{"id":32360,"date":"2026-10-02T00:48:40","date_gmt":"2026-10-02T00:48:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/?p=32360"},"modified":"2026-10-02T00:48:44","modified_gmt":"2026-10-02T00:48:44","slug":"orgasm-gap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/orgasm-gap","title":{"rendered":"The Orgasm Gap Is Real: Why Women Finish Less &amp; How Couples Can Fix It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>TL;DR<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The orgasm gap is the difference in how often men and women orgasm during heterosexual sex: roughly 95% vs 65%.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It&#8217;s mostly cultural, not biological. Women orgasm far more often alone and with female partners.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The biggest cause is not enough clitoral stimulation. Only 4% of women say penetration alone is their most reliable route to orgasm.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Couples can close the gap through communication, redefining foreplay, taking turns, and adding sex toys.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Wearable and app-controlled toys make it easy to add more stimulation and let your partner join in.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div role=\"navigation\" aria-label=\"Table of Contents\" class=\"simpletoc wp-block-simpletoc-toc\"><h2 class=\"simpletoc-title\">Table of Contents<\/h2>\n<ul class=\"simpletoc-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#what-is-the-orgasm-gap\">What Is the Orgasm Gap?<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#how-big-is-the-orgasm-gap-what-the-research-says\">How Big Is the Orgasm Gap? What the Research Says<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#why-do-women-orgasm-less-than-men\">Why Do Women Orgasm Less Than Men?<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#how-couples-can-close-the-orgasm-gap\">How Couples Can Close the Orgasm Gap<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#can-sex-toys-help-what-are-some-options\">Can Sex Toys Help? What Are Some Options?<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#its-not-about-keeping-score\">It&#039;s Not About Keeping Score<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#faqs-about-the-orgasm-gap\">FAQs About the Orgasm Gap<\/a>\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#final-thoughts\">Final Thoughts<\/a>\n<\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Picture a steamy sex scene from your favorite show. Two people fall into bed, things heat up, and both of them climax at the exact same moment. It&#8217;s a lovely fantasy. It&#8217;s also not how things usually go. In real life, there&#8217;s a big difference in how often men and women orgasm during sex. In <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1007\/s10508-017-0939-z\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">one study<\/a> of more than 50,000 adults, 95% of heterosexual men said they usually or always orgasm during sex, compared with just 65% of heterosexual women. That difference has a name: the orgasm gap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The good news? The orgasm gap isn&#8217;t a biological life sentence. Research points to causes couples can actually change, and small shifts in how you have sex can make a big difference. Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s behind it and how to close it together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"what-is-the-orgasm-gap\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Is the Orgasm Gap?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The orgasm gap (also called the pleasure gap or orgasm inequality) is the difference in how often men and women reach orgasm during sex, especially heterosexual sex. Across nearly every group researchers have studied, heterosexual women report the lowest orgasm rates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here&#8217;s how the <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1007\/s10508-017-0939-z\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">numbers break down<\/a> by gender and sexual orientation:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><thead><tr><th>Group<\/th><th>Usually or always orgasm during sex<\/th><\/tr><\/thead><tbody><tr><td>Heterosexual men<\/td><td>95%<\/td><\/tr><tr><td>Gay men<\/td><td>89%<\/td><\/tr><tr><td>Bisexual men<\/td><td>88%<\/td><\/tr><tr><td>Lesbian women<\/td><td>86%<\/td><\/tr><tr><td>Bisexual women<\/td><td>66%<\/td><\/tr><tr><td>Heterosexual women<\/td><td>65%<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Look closely and something jumps out. Lesbian women orgasm at rates almost as high as men. If women&#8217;s orgasms were simply &#8220;harder&#8221; by nature, that wouldn&#8217;t happen. The gap is less about female bodies and more about what typically happens during sex with men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"how-big-is-the-orgasm-gap-what-the-research-says\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Big Is the Orgasm Gap? What the Research Says<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The orgasm gap has been documented in scientific research for more than 20 years, and the numbers are remarkably consistent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>It shows up at every age.<\/strong> A <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1093\/sexmed\/qfae042\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">2024 study in <em>Sexual Medicine<\/em><\/a> looked at nearly 25,000 single adults aged 18 to 100. In every age group, men reported higher orgasm rates than women. Men&#8217;s rates ranged from 70% to 85%, while women&#8217;s ranged from 46% to 58%, a gap of 22 to 30 percentage points no matter the age. Getting older and more experienced didn&#8217;t close it on its own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Many men don&#8217;t realize it&#8217;s happening.<\/strong> In a <a href=\"https:\/\/nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu\/keyfindings\/index.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">nationally representative US study<\/a>, 85% of men said their partner had an orgasm the last time they had sex. Only 64% of women said they actually did. That&#8217;s a lot of people who think everything&#8217;s fine when it isn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Women orgasm much more in some situations.<\/strong> At least <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/the-orgasm-gap-and-why-women-climax-less-than-men-208614\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">92% of women orgasm when they masturbate<\/a>. Women also orgasm more in committed relationships than in casual sex. In a study of more than 12,000 college students, just 10% of women said they orgasmed during first-time hookups, compared with 68% during sex in a committed relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Faking it is common.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/the-orgasm-gap-and-why-women-climax-less-than-men-208614\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Studies <\/a>suggest that between 53% and 85% of women have faked an orgasm, usually during intercourse and often to protect their partner&#8217;s feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Put those findings together and the picture is clear. Women are fully capable of orgasm. The gap appears when the type of sex they&#8217;re having doesn&#8217;t give them what their bodies need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center has-luminous-vivid-orange-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9751eeb252fc96d09bea4a6df2f11e0a\"><strong>Close the gap with powerful, app-controlled sex toys<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"affiliate-style-0ff86b8e-919d-441c-89a1-0f2803b536b3\" class=\"wp-block-affiliate-booster-ab-coupon2 affiliate-block-0ff86b8e-919d-441c-89a1-0f2803b536b3 affiliate-coupon-wrapper layout1 style2\"><ul class=\"affiliate-coupon-inner block2 colblock2 style2\"><li class=\"affiliate-block-col box1\"><div class=\"affiliate-coupon-starrating1\"><div class=\"affiliate-star-item\"><svg xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" style=\"fill:#ffa500\" fill=\"#ffa500\" viewBox=\"0 0 510 510\"><polygon points=\"255,402.212 412.59,497.25 370.897,318.011 510,197.472 326.63,181.738 255,12.75 183.371,181.738 0,197.472 139.103,318.011 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class=\"affiliate-coupon-btn\"><div class=\"affiliate-coupon-btn-wrapper2\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/best-sex-toys-for-women-g-spot-vibrator-clit-stimulator-lush-4\" class=\"affiliate-btn  btn-is-small btn-is-fullw btn-is-rounded\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><i class=\"affiliate-abbtn-icon  af-icon-is-left\"><\/i>Learn More<i class=\"affiliate-abbtn-icon af-icon-is-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-productcol2-amzon-price below\"><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-productcol2-amzon-rating below\"><\/div><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"why-do-women-orgasm-less-than-men\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why Do Women Orgasm Less Than Men?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There&#8217;s no single cause, but researchers keep landing on the same handful of reasons. Most of them are cultural, which is exactly why they&#8217;re fixable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"not-enough-clitoral-stimulation\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Not Enough Clitoral Stimulation<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the big one. The majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. That makes sense when you know the clitoris and penis develop from the same tissue, and both are packed with sensitive nerve endings and erectile tissue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sex <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/the-orgasm-gap-and-why-women-climax-less-than-men-208614\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">researcher Laurie Mintz<\/a> has asked thousands of women about their most reliable route to orgasm. Only 4% said penetration. The other 96% said clitoral stimulation, either on its own or paired with penetration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In other words, expecting most women to orgasm from penetration alone is like expecting most men to orgasm from having their thighs rubbed. It can happen, but it&#8217;s not the main event for most bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"the-foreplay-intercourse-done-script\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">The &#8220;Foreplay, Intercourse, Done&#8221; Script<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Movies, TV shows, and even men&#8217;s magazines tend to portray women climaxing from intercourse alone. Over time, that creates an unspoken script for how sex &#8220;should&#8221; go: a little foreplay to get her ready, then intercourse, then his orgasm, then sex is over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even our language reinforces it. We use &#8220;sex&#8221; and &#8220;intercourse&#8221; as if they mean the same thing, and we call clitoral stimulation &#8220;foreplay,&#8221; as if it&#8217;s just the warm-up act. When the thing that works best for women is treated as optional, it&#8217;s no surprise their orgasms get skipped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"gaps-in-sex-education\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gaps in Sex Education<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Most people never learn much about female pleasure. One <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vice.com\/en\/article\/almost-half-of-british-women-cant-correctly-locate-the-vagina-or-cervix\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">2010 study of US college students<\/a> found 44% of men couldn&#8217;t identify the clitoris on a diagram. When sex ed focuses on reproduction and risk, porn often ends up filling the gaps, and porn is famously bad at showing what actually works for women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"faking-it-keeps-the-cycle-going\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Faking It Keeps the Cycle Going<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Faking an orgasm usually comes from a kind place. Maybe you&#8217;re tired, you don&#8217;t want your partner to feel bad, or you just want it to end on a happy note. But every fake orgasm teaches your partner that what they did worked, which makes it more likely they&#8217;ll do the same thing next time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"performance-pressure\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Performance Pressure<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s the twist: focusing too hard on her orgasm can backfire. When sex starts to feel like a test with a pass\/fail outcome, it becomes harder to relax, and relaxation is a big part of arousal. Many women also worry about how they look or whether they&#8217;re pleasing their partner, which pulls attention away from their own pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"how-couples-can-close-the-orgasm-gap\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Couples Can Close the Orgasm Gap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Knowing why the gap exists is step one. Closing it takes a few practical changes, and none of them require a complete sex life overhaul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"talk-about-it-outside-the-bedroom\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Talk About It Outside the Bedroom<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>The middle of sex is the worst time for a big conversation. Bring it up somewhere relaxed, like on a walk or over coffee, and frame it as something you&#8217;re exploring together, not a complaint. A few easy openers:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>&#8220;I read something about the orgasm gap and it made me curious about us.&#8221;<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>&#8220;I&#8217;d love to try some new things together. Want to experiment?&#8221;<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>&#8220;What&#8217;s something you&#8217;ve always wanted to try but haven&#8217;t brought up?&#8221;<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep blame out of it. The goal isn&#8217;t to point out what&#8217;s been going wrong. It&#8217;s to build something better together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"learn-what-works-solo-first\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Learn What Works Solo First<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s hard to ask for what you want if you don&#8217;t know what that is. Masturbation is one of the best ways to learn what kind of touch, pressure, speed, and rhythm works for your body. Research on closing the orgasm gap consistently recommends it as a starting point, paired with the confidence to share what you learn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"show-and-tell\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Show and Tell<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Words can only go so far. Guiding your partner&#8217;s hand, or letting them watch how you touch yourself, removes the guesswork completely. It can feel vulnerable at first, but many couples find it one of the most intimate things they do together. Partners, this is your cue to pay attention and ask questions like &#8220;more pressure or less?&#8221; instead of guessing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"redefine-foreplay-as-sex\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Redefine Foreplay as Sex<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Oral sex, manual stimulation, kissing, and touching aren&#8217;t just the opening act. They&#8217;re sex. When couples stop treating intercourse as the &#8220;real&#8221; part, they naturally spend more time on the things that help women orgasm. Slow down, extend the build-up, and let penetration become one option instead of the finish line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"take-turns\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Take Turns<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of trying to make everything happen at once, take turns focusing on one partner at a time. A common approach is for her to orgasm first through oral sex or manual stimulation, then move on to intercourse. It takes the pressure off syncing up and makes sure nobody&#8217;s left hanging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"add-clitoral-stimulation-during-intercourse\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Add Clitoral Stimulation During Intercourse<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>If you both enjoy penetration, you don&#8217;t have to give it up. Just stop expecting it to do all the work. She can touch herself during intercourse, her partner can reach around, or you can bring in a vibrator. Positions that let her grind or control the angle, like being on top, also make clitoral contact easier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"can-sex-toys-help-what-are-some-options\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Can Sex Toys Help? 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Your partner can control the vibrations from across the room or across the world, which makes them a great fit for long-distance couples too. Being able to say &#8220;a little more&#8221; or &#8220;right there&#8221; while your partner adjusts in real time is basically show and tell, upgraded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"lovense-ecosystem\" class=\"wp-block-heading has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5d5265c97f4e128cbcb00ea5c1138115\">Lovense Ecosystem<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A Lovense toy can be more than a single device. 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Whether you are choosing your first toy, adding to your collection, exploring couple\u2019s play, or looking for more interactive ways to enjoy your device, the Lovense ecosystem gives you more ways to personalize the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"its-not-about-keeping-score\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">It&#8217;s Not About Keeping Score<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Closing the orgasm gap doesn&#8217;t mean every single encounter has to end with two orgasms. Sometimes sex is about closeness, fun, or comfort, and that&#8217;s perfectly fine. Chasing an orgasm too hard can even make it harder to reach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The real goal is fairness: both partners feeling like their pleasure matters equally. And the benefits go beyond the bedroom. Women who feel entitled to sexual pleasure are more confident telling partners what they want, and more confident saying no to things they don&#8217;t want. Many women say feeling empowered in bed made them feel more confident in the rest of their lives too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So talk openly, stay curious, and treat pleasure as something you build together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"faqs-about-the-orgasm-gap\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">FAQs About the Orgasm Gap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"what-is-the-orgasm-gap-2\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is the orgasm gap?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>The orgasm gap is the difference in how often men and women reach orgasm during sex. In heterosexual sex, about 95% of men usually or always orgasm, compared with about 65% of women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"why-do-women-orgasm-less-than-men-2\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why do women orgasm less than men?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>The main reason is not enough clitoral stimulation. Most women need it to orgasm, but cultural scripts focus sex on penetration. Gaps in sex education, faking orgasms, and performance pressure also play a role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"is-the-orgasm-gap-biological\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Is the orgasm gap biological?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Mostly no. Women orgasm far more often when masturbating, in committed relationships, and with female partners. If the gap were purely biological, those rates wouldn&#8217;t change so much depending on the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"do-lesbian-women-have-more-orgasms\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do lesbian women have more orgasms?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes. Research shows 86% of lesbian women usually or always orgasm during sex, close to men&#8217;s rates. Their sexual encounters tend to include more oral sex and often last longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"how-can-couples-close-the-orgasm-gap\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">How can couples close the orgasm gap?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Talk openly outside the bedroom, spend more time on oral and manual stimulation, take turns focusing on each partner, and add clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Sex toys can make this much easier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"do-sex-toys-help-women-orgasm-during-sex\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do sex toys help women orgasm during sex?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes. Research shows women who use vibrators have more orgasms. Wearable and app-controlled toys are especially useful because they add hands-free stimulation and let your partner join in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"is-it-normal-not-to-orgasm-from-penetration-alone\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Is it normal not to orgasm from penetration alone?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Completely normal. Only about 4% of women say penetration is their most reliable route to orgasm. Most need clitoral stimulation, either on its own or alongside penetration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 id=\"does-the-orgasm-gap-change-with-age\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Does the orgasm gap change with age?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Not much. A 2024 study of nearly 25,000 single adults aged 18 to 100 found the gap stays between 22 and 30 percentage points across every age group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"final-thoughts\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Final Thoughts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At the end of the day, this isn&#8217;t really about numbers. It&#8217;s about two people wanting the same thing for each other, real, mutual pleasure, and being willing to talk about what gets in the way of that. Some nights that means slowing down. Some nights it means trying something new, or just asking a question you&#8217;ve never asked out loud before. None of it has to be perfect or happen all at once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What matters is that both people&#8217;s pleasure gets treated like it counts. That&#8217;s not a big, dramatic shift, it&#8217;s a handful of small ones, repeated over time. And most couples find that once they start having these conversations, sex actually gets more fun, not more like a project.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"want-more-reads\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Want More Reads?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/delayed-orgasm-guide\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Delayed Orgasm: Why It Happens and How to Work Through It<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/how-to-have-sex\/sex-tips\/female-masturbation-guide-to-powerful-orgasms\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Female Masturbation \u2014 Women\u2019s Guide to Powerful Orgasm Techniques<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/nipple-orgasms-tips-for-intense-pleasure\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Exploring Nipple Orgasms: Tips for Intense Sensual Pleasure<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>TL;DR Picture a steamy sex scene from your favorite show. 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