{"id":219,"date":"2017-06-01T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-06-01T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/bdsm-punishment-ideas"},"modified":"2026-03-10T13:07:08","modified_gmt":"2026-03-10T13:07:08","slug":"bdsm-punishments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/bdsm-punishments","title":{"rendered":"80 BDSM Punishments and Tips for Naughty Subs &#038; Creative Doms"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-cyan-bluish-gray-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-83f56ae64747efc548d60508be076ef5\" style=\"font-size:10px\">Article Update: Added scientific reference on reward\/punishment asymmetry \u2013 March 2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Punishment is a very powerful word. It evokes the dread we felt when we were younger and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work, and the boss made us feel about 1-inch tall. That&#8217;s also why <strong>BDSM punishments<\/strong> are an effective tool in kink play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this article, we&#8217;re going to look at why they work, when they don&#8217;t, how to use them ethically and properly, useful tips, plenty of suggestions, links to similar articles to expand your education, and so much more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, if you&#8217;re curious about <strong>punishing BDSM ideas<\/strong>, in the middle of crafting a<strong> BDSM contract<\/strong>, or looking to revive your current list with something more creative, this guide will get you squared away in no time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<details id=\"simpletoc-details\" class=\"simpletoc\" aria-labelledby=\"simpletoc-title\">\n        <summary style=\"cursor: pointer;\">Table of Contents<\/summary><ul class=\"simpletoc-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#h-how-do-bdsm-punishments-work\">How do BDSM Punishments Work?<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-choosing-the-correct-punishment\">Choosing the Correct Punishment<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-punishments-as-part-of-role-playing\">Punishments As Part of Role Playing<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-bdsm-punishment-ideas-restrictive-or-denial-based\">BDSM Punishment Ideas &#8211; Restrictive or Denial-Based<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-bdsm-punishments-for-productivity\">BDSM Punishments for Productivity<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-using-pain-and-discomfort\">Using Pain and Discomfort<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-bdsm-humiliation-degradation-ideas\">BDSM Humiliation &amp; Degradation Ideas<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-boring-or-mental-things-to-make-them-crumble\">Boring or Mental Things to Make Them Crumble<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-pet-play-punishments\">Pet Play Punishments<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-know-and-respect-limits-rules\">Know and Respect Limits &amp; Rules<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-other-bdsm-punishment-tips-tricks\">Other BDSM Punishment Tips &amp; Tricks<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#faqs-for-bdsm-punishments\">FAQs For BDSM Punishments<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-bdsm-punishment-closing-thoughts\">Closing Thoughts on BDSM Punishments<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#h-if-you-want-more-articles-like-this\">Want More Reads?<\/a>\n<\/li><\/ul><\/details>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-do-bdsm-punishments-work\">How do BDSM Punishments Work?<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The idea is for the Dom\/Domme to<strong> reshape unwanted behavior<\/strong>. It&#8217;s no different than other sorts of social conditioning we experience throughout our lives &#8230; just probably with more leather and metal. But <strong>these activities can also be part of something erotic<\/strong> (like <strong>roleplaying<\/strong>). New kinkers should also note that punishments should <strong>ALWAYS be consensual and communicated ahead of time<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\"><strong>A<\/strong> <strong>BDSM punishment should not only correct the submissive\u2019s behavior but also result in something more <em>positive<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then there&#8217;s the issue of finding one that works specifically for them and their infraction. For example, a submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, meetups, and whatnot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>If they <strong>love corporal punishment<\/strong>, spanking\u00a0will only <em>reward <\/em>them. It&#8217;s called &#8220;<strong>funishment<\/strong>&#8220;.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Instead, make them sit and <strong>write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing<\/strong> and then read it out loud. They spend the entire allotted time on the list, rather than having a pleasant experience with their Mistress\/Master.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC4397189\/#:~:text=Abstract,for%20the%20penalty%2Dbased%20asymmetry.\">Research actually shows<\/a> that punishments tend to create a stronger, more consistent urge to avoid repeating the mistake, while rewards build up encouragement more gradually depending on how big they are.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-choosing-the-correct-punishment\"><strong>Choosing the Correct Punishment <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-175-edited.png\" alt=\"three women looking surprised, extreme bdsm punishments \" class=\"wp-image-11725\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-175-edited.png 800w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-175-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-175-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Getty<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Besides having all of these possibilities being rewards for some and deterrents for others, a Mistress or Master also needs to be fair in balancing both sides. As the saying goes, <strong>&#8220;Let the punishment fit the crime.&#8221;<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of a sub spilling their Dom&#8217;s morning coffee. 100 strikes with a flogger and ignoring them for 3 months is overboard. It also paints the person in the position of power as inexperienced, a bully, or even abusive. It&#8217;s not trust-building, it&#8217;s terror tactics. A sub would be well within their power to stand up and walk away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead, <strong>spilling the coffee and then making them lick it up off the floor<\/strong> is a far more reasonable (and fitting) punishment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-punishments-as-part-of-role-playing\"><strong>Punishments As Part of Role Playing<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2074\" height=\"1166\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited.png\" alt=\"woman in leather handcuffs, bdsm submissive punishment \" class=\"wp-image-11727\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited.png 2074w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-173-edited-2048x1151.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2074px) 100vw, 2074px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Unsplash<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All of the rules and suggestions mentioned above <strong>should be followed if you&#8217;re going to be inserting punishments as a part of a roleplay<\/strong> or consensually entertaining activity. Yes, this is different from correcting bad behavior. And that&#8217;s okay. As long as everyone has communicated and prepared properly ahead of time, you do you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;re still struggling to see the difference. Spanking a sub for being late is a punishment. But spanking a sub for being late because they&#8217;re doing a Boss and Personal Assistant role play is different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color\"><strong>Now, without further ado &#8230; here&#8217;s the master punishment list!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bdsm-punishment-ideas-restrictive-or-denial-based\"><strong>BDSM Punishment Ideas &#8211; Restrictive or Denial-Based<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"633\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-29-edited.png\" alt=\"hamburger and frenchfries, bdsm slave punishment \" class=\"wp-image-10506\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-29-edited.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-29-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-29-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-29-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">(Credit: Pexels) <strong>Nothing mouth-watering for you. Just bland (but very healthy) mush until you behave<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 = <strong>Beginner<\/strong>\/gentle<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 = <strong>Intermediate<\/strong>\/moderate<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 = <strong>Advanced<\/strong>\/painful<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Early bedtime &#8211; It&#8217;s not just for those who love age play, because being sent to be early means they might be bored, end up stewing about what they did wrong or have their sleep\/awake cycle thrown off for a day.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2Take away anything they enjoy or love for x# of days etc. A basic punishment but always effective.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2If they don\u2019t like collars or a certain piece of clothing\/device, make them wear one around the house. Or vice versa.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1 Deny them a specific kind of attention or the right to come over and see you. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Chastity belts\/cages &#8211; There are SO many things you can tack on to this punishment (besides just wearing one). You could set a set time to be in the cage or you could add an element of chance with a dice roll or card draw (which adds a burst of dread).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Orgasm edging &#8211; This is really effective if your sub is used to getting loads of pleasure.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Take away the right to publicly speak for x-hours &#8211; which is much harder than you think (especially if the sub is used to being able to speak).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"602\" height=\"370\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-176.png\" alt=\"bdsm vs abuse difference, SSC, RACK, PRICK, limits\" class=\"wp-image-11731\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-176.png 602w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-176-300x184.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 602px) 100vw, 602px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><strong>There is a HUGE difference. Learn the signs to know if the person you&#8217;re playing with is legit.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"7\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Have them play an erotic video\/computer game with a wearable sex toy. But they&#8217;re not allowed to orgasm during the synced sex scenes when the toy vibrates!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Plan a wonderful BDSM date or even a normal event with them, then cancel at the last minute. This is excellent if they are someone who always arrives late.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Deny orgasms for X# of days or weeks or months. This is often a go-to for BDSM punishments.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 There&#8217;s been debate on denying food. But one day&#8217;s fast is fine (as long as there are no health complications). Or just skipping a single meal isn&#8217;t going to hurt anything. You can also ask a doctor for advice &#8211; better safe than shy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 If there is more than one slave, make them prepare you to have sex with your other slaves. They get nothing and must watch.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong>NOTE: Keep in mind that in some BDSM instances (or for certain couples, etc.), a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather harsh, so be careful.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bdsm-punishments-for-productivity\"><strong>BDSM Punishments for Productivity<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"633\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-170-edited-1.png\" alt=\"close up of someone writing an essay, bdsm punishment ideas\" class=\"wp-image-11715\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-170-edited-1.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-170-edited-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-170-edited-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-170-edited-1-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">(Credit: Pexels) <strong>You can put your sub to useful work while still correcting bad behavior.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"13\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them write an essay on whatever you think will make them improve or stop a bad habit.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2Have them reorganize a room or even multiple rooms. After, they have them put it back EXACTLY the way it was. Extra BDSM punishments for everything that&#8217;s out of order<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1 Order them to do yard work but in an inconvenient way. They have to pick up debris off the front porch instead of sweeping. Lawns are cut with scissors instead of a mower. Weed plucking can be done with tweezers.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Have them cook and serve you dinner and wait on you in the nude.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Order them to clean something\/somewhere with a toothbrush (or even their tongue) until it&#8217;s spotless.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Make them run a public errand wearing a long coat with nothing underneath or if that&#8217;s past their hard limits they can wear something slutty underneath their clothes. It&#8217;s a lovely level of awareness while you have someone taking care of your daily to-dos.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Make them run a public errand or do daily chores while sporting a wearable, remote, or app-controlled sex toys. These are usually things like <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/1cfpos\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">butt plugs<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/1qk64h\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">love eggs<\/a>, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/oxan8h\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">prostate massagers<\/a>.<\/strong>  App toys where you can control the vibrations how you want are SO much fun!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote has-text-align-center has-text-color is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\" style=\"color:#d70072\">\n<p><strong>\u201cI&#8217;ve got a mind to turn you over my knee and spank the spoiled hell out of you\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<cite><em><strong>Larissa Ione,&nbsp;Sin Undone<\/strong><\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-using-pain-and-discomfort\"><strong>Using Pain and Discomfort<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1125\" height=\"633\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-171-edited.png\" alt=\"bdsm plants for pain, image of a thistle\" class=\"wp-image-11714\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-171-edited.png 1125w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-171-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-171-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-171-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1125px) 100vw, 1125px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">(Credit: Pexels) <strong>Did you know you can use certain uncomfortable or painful plants in your punishments?<\/strong> <\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"20\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Try some sort of sensory deprivation, perhaps while performing another punishment. Blindfolds are always handy and easy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them take a cold shower. This needs to be of seasonal temperature and time, of course. But it&#8217;s a wonderful shock to the system.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Dump ice cubes down their clothes. They need to be pre-wetted so they don&#8217;t harm your sub. It&#8217;s advised to allow them to shift the ice around now and then so they don&#8217;t end up with ice burns.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1 Hold pennies against a wall (one for each finger) in whatever position you choose.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1 Do a certain chore while bound or physically restricted in some way.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Deliver X#of strikes with whatever implement (like a riding crop or a flogger). They must count each one and thank you or ask for the next one. Be sure you know which zones are safe to hit.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Wear clothespins or kink clamps in sensitive places. You can try <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/r\/x17ns4\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">vibrating nipple clamps<\/a><\/strong> if they add extra discomfort.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Schedule them a Brazilian wax. This BDSM punishment is especially effective if they&#8217;ve never had any hair removal with wax before, particularly men.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Force orgasms with a magic wand. But it needs to be one of those POWERFUL MONSTERS that sound like a jumbo jet landing next door. Even better is a sex machine if you can afford it. It might sound like a reward, but if there&#8217;s a source of pain, they won&#8217;t be able to enjoy it as much.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-color\">Want to add POWER to your punishments? 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Vibrating Nipple Clamp<\/strong><\/p><div class=\"affiliate-coupon-image2\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/gemini.png\" alt=\"\"\/><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-block-advanced-list affiliate-coupon-list2\"><ul class=\"affiliate-list2 affiliate-list-type-unordered  affiliate-alignment-left affiliate-list-bullet-circle\"><li>Compact and wearable &#8211; Ideal for public play<\/li><li>Rmote-controlled vibration &amp; intensities<\/li><li>Adjustable pinch strength for comfort<\/li><li>Triggers Full-body arousal<\/li><\/ul><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-coupon-btn\"><div class=\"affiliate-coupon-btn-wrapper2\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/p\/2JNDJx\" class=\"affiliate-btn  btn-is-small btn-is-fullw btn-is-rounded\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><i class=\"affiliate-abbtn-icon  af-icon-is-left\"><\/i>Get Gemini<i class=\"affiliate-abbtn-icon af-icon-is-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-productcol2-amzon-price below\"><\/div><div class=\"affiliate-productcol2-amzon-rating below\"><\/div><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"29\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Wash their mouth out with soap. Older generations can vouch for this. Just don&#8217;t let them swallow &#8211; that&#8217;s for other stuff \ud83d\ude1b This one is effective if they&#8217;re mouthy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Add weights to nipple clamps, penis stretchers, or testicle clamps\/cages.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Wear an uncomfortable ball gag. This is usually one size larger than normal. It shouldn&#8217;t be too big (to avoid injury). Besides, one size bigger for a while will be very uncomfortable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Soak a glass or metal dildo in cold water and insert it. Never use ice because it could cause damage.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Partake in cum consumption &#8211; such as in food, licking off someone after sex, or off the floor, etc.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Kneel on uncooked rice for however long you deem appropriate (and safe).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Use botanical punishments like bamboo switches, bunches of witch hazel, or other (safe) plants that can make someone go Ouch! There&#8217;s a link at the bottom of this article to an article dedicated to this idea.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Can we say hot sauce?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Try Figging on them &#8211; where you cut a piece of ginger into a butt plug shape. The leaking oils are quite painful.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Make them walk on painful things. Hint: Legos!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Zap them with a violet wand.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bdsm-humiliation-degradation-ideas\"><strong>BDSM Humiliation &amp; Degradation Ideas<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"522\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/image-6-1024x522.png\" alt=\"BDSM punishments, kink humiliation, human furniture, Forniphilia\" class=\"wp-image-9030\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/image-6-1024x522.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/image-6-300x153.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/image-6-768x392.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/image-6.png 1124w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">&#8220;Bad Furniture&#8221; by Randall Maxwell &#8211; <strong>An example of BDSM human furniture, which can be used as punishment.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"40\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Plan some naked exercise. It will be nice for you to watch too.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Announce every time they are horny and why. People can be turned on by things they might not want to mention. Or, if it&#8217;s from another person, there&#8217;s lots of added humiliation to be had.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Walking around with panties in the mouth for a certain period of time. Extra points if they have fluids on them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Write the infraction on their body with a permanent marker. It&#8217;s a great reminder every time they look in a mirror. And if they can&#8217;t hide it under clothing &#8211; hee hee.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them walk around with cum in their underwear or on their body all day. But only if it&#8217;s something they don&#8217;t like.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Have them dress in their opposite gender&#8217;s clothes for the day.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Eat from a pet dish, or on a plate if they usually eat from an animal bowl. Remember, if they love pet play, it&#8217;s not really counted in the BDSM Punishments department.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 You can also make them eat directly off the floor if you feel they don&#8217;t deserve a bowl.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Record their orgasms and make them their ringtone and message alerts<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Write dirty things on their body, such as \u201cDirty Slut,\u201d \u201cCum Dumpster,\u201d or \u201cCock Whore<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"983\" height=\"581\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-30.png\" alt=\"OMGkinky.com, bdsm writing on body\" class=\"wp-image-10510\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-30.png 983w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-30-300x177.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/image-30-768x454.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 983px) 100vw, 983px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Via OMGkinky.com<strong> <\/strong>&#8211; <strong>Beautiful artwork showing how you can use writing on the body as a punishment.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"50\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Masturbate in front of (consensual) guests. Remember, &#8220;public&#8221; in BDSM doesn&#8217;t actually mean &#8220;public!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Force them to wear something ridiculous while going out.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Act like an object or a piece of furniture. It&#8217;s dehumanizing and also a strain on the body. But don&#8217;t make them act as a piece of furniture that&#8217;s too hard on their body. Meaning that if you&#8217;re a heavy person and the sub is tiny, they shouldn&#8217;t be a chair.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 ANY not-quite sexual act they are not keen on but they have agreed to in your negotiated contract under &#8220;punishments.&#8221; For example, being peed on.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 If Pegging is something they don&#8217;t enjoy (but it doesn&#8217;t harm them), it&#8217;s an excellent domination tactic. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/sex-passion\/what-is-pegging\"><strong>Learn more about Pegging in this article!<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 Toss water on their crotch to make it look like they wet their pants in public. What they do next is up to you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Scold them in public for what they did wrong. Do this one carefully with respect to anyone around you. It also only works if they don&#8217;t enjoy public humiliation.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-boring-or-mental-things-to-make-them-crumble\"><strong>Boring or Mental Things to Make Them Crumble<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-1024x512.png\" alt=\"c++ coding as bdsm punishment\" class=\"wp-image-30236\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-1024x512.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-768x384.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-1536x768.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-1170x585.png 1170w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2-585x293.png 585w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/image-2.png 1680w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Source Unknown<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"57\" class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"57\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them write lines &#8211; it&#8217;s boring and repetitive but that&#8217;s why it works. They could have been doing something fun instead.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Force them to watch or listen to something they hate. Like a movie, television show, podcast, band, etc.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Have you ever read the fine print of a contract? Or the terms and conditions of your apps, etc. Make your sub read them and summarize them for you. They do all the boring work and you get all the useful highlights! I would personally find this a very effective BDSM punishment idea for hyperactive subs.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Give them a lecture on why they were bad. Very often subs crumble if they feel they&#8217;ve disappointed their Dom.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them count coins or grains of rice. Have a laugh and start counting out of order to make them lose count!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Make them eat something super healthy and bland as hell \u2013 like boiled mushy cauliflower.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Sit in a corner and think about what they\u2019ve done. Add a dunce cap for added humiliation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-luminous-vivid-orange-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-62d7d6fb4be076205b1aee7da39f54a8\">\ud83d\udfe1\ud83d\udd34 <strong>OUR FAVORITE:<\/strong> \u201cMake them learn to code C++ while listening to &#8216;the world\u2019s worst song&#8217; on repeat.\u201d Some reader suggestions included coding in assembly, batch, or machine language. Pure Evil! We love it!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Put them in isolation. It can be anything from alone in another room, to putting them in a cupboard. Just make sure it&#8217;s within your agreed-upon rules. Some people have legitimate claustrophobia and that&#8217;s not something you mess with as a BDSM punishment.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-pet-play-punishments\">Pet Play Punishments<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"563\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-177-edited.png\" alt=\"bdsm punishments, pet play punishments\" class=\"wp-image-11747\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-177-edited.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-177-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-177-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Wikimedia Commons<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"66\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Early bedtime. It&#8217;s simple and non-physical; promotes reflection but make sure it&#8217;s not disruptive to overall sleep health\u2014ideal for beginner pet play to enforce routine.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Take away something, like their favorite toys or a snuggle blanket<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Limit playtime or take away an outing &#8211; best for short-term only to teach value.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Smack them on their bum with a newspaper<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Squirt a waterbottle at them, like you would a cat<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Leash them to something for a time-out &#8211; remember to quietly check in on them<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Put them in the &#8220;stay&#8221; position and make them hold a toy in their mouth for x-minutes<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2 Put them in a cone of shame (those medical animal collars) &#8211; even better if you write the infraction on the cone so it&#8217;s right in their face<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1 Ignore them when they beg for attention. It&#8217;s effective but possibly potent, so be careful.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe2\ud83d\udfe1  Slap their &#8220;paws&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Change out their collar to a punishment one (like scratchy wool or burlap). Test materials for allergies first.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Give them a cold bath (not freezing)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udfe1 Ponyplay can use uncomfortable mouthbits (silicone is better than metal if you&#8217;re going for safety over authenticity.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Lock them in a cage &#8211; n ot for those with claustrophobia<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\ud83d\udd34 Horseplay can also use cane strikes<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-know-and-respect-limits-rules\"><strong>Know and Respect Limits &amp; Rules<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1253\" height=\"705\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-174-edited.png\" alt=\"corporal punishment bdsm, well dressed woman holding a belt and sitting on a man\" class=\"wp-image-11726\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-174-edited.png 1253w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-174-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-174-edited-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-174-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1253px) 100vw, 1253px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: istock<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Safe,_sane_and_consensual\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\"><strong>SCC<\/strong> <\/a>&#8211; This abbreviation stands for <strong>Safe, Sane, Consensual<\/strong>. Sometimes people add an extra &#8220;S&#8221; for &#8220;sober&#8221; to emphasize a point. However, many people lump this idea in with safety and or sanity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Risk-aware_consensual_kink\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">RACK <\/a><\/strong>&#8211; <strong>Risk-Aware Consensual Kink<\/strong> emphasizes that all participants thoroughly understand any risks involved with BDSM activities. While SCC is a simple way to differentiate consensual play versus abuse, RACK is more about the idea that nothing is 100% safe and people need to be prepared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>PRICK <\/strong>&#8211; <strong>&#8220;Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink&#8221;<\/strong> takes all the things mentioned above but emphasizes that people need to take responsibility for their play and that the participants understand everything that can or could happen so they can make an INFORMED decision. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Limits_(BDSM)\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">LIMITS <\/a><\/strong>&#8211; You&#8217;ll hear this word a lot in the BDSM scene. A limit is something that someone has a level of discomfort with. You can have soft, temporary, or hard limits. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Soft limits mean<\/strong> the person is a bit worried but willing to explore. A <strong>hard limit <\/strong>is a firm line, a BIG NO-NO, and a zone that is 100% off-limits to the other person\/people. An example of a hard limit could be playing with urine. For others, it could be no name-calling. If a hard limit is broken, the sub should leave play and that person immediately. <strong>These can apply to both Dom\/Dommes and subs<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-other-bdsm-punishment-tips-tricks\"><strong>Other BDSM Punishment Tips &amp; Tricks<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube aligncenter wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"The *Ultimate* Guide to Non-Physical BDSM Punishments | Ms. Elle X\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/pIHwAxWEGCE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">YouTube \/ <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@ElleX\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">@ElleX<\/a> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The power-holder should <strong>NEVER punish while angry.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>There should be <strong>lots of communication <\/strong>around what happens (before, during, and after).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Punishments should <strong>never be delivered as a surprise. <\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Giving <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/aftercare\">aftercare<\/a><\/strong> might be necessary after a punishment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you&#8217;re a beginner, <strong>start slowly <\/strong>and build gradually over time.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Keep educating yourself <\/strong>&#8211; there&#8217;s always something new to learn.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mistresses\/Masters, etc. can also use <strong>safewords &#8211; <\/strong>that should be respected.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It&#8217;s better if <strong>punishments are not gamified<\/strong> unless they are &#8220;funishments&#8221;.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>BDSM<\/strong> <strong>negotiation does not mean FORCING<\/strong> someone to agree to something.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>It&#8217;s okay to experiment<\/strong> and explore. Let it be a fulfilling journey for you and your partner.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"faqs-for-bdsm-punishments\">FAQs For BDSM Punishments<\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"schema-faq wp-block-yoast-faq-block\"><div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773146976583\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\"><strong>What are BDSM punishments vs. funishments?<\/strong> <\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Punishments correct behavior in D\/s dynamics (consensual discipline); funishments are playful penalties both enjoy. Always negotiate safewords, limits, and aftercare.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773147198468\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\"><strong>Safe BDSM punishment ideas for beginners?<\/strong> <\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Start non-physical: early bedtime, writing lines, denying privileges. Light hand spanking ok if consented. Discuss limits first; use traffic-light safewords.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773147207843\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\"><strong><strong>How to choose the right BDSM punishment?<\/strong> <\/strong><\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Match the crime: minor \u2192 light tasks; major \u2192 denial. Consider sub\u2019s dislikes, health, and negotiated limits. Balance with rewards.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773147239845\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\"><strong>What punishments should I avoid?<\/strong> <\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Anything non-consensual, harmful, or ignoring hard limits (e.g., food denial without medical check, permanent marks, public without consent).<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773147261374\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">Are there <strong>BDSM punishments for long-distance relationships?<\/strong><\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\"> Yes\u2014self-reported tasks, app-controlled toys, timed denial, video-proof chores. Use video calls for check-ins and aftercare.<\/p> <\/div> <div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1773147293070\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">How do you make BDSM punishments more effective?<\/strong> <p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Tailor to sub\u2019s dislikes, combine types (denial + humiliation), debrief after, provide aftercare. Track progress for improvement.<\/p> <\/div> <\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-bdsm-punishment-closing-thoughts\">Closing Thoughts on BDSM Punishments <\/h2>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"999\" height=\"562\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-183-edited.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-11749\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-183-edited.png 999w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-183-edited-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-183-edited-768x432.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 999px) 100vw, 999px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Credit: Wikimedia Commons<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, as long as it&#8217;s<strong> consensual and responsible<\/strong>, what people do in their own bedroom (or sex club, etc.) is their own fun. Some punishments might seem harsh, but it just means that if you were playing, you wouldn&#8217;t use them. But perhaps another couple or group finds it useful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Never stop learning and growing.<\/strong> And if you&#8217;re a Dom\/Domme who&#8217;s made a mistake with your punishment (I&#8217;m not talking about ignoring safe words or breaking hard limits &#8211; which aren&#8217;t &#8220;mistakes&#8221;), be mature and caring enough to apologize for it, learn from it, and do better afterward. Like if you said 20 spankings, but the scheduled punishment timeslot the next day, you say 30. You get the idea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More than anything, don&#8217;t look at BDSM punishments with fear or disdain. <strong>When used right, they&#8217;re trust-building, growth-inducing, and even bonding.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:15px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-if-you-want-more-articles-like-this\">Want More Reads?<\/h2>\n\n\n<ul style=\"font-size:16px\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/bdsm-vs-abuse\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>BDSM vs Abuse <\/strong>&#8211; Learn the Differences and Stay Safe<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/bdsm-plants\">12 BDSM Plants \u2013 <\/a><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/bdsm-plants\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Grow Your Own Pain Garden and Harvest Your Kink<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/bdsm-restraints\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>BDSM Restraints 101<\/strong> &#8211; Hogtied and Happy for Beginners<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Article Update: Added scientific reference on reward\/punishment asymmetry \u2013 March 2026 Punishment is a very powerful word. 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