{"id":141,"date":"2015-04-29T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-04-29T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.lovenselife.com\/uncategorized\/sex-party-tips"},"modified":"2025-08-11T07:19:36","modified_gmt":"2025-08-11T07:19:36","slug":"sex-party-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lovense.com\/sex-blog\/kink-bdsm\/sex-party-tips","title":{"rendered":"Sex Party Tips – Finding Them & What to Do There"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Adult x-rated parties can be intimidating events. But this simple sex party tips guide will help you navigate the steamy waters so you can sit back and enjoy – or whatever position you prefer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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FIRST THINGS FIRST<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Despite what people might think, finding <\/em>kinky parties really isn’t that <\/em>difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s getting into them<\/strong> that (for the most part) requires some work, especially if you’re new to the scene and are unaware of the protocol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’re going to find yourself sitting on the outskirts – much like an awkward teen at the school dance trying to figure out how to ask the hot girl\/guy to dance. And it might not be because it’s a bright, new, scary world for you. Perhaps you’ve moved to another country, even just a new city.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless, the rules stay the same…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to prove you’re not a weirdo <\/strong>(at least the bad kind).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite what far too many people might think, these are not <\/em>places where any randy individual can walk in, pick the first warm body, and do whatever they want. They are gatherings where people can shed their outer facades, relax, and be their truly kinky-self without judgment or danger<\/em>. They are safe havens.<\/strong> And what they don’t want is someone barging in with no respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“I promise I’m not a creep. How do I get in?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first step is a simple one…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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SEX PARTY TIPS: JOIN A MUNCH<\/h2>\n\n\n
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These are relaxed, vanilla gatherings of like-minded people (whether BDSM, fetish, swingers, etc.) in some public place, often a restaurant or pub. They are the heartbeat<\/strong> of the community<\/strong> and the best place to find out about upcoming events<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clothing is normal, everyday wear – no fetish or over-the-top sexy. If you’re not sure, just wear what you would put on for a nice night out to the movies or dinner. There are also no scenes or playing, so don’t expect anything to happen. At most, someone might try some teasing, but it still needs to be consensual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You go there, mingle, hang out, and talk. It’s where you let your personality shine through and have your name be known among the regulars. Join a couple of those and you’ll most likely get an invitation to another event.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Where can I find these magical places?”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Word of mouth is a common method, but if you don’t have any kinky friends in-the-know, the internet is your best friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some examples…<\/p>\n\n\n

SEX PARTY TIPS: SIGN UP ON SITES LIKE FETLIFE<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Unfortunately, this social networking group gets a bad rap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s SUPPOSED <\/strong>to be a networking site for people to discuss relevant topics, chit-chat, have a public profile that lets people know what you’re about and what you like, and announce events<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every barrel has the inevitable bad apples that drag down the reputation of all the other apples around it. You can get the “bad” pervs and abusers … or worse – the ones that don’t think the rules apply to them, don’t respect the people around them, and just use the site to find free sex or someone to slap around and ignore the safety word because they think “real” BDSM shouldn’t have such things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

See why people have munches, screening process, and references before an actual invitation<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good news is there are plenty <\/em>of decent, caring, delightful FetLife people<\/strong> who work hard to fight against bad members. These groups are the ones you want to get into. Search through Fetlife for parties in your area.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Want have more fun in the party? Get your app-controlled adult toys!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n