{"id":163,"date":"2016-11-11T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-11-11T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/erotic-spanking"},"modified":"2026-02-10T12:32:18","modified_gmt":"2026-02-10T12:32:18","slug":"erotic-spanking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/erotic-spanking","title":{"rendered":"Erotic Spanking &#8211; How to Properly Paddle That Posterior"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>For those of you who were brought up in a time or household where switches, belts, and wooden spoons were a common form of punishment, it\u2019s understandable why the idea of spanking would be a total turn-off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But let\u2019s make a very important distinction:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is an <strong>ENORMOUS difference <\/strong>between <em>spanking,&nbsp;<\/em><em>erotic spanking.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One makes you want to sprint away like an Olympic contender and call social services. The other makes you want to run towards the bedroom and scream that you\u2019ve been a bad little boy\/girl.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, while you\u2019re sitting there, backside tingling with anticipation or curiosity, let\u2019s peel back the panties of this situation and have a peek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-chemistry-and-psychology-of-spanking\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>THE CHEMISTRY AND PSYCHOLOGY OF SPANKING<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of some other bedroom antics that create pain: <em>pulling hair, running nails down the back, biting, etc.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can hurt like hell (and often leave marks behind), so why do we savor the sensation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The answer is simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we\u2019re stressed or in pain, <strong>our brains release A LOT of chemicals: <\/strong><em>endorphin, serotonin, melatonin, epinephrine, norepinephrine, and dopamine<\/em>. And not just physical pain but <em>emotional <\/em>and <em>social <\/em>discomfort as well &#8211; all for the purpose of re-balancing our bodies and trying to make us feel good again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the key players is <strong>dopamine<\/strong>, which is present in the body during pain AND pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many agree this might be one of the reasons we can combine pain and pleasure in a single situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s like running until your muscles flip you the middle finger but reveling in the exercise \u201chigh\u201d. It hurts like hell, but, goddamn it, it feels good too!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px;\"><strong>Another fun fact comes from Basic Orgasm 101\u2026<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sexual peaks are (in part) achieved when blood flow increases and collects in key hot spots or erogenous zones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The act of spanking can add another element of pleasure because the posterior is plentiful with nerves <em>and <\/em>right next door to the genitals. Strikes and slaps send waves and ripples through the skin and stimulate this fun area.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px;\"><strong>There are also emotional and psychological aspects of pain and pleasure.<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Submission <\/strong>&#8211; giving up control to another person<\/li><li><strong>Humiliation <\/strong>&#8211; a form of psychological pain<\/li><li><strong>Sexual objectification<\/strong> &#8211; the sexual value of the body as an object<\/li><li><strong>Role-playing<\/strong> &#8211; participating in sexual fantasies<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Now that we understand <em>why<\/em>, let\u2019s look at the <em>HOW<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-preparing-the-paddle\"><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 26px;\">PREPARING THE PADDLE<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is much to do before someone should even tug on panties or boxers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 22px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>1. Bring&nbsp;up the subject<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With all healthy BDSM practices, communication is key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unless you\u2019ve established ground rules beforehand, diving into Happy Slap Land is not an option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your partner is more to the vanilla side or spanking hasn\u2019t been integrated into your sex arsenal, there\u2019s doubly more preparation involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whether you do this <em>carefully <\/em>or <em>bluntly<\/em> depends entirely on you and your significant other. Hopefully, your relationship already includes talks about sexual preferences or desires. If so, you can try something like, \u201cI hear a lot about spanking. I wonder what it would be like?\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve always wondered about (insert erotic fantasy here)\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your partner is already experienced in the world of kink, it might be as simple as, \u201cGod, I would love if you spanked me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>Next, comes the ground rules. <\/strong><\/span>After all, this kind of antics lands well past \u201clight play\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 22px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>2. Safe&nbsp;Words<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter what kind of kink you are into, <strong>you should have a safe&nbsp;word.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why? When we are role-playing, sometimes \u201cNo\u201d, \u201cDon\u2019t\u201d, or \u201cStop\u201d are part of the fantasy. However, if someone yells \u201cPINEAPPLE!\u201d it\u2019s a very clear signal that play needs to stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re not sure what word to choose, it can be anything that you normally wouldn\u2019t say, something easy to remember that pulls people out of the elation and makes them re-focus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px;\"><strong>Many couples opt for the \u201ctraffic light\u201d system: <\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong><span style=\"color: #27ae60;\">Green <\/span><\/strong>= <em>Give me more! I love it!<\/em><\/li><li><strong><span style=\"color: #f1c40f;\">Yellow <\/span><\/strong>= <em>I\u2019m nearing my limit. Something needs to be adjusted<\/em><\/li><li><strong><span style=\"color: #c0392b;\">Red <\/span><\/strong>= <em>STOP ALL PLAY!<\/em><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>In which case, the dominant should obey, immediately see to any emotional\/physical needs or problems, and communicate with their partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>WARNING: <\/strong><\/span>someone who does not respect a safety word, is NOT someone you should play with. Healthy BDSM play should always involve respect from both sides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>Want some other safe&nbsp;word ideas? Check out this article:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/bdsm-blog\/good-safe-words\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Good Safe Words and Uses in Media<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 22px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>3. With great spanking comes great responsibility<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are the &#8220;Top&#8221; in this delightful situation, you shouldn\u2019t only focus on that delicious bum. You need to pay attention to their <em>whole <\/em>body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are they squirming like a happy worm or squirming like a worm who isn\u2019t enjoying the experience?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It can take<strong> time to learn your partner\u2019s pain thresholds<\/strong> and familiarize yourself with their reactions. If you\u2019re not sure, it\u2019s OKAY to ask things like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>\u201cAre you alright?\u201d <\/em><\/li><li><em>\u201cDo you like it?\u201d <\/em><\/li><li><em>\u201cDo you want it harder or softer?\u201d <\/em><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Communication is key,<\/strong> and it\u2019s perfectly acceptable to tell each other what you like or don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-getting-the-scene-ready\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>GETTING THE SCENE READY<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>This includes anything that makes the environment and experience as pleasant as possible for both parties (including your frame of mind).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>Turn off the phone<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing pulls someone out of the mood more than Mexican Hat Dance blasting through the room while you&#8217;re propped against the table with your underwear around your ankles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>Take it off<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This means\u00a0all rings, watches, bracelets, etc. Hitting with those is NOT fun, and nobody wants an imprint of your college football ring on their ass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>Prepare any tools<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;If you haven\u2019t filled your toy chest yet, there are lots of things around the house that work just fine (<em>spatulas, rulers, paint sticks, elastic bands, hairbrushes, etc<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, you will use your hands, but different tools give different sensations and there might be a couple in there that drives him\/her wild. Try<em> paddles, floggers, whips, or canes.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>NOTE:<\/strong><\/span> make sure you practice with them ahead of time &#8211; on a pillow is best.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t forget that blindfolds, restraints, even ball gags can be added into play to spice things up even more. However, if you use a ball-gag, verbal communication won\u2019t be possible. You will have to agree on a <strong>non-verbal form of a safe\u00a0word.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A FUN THING TO TRY<\/strong>: Make one partner get things ready while the other watches. Sit back with a non-alcoholic refreshment while your \u201cspankee\u201d scrambles to make things perfect. OR, The \u201cspanker\u201d could slowly put things in place while their partner sits, lies down, even kneels while awaiting the act. Anticipation can be just as sexy as the act itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>Erotic Spanking falls within the BDSM category. Learn more here:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lovense.com\/bdsm-blog\/what-is-bdsm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">What is BDSM? Essential Concepts for Beginners<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-location-location-location\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Will you begin with a hot and heavy make-out session on the sofa or grab them by the hair, pin them to the table, and go straight to business? Do you prefer the comfort of the bedroom or is the coffee table a sexy spot? Maybe restraints are on the menu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whether bent over furniture, on the bed, or over your knee &#8211;<strong> anywhere is acceptable as long as both of you are comfortable<\/strong> and the spanker can reach key areas with ease (pillows are great for propping things up and giving support).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You also don\u2019t have to stay in one place the <em>entire <\/em>time. Different positions will stretch or relax the skin, making each slap a different sensation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>STRETCH BEFORE RUNNING<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>We should always warm-up before exercising, and the same goes for spanking. Begin with light caresses, kisses, or a massage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you are sure his\/her ass is ready, start with some light slaps. This will get the blood flowing, skin ready, and muscles relaxed, which is essential to a pleasant experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing ruins the moment more than going too hard and too fast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Another thing to keep in mind is WHERE ON THE BODY to spank.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Always, ALWAYS, keep to&nbsp;the &#8220;meatiest&#8221;&nbsp;part of the bum (the lower part) &#8211; anywhere else risks damage and can be considered outside the &#8220;safe, sane, and consensual&#8221; rule.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are a couple areas away from the golden zone that are acceptable, but you should never spend too much time there, be extra cautious, and avoid using too much power. <em>See the picture below for a better idea.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When the backside is nice and pink, then it\u2019s time to break out the big guns and <em>really <\/em>make them squeal with delight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>NOTE<\/strong>:<\/span> Many rules still apply when you use spanking as a BDSM punishment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>Punishment Spankings not your cup of tea? Get other ideas here:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/bdsm-blog\/bdsm-punishment-ideas\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">45 BDSM Punishment Ideas<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left\"><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-one-spank-two-spanks-three-spanks-more\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>ONE SPANK, TWO SPANKS, THREE SPANKS, MORE!<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve just passed Erotic Spanking 101. You now have the know-how and tools to go forth and fill the world with pink bottoms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>HAND POSITIONS<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Open palm with fingers together, open palm with fingers spread, cupped hand, fists. All of them create different sensations but remember to watch your partner\u2019s reactions and adjust accordingly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>STINGS (SPEED &amp; SURFACE) <\/strong>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These are shallow strikes felt on the surface of the skin which come from fast movements confined to a small area. These burn and can leave behind lines and welts (if you do it hard enough). Toys can include <em>canes, braided floggers,<\/em> or anything that adds to <em>velocity<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>THUDS (FORCE &amp; DEPTH)&nbsp;<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These are deeper strikes over a wider area and the opposite of stings. They ripple right through\u00a0the muscles\u00a0but may leave bruises that last longer. Accomplished by: <em>heavier paddles, mop floggers, thick straps, or the palm of your hand.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>OTHER SENSATIONS<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It doesn\u2019t have to be something out of a corporal punishment scene &#8211; like a bad student bent over the teacher&#8217;s knee, getting a hard smacking for cheating on a test \u2026 although that can be fun too. Strikes can be mixed up with <em>caressing, tickling, pinching, scratching<\/em>, or (my personal favorite) <em>grabbing a handful of ass<\/em> right after a strike. Some paddles have a soft side you can run along the skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Try a <em>rabbit fur flogger <\/em>(their softness alone is orgasmic). If you\u2019re using a hairbrush, run the bristle side along the skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>RHYTHM<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We can make all the jokes we like about percussion instruments, but spanking the derriere can be like playing the drums. Work with fast and slow strikes to change things and keep your partner on their toes (or back\u2026or knees).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>REMEMBER:<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/span> And I will say this again and again &#8212; Watch them <em>carefully<\/em>. See what garners a positive reaction. They might exclusively prefer soft slaps, or they could revel in deep thuds. Some people enjoy a mix. Things can also change session to session.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Change is allowed. It\u2019s all good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-aftercare\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>AFTERCARE<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>There is a good chance you might want to jump into other \u201cactivities\u201d after &#8211; you\u2019ll both be turned on after all (at least if you\u2019ve done it right). But never forget to <strong>close the scene with some aftercare.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Was it your first time or are you a veteran? What is a big session or a brief one? What kind of care you deliver depends entirely on the kind of session you just had. It could be anything from a long conversation about what worked and what didn\u2019t (for both parties), to a quick kiss and cuddle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe they need some water, a bit of chocolate, some aloe vera, or muscle cream. Perhaps the only way they can come down from the body\u2019s chemical high is good, long cry and you need to hold them&nbsp;close.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Nobody should ever just \u201cwalk away\u201d from a scene.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-a-handy-review-list\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>A HANDY REVIEW LIST<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>THINGS TO DO<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Communicate before, during, and after<\/li><li>Practice with your tools beforehand and on a pillow<\/li><li>Test your tools on yourself to learn their intensity<\/li><li>Choose a safety word<\/li><li>Watch body language<\/li><li>Deliver aftercare<\/li><li>Have a medical kit on-hand<\/li><li>Remember: it\u2019s not about how hard you want to hit, it\u2019s how hard <em>they <\/em>want you to hit<\/li><li><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #d70072;\"><strong>THINGS NOT TO DO<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Begin too hard too fast<\/li><li>Hit too hard or frequently<\/li><li>Play if someone has bleeding disorders or is on medication that affects bleeding<\/li><li>Hit near the spine, kidneys, or other vital organs<\/li><li>Overdo it &#8211; permanent damage is a no-no<\/li><li><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-ending-on-an-important-note\"><span style=\"font-size: 26px; color: #d70072;\"><strong>ENDING ON AN IMPORTANT NOTE<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Fear can often stop us from exploring the unknown, but don\u2019t be afraid to try new things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>However<\/em>, if you try something and don\u2019t enjoy it, you do <em>not <\/em>have to do it again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not like choking back your mother\u2019s cooking or enduring a crappy job &#8211; there\u2019s no obligation to continue with something you don\u2019t love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Erotic spanking (and other kinky activities) might not be for you, and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If it is for you \u2026 your nights just got a whole lot hotter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-white-color has-vivid-cyan-blue-background-color has-text-color has-background\">Anything you want to add? 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