{"id":29640,"date":"2026-01-26T17:45:00","date_gmt":"2026-01-26T17:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/?p=29640"},"modified":"2026-01-26T16:50:06","modified_gmt":"2026-01-26T16:50:06","slug":"what-is-mutual-masturbation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/what-is-mutual-masturbation","title":{"rendered":"Beyond Penetration: Why Mutual Masturbation is a Wellness Win"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We\u2019re often taught that sex has to look a certain way\u2014usually involving penetration and a specific &#8220;end goal.&#8221; But sometimes, your body isn&#8217;t up for it, you\u2019re dealing with pain, or you just want a low-pressure way to feel close. That\u2019s where <strong>mutual masturbation <\/strong>comes in. It\u2019s not a &#8220;backup plan&#8221; for when &#8220;real sex&#8221; isn&#8217;t happening; it\u2019s a high-reward, low-stress way to build intimacy while handling your own pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Short Version:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>What it is:<\/strong> Pleasuring yourself while a partner watches or joins in.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>The Goal: <\/strong>Shared intimacy without the performance anxiety of intercourse.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>The Win:<\/strong> Better odds for orgasming, zero pregnancy risk, and a &#8220;masterclass&#8221; in what your partner actually likes.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<details id=\"simpletoc-details\" class=\"simpletoc\" aria-labelledby=\"simpletoc-title\">\n        <summary style=\"cursor: pointer;\">Table of Contents<\/summary><ul class=\"simpletoc-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#what-is-mutual-masturbation\">What Is Mutual Masturbation?<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#is-mutual-masturbation-considered-sex\">Is Mutual Masturbation Considered Sex?<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#why-it-works-the-benefits-of-keeping-things-handson\">Why It Works: The Benefits of Keeping Things &#8220;Hands-On&#8221;<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#stay-safe-the-facts-on-hygiene-and-health\">Stay Safe: The Facts on Hygiene and Health<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#talking-it-out-consent-and-connection\">Talking It Out: Consent and Connection<\/a>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n<\/li>\n\n<li><a href=\"#bringing-sex-toys-into-the-mix\">Bringing Sex Toys Into the Mix<\/a>\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#mutual-masturbation-faqs\">Mutual Masturbation FAQs<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#final-thoughts-on-mutual-masturbation\">Final Thoughts on Mutual Masturbation<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#want-more-reads\">Want More Reads?<\/a>\n<\/li><\/ul><\/details>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"what-is-mutual-masturbation\">What Is Mutual Masturbation?<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.webmd.com\/sex\/what-is-mutual-masturbation\">Mutual masturbation<\/a> is when two or more people pleasure themselves at the same time. There are a couple of common ways this shows up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>One is when <strong>people touch themselves while their partner is there<\/strong>, watching, or sharing the moment without directly touching. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Another is when <strong>both people masturbate at the same time <\/strong>and may also interact with each other, like syncing up movements or adding light, mutual touch.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>What really matters isn\u2019t the exact setup. Mutual masturbation is defined by shared intention and consent. Everyone knows what\u2019s going on, everyone agrees to it, and no one feels pressured. That shared understanding is what makes it mutual, not just the physical actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-pale-pink-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-cf2625f21f35e5c47d7a834b805dda1b\"><strong>Relationship Prevalence:<\/strong>&nbsp;In a 2023 study, approximately&nbsp;<strong>50% of people<\/strong>&nbsp;in relationships reported engaging in mutual masturbation within the previous two weeks. <em>[<a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/full\/10.1080\/19317611.2023.2237950#d1e1397\">Source<\/a>]<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"is-mutual-masturbation-considered-sex\">Is Mutual Masturbation Considered Sex?<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"633\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited.png\" alt=\"fingers in a melon to insinuate female masturbation\" class=\"wp-image-29654\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-54-edited-585x329.png 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Pexels<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It depends on how you define sex. People don\u2019t all use that word the same way, and there\u2019s no single rule everyone follows. Some people think sex only counts if there\u2019s penetration, like vaginal or anal intercourse. Others see sex as any shared activity meant to create sexual pleasure or intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mutual masturbation is usually grouped under non-penetrative sex<\/strong>, often called <strong>outercourse <\/strong>(including by sex educators and therapists). It&#8217;s also different from intercourse, oral sex, or handjobs because each person is still focused on pleasuring themselves, even though it\u2019s happening together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"why-it-works-the-benefits-of-keeping-things-handson\">Why It Works: The Benefits of Keeping Things &#8220;Hands-On&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mutual masturbation isn\u2019t just a &#8220;backup plan&#8221;\u2014it\u2019s a way to prioritize pleasure and connection without the usual elements of traditional sex, and there are <a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC10903564\/\">a ton of benefits.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. Better Odds for Orgasming<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>You\u2019re the Expert:<\/strong>&nbsp;You know exactly what pressure, speed, and rhythm you need. It\u2019s the most direct route to pleasure because you aren&#8217;t guessing what your partner wants, and they aren&#8217;t guessing what you want.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Direct Stimulation:<\/strong>&nbsp;Most people with a clitoris require direct, external stimulation to reach orgasm, which penetrative sex doesn&#8217;t always provide.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Zero Performance Pressure<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Body Neutrality:<\/strong>&nbsp;It removes the stress of maintaining erections, natural lubrication, or &#8220;stamina.&#8221; You can just focus on the sensation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Mismatched Energy:<\/strong>&nbsp;It\u2019s perfect when one partner has a higher drive or less energy. No one feels like they\u2019re &#8220;performing&#8221; or disappointing the other.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Physical &amp; Emotional Safety<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Pain-Free Intimacy:<\/strong>&nbsp;For those dealing with&nbsp;Endometriosis,&nbsp;Vaginismus, or general tension, this offers sexual closeness without the physical &#8220;ouch&#8221; factor of penetration.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Low Risk:<\/strong>&nbsp;Because there is no exchange of internal fluids, the risk for pregnancy and most STIs is effectively zero (more on this in the next section).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Healing &amp; Trauma:<\/strong>&nbsp;It provides a safe way to rebuild sexual confidence for those navigating anxiety or past trauma.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4. Staying Connected Through Life Changes<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Life Happens:<\/strong>&nbsp;It keeps the spark alive during pregnancy, illness, injury, or high-stress seasons when intercourse feels like too much work.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Long Distance:<\/strong>&nbsp;It\u2019s a vital tool for partners to stay sexually synchronized when they can&#8217;t be in the same room.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"affiliate-style-53b7a83e-0ea1-4654-8774-3b890a337fd3\" class=\"affiliate-block-undefined affiliate-notice-wrapper\"><div class=\"affiliate-notice-inner affiliate-block-advanced-list\"><div class=\"affiliate-notice-title\"><p id=\"-a-note-on-vulnerability-\"><strong>A Note on Vulnerability<\/strong><\/p><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-notice-cntn-wrapper\"><p class=\"affiliate-notice-content\">Letting someone see you pleasure yourself is<strong> a huge act of trust.<\/strong> Masturbation is often deeply private, and showing that side of yourself can feel more &#8220;exposed&#8221; than intercourse. When you feel safe and unjudged, that vulnerability actually makes the connection feel deeper\u2014transforming a solo act into a shared experience.<\/p><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"stay-safe-the-facts-on-hygiene-and-health\">Stay Safe: The Facts on Hygiene and Health<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though mutual masturbation is very low-risk, it\u2019s not &#8220;no-risk.&#8221; Knowing the facts helps you stay safe without overthinking it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>The Skin-to-Skin Rule: <\/strong>Most STIs require fluid exchange (like semen or blood), but some travel just through skin contact. Herpes (HSV) and HPV (warts) are the big ones. If either of you has an active, visible sore or even a tingle in that area, skip the skin contact until it\u2019s fully healed.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Don&#8217;t Mess with the Microbiome:<\/strong> Your hands pick up a lot of bacteria throughout the day. If you don&#8217;t wash them before things get sexual, you can introduce foreign germs to the genitals. This can trigger a Yeast Infection or Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) by throwing your natural &#8220;good&#8221; bacteria out of balance.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>The Porosity Problem (Toy Safety):<\/strong> Non-porous is king. Stick to materials like medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel. They have a smooth surface that can be 100% sterilized.\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>The &#8220;Jelly&#8221; Warning: <\/strong>Avoid cheap &#8220;jelly&#8221; or rubbery toys. These are porous, meaning they have microscopic holes that trap bacteria and viruses even after you wash them. If you do use them, put a fresh condom over them every single time.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Lube as a Protective Barrier: <\/strong>Using a water-based lubricant isn&#8217;t just for comfort; it prevents &#8220;micro-tears&#8221; (tiny, invisible scratches in the skin). These tiny tears are like an open door for bacteria and infections to enter your system.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"talking-it-out-consent-and-connection\">Talking It Out: Consent and Connection<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"633\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited.png\" alt=\"Hand holding banana to insinuate male masturbation\" class=\"wp-image-29655\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/image-55-edited-585x329.png 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Pexels<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"why-consent-matters-more-for-the-vulnerable-stuff\">Why Consent Matters More for the Vulnerable Stuff<\/h3>\n\n\n<p>As mentioned before, because masturbation is usually a private thing, doing it in front of someone can feel a bit &#8220;exposed.&#8221; That extra layer of vulnerability is exactly why <strong>checking in is so important. <\/strong>It\u2019s not just about a formal &#8220;yes&#8221; or &#8220;no&#8221;\u2014it\u2019s about making sure everyone feels safe enough to be themselves. When you know for a fact that your partner is into it and won&#8217;t judge, that nervous energy usually turns into a much deeper sense of trust.<\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"how-to-bring-it-up-without-the-awkwardness\">How to Bring It Up Without the Awkwardness<\/h3>\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t need a scripted speech. Usually, the best way to bring up mutual masturbation is to be direct but casual.<br>Start the convo outside the bedroom: Mentioning it over dinner or while hanging out on the couch takes the &#8220;heat&#8221; off. You could say something like, &#8220;I\u2019ve been reading about mutual masturbation and it sounds like a fun, low-pressure way to be close. What do you think?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Focus on the &#8220;why&#8221;:<\/strong> Let them know <em>why <\/em>you\u2019re interested. Whether it\u2019s because you want to learn what they like or you just want a relaxing night together, being honest helps your partner feel included rather than &#8220;put on the spot.&#8221; A simple &#8220;How would you feel about trying this?&#8221; gives them space to be honest about their comfort level.<\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"the-no-big-deal-exit-strategy\">The &#8220;No Big Deal&#8221; Exit Strategy<\/h3>\n\n\n<p><strong>Consent is all about reversibility.<\/strong> Just because you both agreed to try it doesn&#8217;t mean you\u2019re locked in. Changing your mind is okay: If things feel a little awkward once you start, or if one of you just isn&#8217;t &#8220;feeling it&#8221; anymore, it\u2019s totally fine to stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>The &#8220;Check-In&#8221;: <\/strong>A quick &#8220;You still doing okay?&#8221; or &#8220;Is this still fun for you?&#8221; goes a long way.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Keeping it low-stakes: <\/strong>If someone wants to stop, don&#8217;t make it a &#8220;thing.&#8221; You can just pivot to cuddling or watching a movie. Knowing that you have an &#8220;out&#8221; actually makes most people feel way more comfortable saying &#8220;yes&#8221; in the first place.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>In a lot of ways, mutual masturbation is the conversation. By showing your partner what you like, you\u2019re communicating your needs without needing to find the perfect words. It\u2019s a way of saying, &#8220;This is my rhythm,&#8221; and &#8220;This is where I like to be touched.&#8221; It\u2019s a masterclass in each other\u2019s bodies that makes every other part of your sex life better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"bringing-sex-toys-into-the-mix\">Bringing Sex Toys Into the Mix<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"Lovense lush anal vs ridge vs. hush 2\" class=\"wp-image-29208\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-1170x658.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937-585x329.jpg 585w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/2026_01_13_09_59_IMG_6937.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">~ Image Credit: Lovense<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Adding toys to mutual masturbation is like moving from acoustic to electric\u2014it just adds a different energy. It\u2019s not about &#8220;replacing&#8221; anything; it\u2019s about expanding what\u2019s possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Doing Your Own Thing, Together:<\/strong> The beauty of toys here is that you can use what works for you. If one person wants a high-intensity vibrator and the other prefers a textured sleeve, you both get exactly what you need while staying in the same vibe.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>The Learning Curve: <\/strong>Using sex toys in front of each other is a great way to show your partner exactly where you like a vibe placed or how much pressure you prefer. It takes the guesswork out of future play.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Safety First: <\/strong>If you decide to swap or share a toy mid-session, keep it hygienic. Either give it a quick wash with Mild Soap or pop a fresh condom on it to keep things clean. Stick to non-porous materials like medical-grade silicone so you don&#8217;t have to worry about bacteria hanging out in the toy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"leveling-up-integrating-sex-tech\">Leveling Up: Integrating Sex Tech<\/h3>\n\n\n<p>If you want to get a little &#8220;techy&#8221; with it, there are some cool ways to use<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/r7a19u\"> modern sex toys <\/a>to enhance the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>App-Controlled Vibes: <\/strong>Some toys can be synced to an app. You could masturbate while your partner controls the intensity or patterns from their phone\u2014even if they\u2019re sitting right next to you. It adds a fun element of &#8220;shared control.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Long-Distance Connection: <\/strong>If you\u2019re not in the same room,<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/eayr3p\"> long-distance tech (teledildonics)<\/a> allows you to sync toys over the internet. When one person moves or changes a setting, the other person\u2019s toy reacts. It\u2019s the ultimate way to make long-distance mutual masturbation feel &#8220;physical.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Virtual Reality (VR):<\/strong> Some couples use VR headsets to create a shared digital environment while they masturbate in the real world. It\u2019s a bit out there for some, but for others, it\u2019s a high-tech way to explore fantasies together.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-pale-pink-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5227a1ef2ff5e85e444d67eec9efc514\"> Among U.S. millennials, nearly 25% have used technology (like video calls) to engage in &#8220;virtual&#8221; mutual masturbation with a partner.<em> [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/241623190_Intimacy_in_Long-Distance_Relationships_over_Video_Chat\">Source<\/a>]<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"mutual-masturbation-faqs\">Mutual Masturbation FAQs<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"schema-faq wp-block-yoast-faq-block\"><div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1769423952257\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Is mutual masturbation considered <a href=\"https:\/\/www.plannedparenthood.org\/learn\/stds-hiv-safer-sex\/safer-sex\">safe sex<\/a>?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Yes, it\u2019s one of the safest ways to be intimate. Since you aren&#8217;t swapping internal fluids, the risk of pregnancy and HIV is nearly zero, making it a great low-risk option.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1769423953834\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Can you get an STI from mutual masturbation?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">The risk is very low, but not zero. Infections that spread through skin-to-skin contact, like Herpes (HSV) or HPV, can still spread if there\u2019s direct contact with an active sore.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1769423985596\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What is the difference between mutual masturbation and outercourse?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Outercourse is any sexual activity without penetration. Mutual masturbation is a specific type of outercourse where you and your partner pleasure yourselves at the same time.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1769424000881\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Why choose mutual masturbation over intercourse?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">It\u2019s a great way to stay close when penetration is painful, when you\u2019re tired, or when you want to take the pressure off &#8220;performance.&#8221; It\u2019s about connection without the &#8220;work&#8221; of traditional sex.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1769424019060\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Does it help with sexual performance anxiety?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Definitely. 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