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There are a lot of different styles \u2013 from hot stone to Shiatsu. However, what you\u2019ll be doing is something closer to a gentle, erotic or romantic Swedish Massage with perhaps a dash of aromatherapy (depending if you make your own oils) and\u00a0a happy ending (should you choose).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Swedish massage is very common; something you see in spas and gyms etc. It\u2019s based on the Western ideas of anatomy and health rather than the energy-based Asian schools. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n It uses five kinds of strokes:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Most people will stick to 1 and 2 when they give their partner a massage, but it\u2019s worth looking into 3 as well. Do NOT try 4 or 5 without training (especially 5) \u2013 they\u2019re also movements you would not<\/em> associate with a romantic massage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Make sure the area is private<\/strong> and (if possible) temperature controlled<\/strong> \u2013 around 25 degrees C is good. You don\u2019t want the person too hot or cold. However, even if it\u2019s a good temperature, the naked body can still get a chill, so have a couple of warm, soft blankets handy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Music should be soft and without lyrics. Why? We want the person to relax and let their minds go and feel free to slip into arousal \u2013 not be thinking about what\u2019s being sung in the background.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Atmospheric music<\/strong> with nature sounds, yoga music, or environmental ambiance all work very well. If all else fails, type in \u201cmusic for massage\/relaxation\/stress relief\u201d into YouTube.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Candles are perfect<\/strong> \u2013 specifically tea lights (they won\u2019t fall over and come in many scents). If you\u2019re worried about fire hazards, electric candles will work. If you\u2019re lucky enough to have a dimmer dial, turn it way down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n EXTRA TIP:<\/strong> <\/span>Have them take a warm shower or hot bath first. Massaging on clean skin is nicer and they\u2019ll be relaxed from the heat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n There\u2019s no \u201cwrong choice\u201d \u2013 I might say that \u201cwarming\u201d and \u201ccooling\u201d oils should be avoided since they might cause an allergic reaction and aren\u2019t good for a lady\u2019s private parts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That being said, there are a ton to choose from:<\/strong> Almond, apricot kernel, avocado, camelia, coconut, grapeseed, hemp, jojoba, rosehip seed, safflower, soy, sunflower, walnut, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n NOTE:<\/strong> <\/span>Almond <\/strong>is among the most popular because it\u2019s smooth, oily, but doesn\u2019t absorb as fast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, don\u2019t be afraid to add a couple drops of essential oils and elevate their senses\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n SAFETY TIP:<\/strong><\/span> Each body is different, and some might have allergic reactions, where others do not. Always do an allergy spot test before applying oils all over the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, if you don\u2019t want to DIY it, buy something from your local drug store, sex shop, or online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll need a stable but comfortable surface for your partner to lay on \u2013 the bed or a table will work (added bonus if you actually can get\/borrow\/buy a massage table).<\/p>\n\n\n\n All the spa adverts have a girl with her head turned to the side and a smile on her face. But, after a while, she\u2019s going to get really uncomfortable. Also, most of us don\u2019t have a massage table sitting in the garage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can either have them cradle their head in their arms or put a pillow under their chest and another under their forehead (even roll up a towel and make a ring they can put rest their face in while they\u2019re on their stomach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Go slowly. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can only remember one thing, let it be this.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Seriously. Just like public speaking, you think you\u2019re delivering your speech at a decent pace, but you only end up racing through it like a hummingbird on speed. If you think you\u2019re going slow, go slower. Taking your time also allows you to focus on your technique and how your partner is feeling. This is the key to a sexy massage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. This is a marathon, not a sprint. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want your partner to turn to sexual putty, and you\u2019re doing a full body massage, you should aim for AT LEAST an hour<\/strong>. If you\u2019re just doing feet and the back, aim for at least 30 minutes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Always start with a LIGHT and GENTLE touch. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n There\u2019s nothing more uncomfortable and mood-killing than someone who thinks they\u2019re an all-shit deep tissue masseur that goes in with their hardest pinches and pokes; elbows and all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Only after you\u2019ve sent some significant shivers up their body and brought them into a complete state of relaxation, then you can gradually<\/strong> increase pressure. But remember, you\u2019re not going for a hard-core session. At max, the pressure should be firm, but still pleasurable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n TIP:<\/strong> <\/span>Check in with your partner once in a while to see if they like the pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Keep things equal.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, don\u2019t spend 5 minutes on one leg and 1 minute on the other. Keep your attention evenly distributed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Keep an eye on your partner<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n If they seem to be enjoying themselves, keep at it. If they\u2019re making wincing faces, painful grunts, or are moving away from your hands, adjust what you\u2019re doing (because you\u2019re hurting them). Don\u2019t be afraid to straight up ask if they like it or how they want things changed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. Warm the oil first<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Never put massage oil right on the skin. First, put it on your hands, let the natural heat warm it up, and THEN distribute it evenly across the part of the body you\u2019re working with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. Body part order<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n In general, it\u2019s best to go in this order: Back, neck, and back of the legs. Turn over. Front of the legs, feet, arms, hands, breasts\/chest second last, THEN genitals for the grand finale. You can tease as you get near the end but going for the fun bits too early can be a turn-off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 8. Attend to overlooked places.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Areas like the scalp, earlobes back of the knee or around the knee cap, wrists, jaw, temples, bridge of the nose etc. These aren\u2019t always covered in a full-body massage, but they can be very nice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, if someone clenches the jaw a lot, they might fall in love with you if you pay attention to the jaw joint. Or, if they\u2019re on the computer a lot, their wrists might need some rubbin\u2019. If they wear glasses, the bridge of the nose is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aside from feeling good, it shows them you pay attention to the little things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n NOTE:<\/strong><\/span> If you\u2019re going to massage the scalp, do it first before you get oil on your hands. Or wash the oils of your hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n It would a ridiculously long article to describe how to do each <\/em>one, so I\u2019ll just say, \u201cCheck YouTube\u201d or other online videos. They\u2019ll have plenty that will let you see firsthand what you can do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I will <\/em>say that during a romantic massage, don\u2019t forget to add plenty of kisses, licks, sweet words, and teasing in places you know they enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n As for the \u201chappy\u201d ending part (if that\u2019s something THEY want), here are a few pointers\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n Start by massaging the areas around the labia. Throw in the odd \u201cgrazing\u201d of her clitoris or other super-sensitive parts. Next, start stroking her labia lips. If you have a hand free, make sure to caress other erogenous zones \u2013 the same goes for kisses and licks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Graduate into massaging the clit. Then, if she\u2019s into penetration, slide two fingers into the vagina and start working her g-spot. Let it end with an orgasm (or two) and let her chill in all her putty relaxation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n The same \u201cgenital foreplay\u201d applies. Don\u2019t go directly for the shaft. Instead, massage around the groin, the testicles, and the perineum (the spot between the testicles and the anus). If they\u2019re into anal play, teasing around the rim can be nice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When it\u2019s time to go for the penis, wrap your hand around the base and gently pull toward the tip. Take your other hand, wrap it around the base, and repeat the movement. Alternate for a minute or two. Then, if he\u2019s hard enough, reverse the stroke and go from tip to base.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you are a multi-tasker, keep on hand going on his shaft and the other hand gently massaging the perineum (which can lead to stronger orgasms).<\/p>\n\n\n\n NOTE:<\/strong><\/span> If he\u2019s ready to orgasm, but doesn\u2019t want to, make him take deep breaths and slow down your stroking. But, if he\u2019s ready to pop, choose ONE movement he seems to enjoy and stick with it. Don\u2019t change things up mid-orgasm or you can ruin it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, not all massages need to end in an orgasm. Also, it\u2019s important to keep communicating during the session to make sure they like what you\u2019re doing or if there is something you can change to improve their pleasure. And, never give a massage with the expectation of getting your own right after. It\u2019s just not cool.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally, as in so many things \u2026 practice makes perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, if you enjoyed this article, you might like these\u2026<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Know any other tips that will take your erotic massage to the next level? Share in the comments!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A nice foot rub or attentive back massage\u00a0is like relationship cocaine. But what about birthdays, anniversaries, or other special moments? Sometimes you want to give…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3578,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[432,453,7],"tags":[194,21],"class_list":["post-305","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimate-relationship","category-sex-life","category-sex-passion","tag-body","tag-guide"],"yoast_head":"\nHOW TO GIVE A MASSAGE – SET THE MOOD!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\n\n\n\nHOW TO GIVE A MASSAGE – USEFUL TIPS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nMASSAGING DIFFERENT BODY PARTS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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