest egg.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. BEAUTY VS BUSINESS<\/b><\/span> \u2013 You get the woman and men that are super attractive and have piles of cash or gifts just tossed at them for doing next to nothing, and you\u2019re over here working your ass off for pennies. But you could say that\u2019s life in general.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And guess what? That cash you make \u2026 you have to claim it on your taxes. Yep, it\u2019s called business, and you can\u2019t get around that \u2013 especially since there are haters out there who might want to call the IRS on you just to try to get you in trouble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n IMPORTANT<\/b> <\/span>\u2013 You need to protect yourself. That\u2019s why you have a \u201cFindom\u201d name, use a PO box that\u2019s not close to your home. <\/strong>But, most importantly, most cash transfer platforms do not allow you to use their services if it is for sex work of any<\/i> kind. A good example is Pay Pal. It might sound easy, but they hate<\/i> any kind of adult transaction and could freeze your account. <\/strong>Circle Pay used to be the go-to for Findoms, but they closed down \u2013 much to the woe of the community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n WHAT ARE SOME UPSIDES?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1.MONEY<\/b> <\/span>(DUH) \u2013 Do well and you can make a lot of money or have things gifted to you so you don\u2019t have to buy them yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. SECURITY<\/b><\/span> \u2013 If you invest your money wisely, you could have long-term security or save for retirement (which is better than any pair of shoes).<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. CONTROL<\/b> <\/span>\u2013 You can use this medium to scratch your domination \u201citch\u201d without having to be present with an actual person (if that\u2019s what you want).<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. ACCOMPLISHMENT<\/b><\/span> \u2013 Similar to #3, if you don\u2019t love it for the sake of the \u201cart of Findom\u201d, then don\u2019t do it. You\u2019ll be doomed to fail. The successful ones love what they do and feel great when they do well but still determined if they have a slow spell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. RELATIONSHIPS<\/b><\/span> \u2013 You can make some great friendships. Not a lot, but you might and a handful of men or women that you can consider part of your social circle. The same goes for submissives. They might have to bow out of your contract or control (or the kink in general), but they might be lasting social connections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n IS IT WORTH IT?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is a question that only YOU can answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For me, I did the hustle as best as I could, but after a couple of years, but it came down to the choice two paths and which I wanted to devote my time to (because each one would require a huge chunk of my life). In the end, I decided to step away from Findom, not because I didn\u2019t enjoy the challenge or wanted to give up. It was just because the other option was something I loved more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But, it wasn\u2019t all for naught. I made one good online friend I still have today. I learned a lot about creative ways to make money and different concepts of branding and advertising.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I had an interesting experience that\u2019s a fun conversation topic. I honed my communication skills and ability to read people faster and weed out the creeps faster \u2013 which is good if you\u2019re involved in any form of kink or kink community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It was a fun stint. And one I don’t regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, if you want more useful articles, you might like these\u2026<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n What about you? Any Findoms out there who want to add advice or experiences?<\/strong> Share in the comments. 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