{"id":457,"date":"2019-10-08T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/beginners-anal-play"},"modified":"2026-03-04T08:12:19","modified_gmt":"2026-03-04T08:12:19","slug":"anal-play-guide-for-beginners","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/anal-play-guide-for-beginners","title":{"rendered":"Booty Basics &#8211; The Ultimate Cheeky Guide to Anal Play for Beginners"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hey there, all you adventurous readers! You&#8217;ve landed on this page because you&#8217;re curious about <strong>beginner&#8217;s anal play<\/strong>. First, congrats! You&#8217;re tiptoeing into a whole new world of yummy delights and we&#8217;re here to help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re brand new, getting the basics right matters, so understanding <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/anal-toys-beginner-guide\">what every beginner needs to know<\/a><\/strong> before starting will save you a lot of unnecessary discomfort and confusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Exploring something new can feel exciting and a little intimidating at the same time, which is why our <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-toys-beginners-guide\">Beginner Butt Plugs guide<\/a><\/strong> is a great starting point for understanding comfort, safety, and what to expect before you begin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this article, you find all the details you could possibly need for a pleasurable and pain-free experience. We&#8217;ll cover what steps you need to take to prepare, what lubes work for what situation, common problems, useful sex toy additions, etc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color:#f78da896\">Keep in mind that <strong>this isn&#8217;t geared towards how to have anal sex.<\/strong> There is a different guide (which you can find here). Instead, you&#8217;ll get advice that will help you get over the initial hump (pun intended) &#8211; even if you want to play solo!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"simpletoc-title\">What&#8217;s In This Article?<\/h2>\n<ul class=\"simpletoc-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#h-why-anal-play-is-pleasurable\">Why Anal Play is Pleasurable<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-worries-problems-that-get-in-the-way\">Worries &amp; Problems That Get in The Way<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-how-to-start-anal-play\">How To Start Anal Play<\/a>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-lots-of-lube-is-your-best-friend\">LOTS of Lube is Your Best Friend<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-beginner-s-play-tips-tactics\">Beginner&#8217;s Play Tips &amp; Tactics<\/a>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-gentlemen-find-your-p-spot\">Gentlemen, Find Your P-Spot<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-how-sex-toys-can-help\">How Sex Toys Can Help<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-all-your-anal-toy-options\">All Your Anal Toy Options<\/a>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-safe-anal-sex-toy-materials\">Safe Anal Sex Toy Materials<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-how-to-clean-and-care-for-your-bum-buddies\">How to Clean and Care for Your Bum Buddies<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-guide-to-anal-play-other-useful-tips\">Guide to Anal Play&nbsp;&#8211; Other Useful Tips<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-beginner-s-anal-sex-faqs\">Beginner&#8217;s Anal Sex FAQs<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-want-more-helpful-articles-like-this\">Want More Helpful Articles Like This?<\/a>\n<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-anal-play-is-pleasurable\"><strong>Why Anal Play is Pleasurable <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anal play can be <em>very <\/em>pleasurable. And no matter what gender\/sex you are, the geography of your backdoor button is the same. Every adult has a pile of nerve endings in this area. This makes it a possible &#8220;sex organ&#8221; if you can find your way in there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To quote <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC9242470\/#:~:text=The%20geography%20of%20the%20anus,orgasm%20%5B2%2C%203%5D.\">an article<\/a> from the National Library of Medicine,  <em><strong>&#8220;The geography of the anus makes it a highly pleasurable sex organ: it contains a dense network of sensory nerves that participate with the genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension, and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm.&#8221;<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This makes total sense because all your other fun bits around the same area. And, if you&#8217;ve already tried, but only felt pain, then <strong>vital steps were skipped.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-worries-problems-that-get-in-the-way\"><strong>Worries &amp; Problems That Get in The Way<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1240\" height=\"697\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-186-edited.png\" alt=\"sculpture of man's buttocks, anal pain, anal play pain\" class=\"wp-image-11756\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-186-edited.png 1240w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-186-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-186-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-186-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1240px) 100vw, 1240px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Global Getty<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Immediately Fearing Pain<\/strong> &#8211; One huge key to great bum play is to relax. If someone is stressed and their muscles are tense, pain will usually be inevitable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Being Worried About Poop<\/strong> &#8211; This is a big one for most people. There are solutions to this, which we&#8217;ll discuss later in the article.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Freaking Out About Sexual Preference<\/strong> &#8211; For some reason the <em>&#8220;If I have anal sex, I&#8217;m gay&#8221;<\/em> concept is still flying around. First, there&#8217;s nothing wrong with being gay. Second, enjoying anal play has nothing to do with what sex\/gender you prefer. Bums are bums no matter which way you flip it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Being Judged <\/strong>&#8211; Some people might be freaked out by telling their partner they want to experiment. I can&#8217;t speak to the other person&#8217;s reactions, but there is ZERO shame in wanting to explore this sort of pleasure. Just give the middle finger (which will also be useful later in the article too!)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-start-anal-play\"><strong>How To Start Anal Play<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"562\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-184-edited.png\" alt=\"Anal play, how to prepare for anal play, two women's buttocks in black panties\" class=\"wp-image-11757\" style=\"width:775px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-184-edited.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-184-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-184-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Pexels\/Unsplash<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Going through your backdoor requires more prep than other kinds of sexual acts. First, it is <strong>NOT something to rush. <\/strong>Even if your brain is screaming for an anal-assisted orgasm, you have to take your time. Here&#8217;s a list of (what I think) is the best set of steps for beginners on <strong>how to prepare for anal play<\/strong> and what to do once you get past the &#8220;first stage.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-communicate\"><strong>Communicate<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;re playing with someone and they are taking the reins of what&#8217;s going on, you HAVE to talk to them. Don&#8217;t flinch and stay quiet. Stop, keep going, out a little, hold there for a while, I need a break &#8211; these are all instructions that you should use, even if it&#8217;s second by second. <strong>Anal for beginners<\/strong> should be taken seriously (and with care).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"How to Prepare for Anal Sex (First Time Tips &amp; Tricks)\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WgszORyAJQs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">YouTube \/ <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@HelloTUSHY\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Hello TUSHY<\/a> \/ <strong>Video: How to Prep for Anal Sex (first-time tips and tricks)<\/strong> \/ [9:17min]<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-get-clean\"><strong>Get Clean<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, it&#8217;s important to keep in mind that there will inevitably be some residue, even if it&#8217;s just a tiny bit. Or, if you end up really getting into all things anal, the chances of making a &#8220;mess&#8221; are quite possible. It&#8217;s just the human body. But there are things you can do to help reduce the worry around this problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having an understanding and supportive partner helps &#8211; someone who knows what might happen, and isn&#8217;t phased by the thought and\/or won&#8217;t judge. Or, if you&#8217;re playing alone and have an &#8220;accident&#8221;, be forgiving to yourself. You&#8217;ve done nothing wrong. Other than that, here&#8217;s a list of tips that will also help&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"563\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-189-edited.png\" alt=\"Finger sleeves, finger cots\" class=\"wp-image-11761\" style=\"width:662px;height:375px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-189-edited.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-189-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-189-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">These are &#8220;finger condoms&#8221; but <strong>the proper name is &#8220;finger cots&#8221;<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Go to the bathroom before you start things<\/strong> (and after too).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you have <strong>diarrhea or hemorrhoids<\/strong>, don&#8217;t play at all.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Buy a <strong>protective undersheet, rubber\/latex sheet<\/strong>, or any liquid or mess-proof barrier to put under yourself or your linens. Even a towel is fine.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use<strong> baby wipes <\/strong>or a dedicated washcloth to clean outside and a little bit inside (if you can). Especially if rimming is on the menu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If a penis is going in there,<strong> always wear a condom.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Cleansing enemas<\/strong> (anal douches) are useful for extra cleaning and peace of mind. However, you&#8217;ll need to learn how to do them safely as well as <strong>the pros\/cons that come with them.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t forget your <strong>standard clean-up afterward.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-be-patient\"><strong>Be Patient<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the other person is impatient with wanting to dive in and not respecting your boundaries or wishes, then roll them out of bed and all the way out the front door. The same goes for solo play. Don&#8217;t push yourself. It&#8217;s okay if it takes a really long time for you to relax.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"612\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-190-edited.png\" alt=\"buttocks massage, anal play tips\" class=\"wp-image-11763\" style=\"width:775px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-190-edited.png 612w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-190-edited-300x169.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 612px) 100vw, 612px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: iStock free &#8211; <strong>Massage the lower back right above the bum crack<\/strong> <strong>for relaxation or stimulation<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-relax-relax-relax\"><strong>Relax, Relax, Relax<\/strong>!<\/h3>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the hardest obstacle to overcome. Your bum will want to clench, Never force anything past this. Meditate, listen to music or erotic audiobooks, do other sexual things, get a booty massage, BREATHE etc. Getting drunk is NOT recommended as a fixer for this. As for porn, if you like watching it, go for it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Never use porn as a guide<\/strong> to anything anal (or sexual for that matter). The ease with which the actors do things is because they&#8217;re was a massive amount of prep ahead of time, multiple takes that didn&#8217;t make the final cut, and unrealistic expectations that adult media sets in general. Think of it like models in magazines. They&#8217;ve photoshopped to hell. It&#8217;s fantasy, not reality. Porn is the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-getting-past-your-clencher\"><strong>Getting Past Your Clencher<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s a \u201cspot\u201d where your fingers, toy, penis, whatever, will finally slide past the muscles and into the canal &#8211; huzzah! You&#8217;ve finally gone past the &#8220;first step&#8221; (that I mentioned earlier).  At this point,  I would highly suggest letting things sit there for a little while so you get used to the sensation and your brain can disconnect the idea of ass=pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-go-slow\"><strong>Go Slow!<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re ready, move things around <strong>slowly<\/strong>, experimenting with movements or micro thrusts so you can find what your body likes. Never push yourself in the first stages. It&#8217;s all about learning and exploration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-lots-of-lube-is-your-best-friend\"><strong>LOTS of Lube is Your Best Friend<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"727\" height=\"454\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-191-edited.png\" alt=\"anal sex lube, best anal lube, pjur anal lube\" class=\"wp-image-11765\" style=\"width:549px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-191-edited.png 727w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-191-edited-300x187.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 727px) 100vw, 727px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Pjur &#8211; <strong>An excellent sex lube option<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is another ultimate rule \u2013 use lube! Playing dry is guaranteed to hurt. Our bum bums can&#8217;t naturally lubricate like vaginas. So, give it a helping hand. But if you think the amount you&#8217;ve dolloped on your fingers is enough &#8230; double or triple it. When we say use lots, use LOTS and reapply!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You can use<strong> water-based lube<\/strong> (which works for any sex toy and is easy to clean away but needs to be topped up more often).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can use <strong>silicone lube<\/strong> (which lasts much longer, but is a pain to clean out of sheets, and cannot be used with silicone toys).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>There are a ton of targeted sex lubes on the market to try. The <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-tips\/best-anal-lubes\">best anal lubes<\/a><\/strong> are pH balanced for that part of the body (which is a different Ph than a vagina).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The best lube for anal toys are ones that are still pH balanced, will last longer, and won&#8217;t ruin them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>NEVER use numbing lube! You need to know your pain so you can play safe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-beginner-s-play-tips-tactics\"><strong>Beginner&#8217;s Play Tips &amp; Tactics<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Do Women Like Anal Play?\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CKzb34dPI9Q?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">YouTube \/ <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@TheSexHealer\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Amanda Pasciucco, PhD, LMFT, Sex Therapist<\/a> \/ <strong>Video: Do Women Like Anal Play?<\/strong> \/ [3:28min]<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-try-fingers-first\"><strong>Try Fingers First<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p>Yep, your finger. <strong>It&#8217;s the smallest<\/strong> and safest \u201ctoy\u201d you\u2019ll be able to get your hands on. Why? It&#8217;s the sheer mental aspect of knowing you\u2019re inserting something that&#8217;s way smaller than what you &#8220;export&#8221; when you go to the bathroom on any given day. Your body can comfortably handle far more when it&#8217;s your own body than a foreign object.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Make sure you&#8217;re fingers are <strong>trimmed down<\/strong> <strong>and filed<\/strong>. You don\u2019t want scratching or micro-cuts.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Wearing <strong>latex gloves, a condom over your digits, or fingering covers<\/strong> (which are cheaper than condoms) are not only protective but make for easy cleanup.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Play <strong>AROUND <\/strong>the hole for a while before going in.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Stay shallow<\/strong> for a bit before trying anything deep.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>And, believe it or not, <strong>wash your hands and\/or toys before playing.<\/strong> You don&#8217;t want to introduce any extra bacteria or other nasties.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-switch-up-positions\"><strong>Switch Up Positions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;re having problems with discomfort or pain, try changing your position. There&#8217;s no right or wrong as to which is best because it&#8217;s all dependent on what works for you. Just don&#8217;t lay on your back and then call it quits. Try doggy style, laying on your face, or straddling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-give-rimming-a-go\"><strong>Give Rimming a Go<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<p>The idea of licking someone&#8217;s starfish might be icky to some. To others, it might sound like heaven. But if you&#8217;re partner is up for playing, it&#8217;s a great relaxer\/stimulator to get you going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left\"><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-gentlemen-find-your-p-spot\"><strong>Gentlemen, Find Your P-Spot<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re just learning anal play, it\u2019s not vital to immediately find your p-spot (prostate). But as you progress up your comfort levels, here is a handy diagram to help you find it\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.lovense.com\/UploadFiles\/file\/20191008\/Prostate-Cancer-Anatomy.jpg\" alt=\"anatomy drawing to find the prostate, prostate play\" style=\"width:621px;height:321px\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Just like women have to learn to find their g-spot, <strong>it will take time to for men to find their magic place<\/strong>. But, as you can see, it\u2019s not that far in. You can easily reach it with your fingers. If you can graduate to two, find the p-spot and gently massage it with a \u201ccome hither\u201d motion. Experiment until you start to feel shivers up your spine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-sex-toys-can-help\">How Sex Toys Can Help<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-195-1024x576.png\" alt=\"anal toys for men, Lovense Edge 2, vibrating prostate massager\" class=\"wp-image-11770\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-195-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-195-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-195-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-195.png 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">(Credit: Lovense <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/oxan8h\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Edge 2<\/a>) <strong>Want a prostate massager for anal toy play? Make sure it&#8217;s adjustable &#8211; because we all have different curves.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:10px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>There are some <strong>great anal play ideas<\/strong>, but at the top of the list will be sex toys. They can help with one major anal play obstacle &#8211; your fingers getting tired or achy from trying to reach around. Or, using one DURING anal play can help make you feel all happy and buzzy inside &#8211; which can help with &#8220;relaxation&#8221; (not the zen kind, more of the &#8220;don&#8217;t pucker your butt&#8221; kind).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are <strong>regular dildos, clit stimulators, thrusting dildos, love eggs, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/store\/vibrating-panties\">Vibrating panties<\/a>, masturbators, masturbation sleeves, vibrating nipple clamps<\/strong>, you name it. Playing with an anal toy (especially one with a motor) or doubling down with another sort of adult product can feel utterly divine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-all-your-anal-toy-options\">All Your Anal Toy Options<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are some things that might make your knees weak and fantasies come so close to being true, but some of them are more for advanced users\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"563\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-197-edited.png\" alt=\"anal trainer butt plug set\" class=\"wp-image-11773\" style=\"width:572px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-197-edited.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-197-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-197-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><strong>Anal Training Set<\/strong> by Loveplugs.co &#8211; <strong>Great for beginners<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-beginner-s-toys\">Beginner&#8217;s Toys<\/h3>\n\n\n<p><strong>BUTT PLUGS \u2013 A good plus will have a tapered tip, thin neck, and flared base \u2013 FLARED BASES<\/strong> are important for any anal toy so it doesn\u2019t get lost up your colon. Bonus if it&#8217;s a <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/1cfpos\">vibrating butt plug<\/a><\/strong> for extra pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>ANAL TRAINING TOYS<\/strong>&#8211; These beauties will be your best friend. They are simply a set of butt plugs that graduate in size, so you can use the bigger ones as you grow more comfortable. Make sure you get silicone or medical-grade stainless steel (depending on which you prefer the feeling of and which you can afford).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>ANAL DILDOS<\/strong> \u2013 If you can find a dildo with a flared base, and in a diameter that suits you, the vibrations can do wonders for an orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re looking for an anal plug that\u2019s easy to get comfortable with, <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/lush-anal-remote-control-vibrating-small-butt-plug\">Lovense Lush Anal<\/a><\/strong> is a beginner-friendly option. It\u2019s slimmer than most plugs, sits comfortably for longer sessions, and lets you control the vibrations through a robust app. It\u2019s also quiet and waterproof, so you can focus on relaxing instead of worrying about noise or timing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Specs to consider:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Diameter: under 1&#8243; (21.5 mm)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Vibration power: up to 7,500 vibrations\/min<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Battery life: up to ~237 minutes (almost 4 hours)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Charging time: up to 45 minutes<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Noise level: around 33 dB<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/lush-anal-remote-control-vibrating-small-butt-plug\">Learn more about Lovense Lush Anal<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"874\" height=\"413\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/image-159.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-29132\" style=\"width:458px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/image-159.png 874w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/image-159-300x142.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/image-159-768x363.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/image-159-585x276.png 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 874px) 100vw, 874px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-intermediate-options\">Intermediate Options<\/h3>\n\n\n<p><strong>ANAL BEADS<\/strong> &#8211; These are \u201cadvanced\u201d because your anus must be ready to \u201copen and close\u201d over several beads (going in AND coming out). This includes \u201cdildos\u201d that have the shape of anal beads.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>INFLATABLE TOYS<\/strong> \u2013 I recommend these for more of an intermediate toy. You can pump them up which allows your canal to get used to bigger diameters, but that\u2019s only if you feel like going past the diameter of your largest anal trainer. Even then you can just use dildos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>PROSTATE MASSAGERS<\/strong> \u2013 I say these are advanced because they have a steep learning curve and are not toys that deliver fast orgasms. They are the slow turtles in what we normally treat as a rabbit race.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-199-edited.png\" alt=\"Inflatable butt plug\" class=\"wp-image-11776\" style=\"width:492px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-199-edited.png 1200w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-199-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-199-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-199-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><strong>Intermediate toy &#8211; Inflatable Butt Plug<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\" id=\"h-advanced-bad-boys\">Advanced Bad Boys<\/h3>\n\n\n<p><strong>ANAL<\/strong> <strong>HOOKS <\/strong>\u2013 Very advanced and often used in bondage and other BDSM scenes. NEVER use these as a form of suspension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>SPREADERS<\/strong> \u2013 Think of a flower. You close the petals, it goes in your bum, and BOOM the petals open. It literally \u201cspreads\u201d you. They can also be called <strong>anal stretchers.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>STRAPONS<\/strong> \u2013 If you are ready to let someone else peg you, YOU should have at least a basic understanding of your body and what your bum can handle before you let someone else in there. You also need to be able to communicate really well during the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>ESTIM ANAL TOYS<\/strong> \u2013 E-stim in general (for any toy or purpose) is considered advanced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-safe-anal-sex-toy-materials\">Safe Anal Sex Toy Materials<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>There are two things you need to consider with materials\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff0099;\">Is it porous?<\/span> <\/strong>If it is you\u2019ll never be able to 100% clean it. The micro-crevices will hold and germinate bacteria and other nasties. <strong><span style=\"color: #ff0099;\">Is it body-safe?<\/span> <\/strong>Some manufacturers cut corners by using cheap materials. But it\u2019s these additives or materials that can harm your body \u2013 including some of the nastiest rashes you\u2019ll ever experience in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"432\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-203-edited.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-11781\" style=\"width:570px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-203-edited.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-203-edited-300x169.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><strong>Silicone anal beads &#8211; The end ring makes it easy to pull out<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Stainless steel <\/strong>\u2013 not cheap nickel-plated stuff, high quality or medical grade is best<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Pure silicone<\/strong> \u2013 not mixtures with other additives<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>ABS Plastic<\/strong> &#8211; some toys come with certain parts that are made with plastic (like buttons or decorations). As long as you can clean around them, it&#8217;s fine.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Glass<\/strong> \u2013 as long as it\u2019s made correctly and uses the <strong>right <\/strong>kind of glass<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>These are the go-tos in my opinion. Which one you want to try is up to you. If you like the feeling of something flexible or rigid. Some might also suggest TPE or TPR (rubber) because it&#8217;s flexible and cheaper, but you\u2019ll have to cover it with a condom because it\u2019s very porous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-clean-and-care-for-your-bum-buddies\"><strong>How to Clean and Care for Your Bum Buddies<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"563\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-204-edited.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-11783\" style=\"width:775px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-204-edited.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-204-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-204-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Wikimedia Commons<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You should be cleaning ANY sex toy before and after use.<\/strong> But it&#8217;s especially important with anal toys. They will always end up with some kind of fecal matter on them. So, be diligent in your toy hygiene. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">Use warm water and mild (antibacterial) soap<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Dry thoroughly<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Store in an individual baggie or box<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If it vibrates, recharge fully every 6 months (regardless of usage)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If it has batteries, take them out when you&#8217;re not using the toy<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can sterilize (once in a while) with a 10% bleach solution (rinse well)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-guide-to-anal-play-other-useful-tips\"><strong>Guide to Anal Play &#8211; Other Useful Tips<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1760\" height=\"990\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited.png\" alt=\"image of a peach, anal play guide, anal sex tips\" class=\"wp-image-11754\" style=\"width:775px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited.png 1760w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-185-edited-1536x864.png 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1760px) 100vw, 1760px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Getty Images \/ ZhiHao<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Never share anal toys<\/strong> with someone you aren&#8217;t 100% sure about their sexual health (which is pretty much never).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Save <strong>&#8220;animal tail&#8221; plugs<\/strong> for intermediate use (unless the tail is made from silicone). You want to be able to keep the fur clean.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Showers <\/strong>are not only great for preparing your backside for play but they can also be used as a relaxation technique.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Don&#8217;t neglect foreplay. <\/strong>Have plenty before even thinking about the other side.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Never use a toy\/finger\/whatever that&#8217;s been in someone&#8217;s bum and <strong>transfer to a vagina.<\/strong> It&#8217;s a guaranteed infection.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Touch other parts<\/strong> of your body while you&#8217;re playing.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Even if there is poop, <strong>anal sex isn&#8217;t dirty<\/strong> &#8211; but I&#8217;m talking about the &#8220;it&#8217;s wrong!&#8221; kind.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Take as many breaks as you need.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Pulling out the toy just as your orgasm<\/strong> can send off bigger fireworks for some people. But don&#8217;t try this until you&#8217;re comfortable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Suction cup dildos<\/strong> can be okay as long as they are anal-safe.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Up your<strong> fiber intake<\/strong> to proper levels to have regular bowel movements.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Some women say <strong>anal play during their period<\/strong> is quite pleasurable (even more if you wear a menstrual cup).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Keep all your materials close by<\/strong> so you don&#8217;t have to get up.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I<strong>t&#8217;s okay if you don&#8217;t have an orgasm. <\/strong>The focus is pleasure, not a grand finale. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The feeling like you have to fart or poop is normal.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-beginner-s-anal-sex-faqs\"><strong>Beginner&#8217;s Anal Sex FAQs<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"632\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-205-edited.png\" alt=\"beginner's anal play, anal sex\" class=\"wp-image-11785\" style=\"width:775px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-205-edited.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-205-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-205-edited-1024x575.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-205-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Pexels<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"schema-faq wp-block-yoast-faq-block\"><div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693320329911\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What are some other benefits of anal play?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">The same benefits as the other kinds of masturbation &#8211; lowered stress, better sleep, improved mood, pain relief, etc. <\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693320559136\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Can anal sex cause pregnancy?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Yes, you can! If you&#8217;re careless with cleanup or &#8220;cross-pollination&#8221; with sex toys, pregnancy is a total possibility.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693320778042\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What should I do if I feel sore after?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Take a break from anal play and focus on healing. Being sore after means something wasn&#8217;t done right or went too far\/fast.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693320822837\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What if there is blood?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">You might see the tiniest of smudges on your toilet paper once in a while when you&#8217;re cleaning up. It&#8217;s from micro-tears or pushing your anus too fast. But more than that is NOT okay and you should seek a medical professional immediately.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693320917896\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Should I have a safeword for anal play?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">You totally can! It doesn&#8217;t have to be kinky to want a safeword.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693321072025\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What is a sacral massage?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Is where you massage the lower part of the back that&#8217;s just above the butt crack. It&#8217;s often overlooked (just like playing with the perineum).<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693321362688\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">I tried anal play, but I still don&#8217;t like it.<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Then don&#8217;t do it anymore. You don&#8217;t have to do anything you don&#8217;t want to. And don&#8217;t let someone force, guilt, or manipulate you past your boundaries. <\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1693321432992\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Can I get STIs from anal play?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Yep. You can. Even condoms aren&#8217;t 100%, but they&#8217;re close. The chances increase with any micro-tears in the anal cavity or around the rim. Make sure you and your partner(s) have regular tests and never share toys.<\/p> <\/div> <\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-want-more-helpful-articles-like-this\"><strong>Want More Helpful Articles Like This?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You now have everything you need for beginner anal play! But if you have any questions or want to leave other suggestions, leave a comment below. 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