{"id":287,"date":"2018-05-11T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-05-11T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/how-to-masturbate"},"modified":"2025-09-09T01:22:40","modified_gmt":"2025-09-09T01:22:40","slug":"how-to-masturbate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/how-to-masturbate","title":{"rendered":"How to Masturbate – 18 Tips Self-Pleasure Guide for Women"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sometimes, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself. But what if you\u2019re not sure how to masturbate in a way that leads to amazing pleasure? After all, there are countless reasons someone might be unfamiliar with the ins and outs (no judgment here).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This masturbation guide will cover everything you need to know so you can explore your body with confidence and find a technique that works best for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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1. SET THE MOOD<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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The mood for your masturbation sessions doesn\u2019t need to be candlelight and silk sheets (unless you want it to be). It can be anywhere that makes you comfortable<\/strong> \u2013 a quiet room, in a bubble bath with the door locked, on the living room sofa, wherever! Just make sure it\u2019s a place you can relax, get frisky, and give yourself some love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

NOTE:<\/strong> <\/span>Whether you\u2019re alone or not is up to you. Having a partner watch or masturbating alongside them can be a real turn-on for some people. If you like it, go with it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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2. READ EROTIC BOOKS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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On the note of mood-setting, sometimes just the location isn\u2019t enough, and we need extra stimuli to get things going (and keep them going). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotic books are great for stoking the fires <\/strong>and getting your mind revved up (because remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ and it needs to be fed as much as the body).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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3. TRY AUDIOBOOKS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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If you don\u2019t want to hold a paper book (so you can keep your hands free to play<\/strong> WHILE you indulge in the erotic word), audiobooks are a great alternative. I would suggest getting into the plot well beforehand so you know which juicy parts you want to skip to when you need them \u2013 or have several familiar novels on standby (your erotic audio buffet as it were).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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FUN FACT: Lovense has a partnership with bloomstories.com<\/a> (an erotic audiobook site of short stories for all tastes and no sexual shame). Some stories have the option to sync a Lovense toy so it vibrates during steamy sections!<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n

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4. ADD SOME VISUAL AIDS<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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There\u2019s enough porn out there to sink the Earth a hundred times over \u2013 and satisfy whatever niche you\u2019re into. Look up, bookmark, and\/or download your favorites (be careful of viruses).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

FUN EXTRA:<\/strong><\/span> Try syncing your movements with whatever the actors are doing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, since we\u2019re talking about visuals, why not try masturbating in front of a mirror?<\/strong> It might be a bigger turn-on than you realize.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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5. TRY FANTASIZING<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Maybe you don\u2019t need porn or erotic books. Maybe your mind is creative enough that YOU are your own entertainment! Close your eyes and let your mind go where it wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And don\u2019t be ashamed if it gets kinky or weird! You\u2019re safe inside your own brain and no one has to know, *wink. You can also use all that porn and erotic stories to help beef up your fantasies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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6. SET A SLOWER PACE<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Yes, there is such a thing as a masturbation quickie \u2013 and there\u2019s nothing wrong with them. However, if you\u2019re needing something more fulfilling, you\u2019ll have to put in the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This means NOT diving into any hardcore stroking or pumping<\/strong> until enough blood had reached the necessary areas. So, if you have the time, extend your masturbation and draw out the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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7. TRY A LIGHT TOUCH TO START<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Some erogenous zones (particularly the clit) can be really sensitive and need to be warmed up before you go in with harder pressure. If you\u2019re finding it harder to build that blissful tension, dial it back and go in with light caresses and strokes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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8. PLAY WITH THE U-SPOT<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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The U-spot is the area around the urethra, and like the rest of the vagina, it\u2019s surrounded by nerve endings. The difference is that you don\u2019t need to use hard pressure with this spot. A gentle touch can feel quite pleasant<\/strong> for some ladies and can be a nice addition to your masturbation warm-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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9. TRY OVER THE UNDERWEAR<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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There are some ladies that are sensitive in general and no amount of build-up helps \u2013 or maybe your body has just decided it\u2019s going to be that way for a few days. If that\u2019s the case, try your normal moves over your underwear <\/strong>or with a piece of fabric (like a towel) in between your body and the action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

NOTE:<\/strong> <\/span>This is also useful if you want to try sex toys, but the vibrations are too much for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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10. EXPLORE EROGENOUS ZONES<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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All this advice also applies to things OTHER than your vagina. We like it when our partners pay attention to many parts of our body, so why should we ignore them when we\u2019re taking charge of our own pleasure? Try playing with your…<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n