{"id":370,"date":"2019-01-28T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-01-28T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/romantic-bdsm"},"modified":"2019-01-28T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2019-01-28T00:00:00","slug":"romantic-bdsm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/romantic-bdsm","title":{"rendered":"8 Romantic BDSM Ideas – Lighter and Loving Ways to Get Kinky"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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We\u2019re not talking about BDSM in romance novels, no. We\u2019re talking about the romantic BDSM that can be done in the bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBut, romantic<\/em>?!\u201d you ask. \u201cI thought BDSM was all about spanking and being dominant or mean.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nope, Bondage, Dominance\/Submission, and Sadomasochism can be on ANY end of the spectrum<\/strong>. It can be feather-light contact and a gentle, loving touch. You don\u2019t have to tie someone down when you can keep them in place with your eyes \u2013 a passionate stare that shows how badly you want them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some ways you can take the intense world of BDSM and tone it down into something less intimidating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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NON-PAIN CANDLES<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Instead of dripping wax over your partner\u2019s body, use your candles for romantic ambiance. OR if you\u2019re REALLY interested in using them for something other than light, there are \u201cmassage candles\u201d  – which are soy based, low melting point candles that melt into massage oil. Follow the instructions to the letter, and have the end result be an erotic massage that has him\/her begging for more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some extra good news, since it\u2019s massage oil, it\u2019s good for the skin and you don\u2019t have to shower after \u2026 unless you\u2019re sticky from other things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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LIGHTER DIRTY TALK<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Instead of describing sex acts in juicy detail, tell your partner how they make you feel, why they are special, what you dream of etc. This can extend to a more loving version of sexting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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GOOD \u2018OL SAUCE<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We can\u2019t have a list of kinky things without going for the traditional \u201clicking things off someone\u2019s body\u201d. And while there\u2019s chocolate sauce or caramel, don\u2019t forget other things that the two of you might like \u2013 even jam if that\u2019s what floats your boat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The biggest thing to remember isn\u2019t about the food; it\u2019s about the \u201cpresentation\u201d \u2026 the visual production of the show you\u2019re helping unfold. Put things only slowly, mix them with lustful words, bites, kisses, or tickles. Don\u2019t just slather it on and let the bottle make farting sounds (unless you want a giggle, which is totally okay too), rather put things in nice dishes on a tray, get a new\/clean paintbrush and decorate your partner\u2019s body like a canvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alternatively, you can blindfold your lover and feed them sensual food \u2013 even make a guessing game out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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RESTRAINTS BUT NOT RESTRAINTS<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being tied up isn\u2019t for everyone, but if you still want to get into some light form of bondage, just imagine holding your partner down <\/strong>while you make love to them, or pinning them against the wall as you kiss them passionately.  Yummy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want something a little harder, fuzzy handcuffs are fun!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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IMPACT PLAY THAT\u2019S NOT REALLY IMPACT<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Did you know spanking and flogging don\u2019t HAVE TO be hard? Yep!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are rabbit fur or silk floggers<\/strong> that can tickle or give very light sensations when brought down on the skin. You CAN get leather or suede etc. (even those cheap ones that come with the \u201cbeginner BDSM sets\u201d) all you have to do is make sure the strands are short and have a very gentle hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The same goes for spanking. There\u2019s no need to leave red marks everywhere. Use light taps to get your lover excited,<\/strong> bend them over your knee and hold them close while whispering in their ear all the things you want to do to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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SIMPLER ROLE PLAYS<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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No, not the dirty nurse giving a physical or the twisted boss making you perform oral for a raise. I\u2019m talking about pretending you\u2019re meeting for the first time at a bar, library, or park.  Maybe you\u2019re meeting for a secret rendezvous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or, you can stay as you are and make the whole night about teasing each other and ramping up the desire while you\u2019re out on date night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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TAKE AWAY THEIR SIGHT<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Blindfolds aren\u2019t just for beginner BDSM players; they\u2019re fantastic for sensory deprivation<\/strong>.  Because when you take away their sight, everything else gets ramped up \u2013 every kiss, caress, and thrust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you don\u2019t have a blindfold, a silk scarf or something else that\u2019s soft will do the trick.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What extra stimulation? Add a magic wand or bullet vibe<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Find some super-powerful toys here<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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FEMALE TARGETED PORN<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There\u2019s porn made towards women \u2013 still with plenty of sex, but the feeling is less gritty, sleazy, and with plenty of female pleasure. Find one you like and either watch during foreplay or try to recreate what you see. It\u2019s not really BDSM, mind you, but it\u2019s kinky for some people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Also, if you liked this article, you might like these\u2026<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n